her ex bf just stopped by unannounced?

Question

she dated him a few years ago. dont hardly ever talked over the few years. The last time she talked to him was before we started dating. he contacted her last week by IM. Yesterday, he just stopped by unannounced. He was there for about 15 minutes. She told me, and i asked her if she talked about us? she said no, it didnt come up. Though she had sunburn, and when he asked her about it, she said she was at a tournament, my tournament, but admitted to me she purposely left me out of it. i asked her why, and she said she didnt want to throw it in his face. Please help me understand?

Answer 1

RED FLAG! Just think, if you know now ONE of the things she didn't tell him... what ELSE did SHE NOT TELL HIM... OR DID TELL HIM... or TELL YOU... or NOT TELL YOU!

Answer 2

To be blunt, you are considered inferior to her ex in her eyes. She can tell you all kinds of details about there previous relationship but not even bring you up in conversation with him. I think you already know the answer. The guy contacts your girl via IM and sounds to me like she didn't mention being involved with anyone if he just showed up unannounced the next week. Com'on and to add insult to injury, she didn't mention to him about being at your tournament. Her excuse doesn't play out. If you guys haven't been dating long, you should end things just for the disrespect she's shown you in being immature and irresponsible towards you about this.

Answer 3

she definitely doesnt want to throw it in his face, but because she likes the attention from him and might still harbor some feelings for him. enough time has gone by since she dated him that she should be able to tell him that she was with her current boyfriend's tournament without it being a slap in the face. im also skeptical that they hardly talk at all. my ex's have contacted me a lot, but i just dont tell my boyfriend because it would make him suspicious or jealous. most likely, you just happened to find out about it this time because she would feel guilty hiding a 15 minute visit from you.

Answer 4

It sounds to me like she's not over him. From what I read, it's obvious that she doesn't respect you enough to stand up for your guys' relationship. It doesn't matter if it's her ex or not she's talking to; to purposely leave you out of a story is wrong and sounds fishy. You need to confront her about this if you're serious about her. Don't let her neglect your feelings and treat you this way.

Answer 5

you didnt say how long you two have been dating? how serious is this relationship? if you are not that involved maybe she still has feelings for her ex.ask her.maybe she didnt want to hurt his feelings cause she still cares for him,you can understand that but if he comes around or calls again she must tell him about you.it would be wrong to give him false hope if she is with you.good luck.

Answer 6

hmmn that is not right man.... she's hiding something from you.
maybe she still secretly wanting him back or something.... If i'm the one in your shoes i'd sit her down and talk to her heart to heart and settle this matter. *don't want to throw it in his face?? dude man he's her bf what's to throw?!? you guys are together now... she should be a bit more on fire coz she's got you.

Answer 7

Sounds like she is considerate of everyone's feelings. You are lucky to have someone who thinks of others feelings.

Answer 8

i dont understand her. just keep an eye on her

Answer 9

ummmmm maybe theres something wrong wit her

Answer 10

i dont understand.