i really really want to know!!!!!!!!!!!!! please tell me why people think the following:?

Question

why do people say that the Church (Catholic to be more precise) thinks that sex is evil or bad??

i'm a Catholic Christian (yes those words can be used in the same sentence) and i was never taught that sex is evil. i've learned that misusing sex is evil, but sex itself is a good and holy act when done in an appropriate context, which is as a unitive act of marriage and when the couple are open to life....that's what MY church teaches!!!

it gets me kinda mad when people say that the church says otherwise. can somebody clarify these thoughts so that i may understand your perspective?

i think that some of you misunderstood my question. i am against sex before marriage, you dont' need to tell me that, but i was wondering why people think that the church teaches sex is bad, when they teach that it's good in the right context (marriage). some of you have answered that so far.

Answer 1

It's a misplaced stereotype. Catholics emphasize purity and many attempt to exaggerate this to make Catholicism sound ridiculous.

Answer 2

I am glad that you are not being taught that sex itself is evil. I like you, believe that the misuse of sex is evil but sex is beautiful (in the right context of marriage).

Yes, I must confess that I consider the Catholic Church's views to be off the mark on the issue of sex at least when it comes to leaders in the Church. Don't get me wrong, there are many things I admire about the Catholic church and they spread the gospel to alot of places throughout the centuries. For this and other things I am grateful to them. And no church is perfect, including my own.

Where I disagree is in the fact that they insist any leader in the church must be cellibate (spelling?). Nuns, Priest, and the Pope all cannot marry. I Timothy 4:3 shows how this is wrong. If the Catholics are not disobeying this particular scripture I think they come dangerously close to it. Celibacy is elevated in the scriptures but it seems to always be presented as a personal choice and that some people have that gift and others don't. But they were never denied being leaders because they did'nt have that gift (of being content unmarried and celibate). Deacons and Elders HAD to be married (1 Timothy 3). The Apostles could marry as well (1 Corin. 9:5). I hope this clarifies. Good luck my friend.

Answer 3

Except
(A) Priests and nuns can't marry, and thus cannot have sex. They also cannot masturbate. And this is seen as a vow to give God something, to sacrifice something... and that has led to disastrous results.
(B) The Catholic Church, for many, many years, has noted that the primary purpose of sex is to ... survey says... Produce More Catholics!!!! So sex with birth control is bad (why? because it can't fulfill sex's primary purpose) even with married couples. Any sex that doesn't result in a man's semen inside a woman (oral, withdrawal, masturbation) is bad.
(C) Any sort of "unnatural" sex is bad. That means man on top (remember the missionaries who saw natives do doggie style and force them to change sex positions?? Come on!), penis in vagina, nothing extra.
(D) And the people giving advice about this stuff-- mostly VIRGINS!

Look at all the GUILT, SHAME, and RESTRICTION on the natural act of making love!!! And placing childbirth over the act as a manner of expressive love (because if expressing love solely was OK, then birth control would be OK... mutual masturbation would be OK)
I agree that Catholocisim (either as taught today or as taught traditionally) did not consider sex bad but only misuse of sex as bad.. but that "misuse" was so widespread over sex acts that there's hardly anything left for good. That's the perspective.

Kayla's answer is a prime example:

" Sex is not bad it is blessed in a marriage in the eyes of GOD. God delights in the fact that we enjoy each other. Unmarried sex is a sin. "

So, God "delights" in our enjoyment of each other. Unless we use birth control. Or unless we do it in the butt... or orally... or masturbate. Then, not only does God not "delight," but we have sinned against God.
(Also note that missionary is the least likely position to give a woman an orgasm ... so really what we're saying is God "delights" when guys get off...)

For most people sex is sex... and PIV, Guy-on-Top Missionary cannot be separated out from other forms of intercourse (with birth control, even in marriage). When the restrictions on sex become so crazy (not just when you're married, but with all of the restriction's I've mentioned above) the inevitable conclusion is that the Church doesn't like sex.

P.S. You asked for the perspective, not whether I'm right.

Answer 4

It's just that most sex that happens is without intent of pregnancy, and a lot of people don't like being told that's bad. For example, my husband and I are done having children, because we have the size of family we are comfortable supporting - but according to Catholocism, it's bad now for us to have sex using birth control! Like we're supposed to stop until I go through menopause? Outrageous!

How can sex possibly be evil, just because we don't want any more children? What can possibly be hurt by it? We're acting responsibly. We're married, faithful, monogamous adults. The only requirement we aren't fitting is that we aren't open to any more new life. Why does that make us evil, to continue doing what we've been doing for years and years but just now we don't want any more babies to come of it?

So it's not that I think the Church says sex is evil or bad, only that MOST sex is. And I also think it's wrong.

Answer 5

What's wrong with two people who love each other having sex, or two men, ot two women. While "evil" might be a strong word, there is a general negativity that surrounds sex in Catholism.

There are a lot of negative aspects of sex, but a lot of it is due to stigma brought on by old texts, and conservative ways. I'm not suggesting wild orgies for everyone, just that education is the key.

Answer 6

Sex, when in marriage is a holy thing created by God, when you use sex outside of marriage it is against Gods law, also lot of problems you can face when having sex outside marriage, you get to know the person for maybe 2 weeks, 3 weeks, you have intercourse with them, they start having feeling for you, but maybe the other person doesn't want that type of thing, it cause huge emotional rifts, depression, even eventually you begin to feel worthless, I think that is the reason God created it strictly for Marriage, it is a unity thing and it is beautiful, whether others think otherwise.

Answer 7

God, and a woman, and a man, make an agreement to get married, which is to have sexual intercourse, which is what a marriage truly is. The least that can be done would be to check,and see if God has more info, about your possible heart thrust. Blessed sex is the best sex I think.

Answer 8

Married Sex is a blessing, Paul taught that not having Sex is a way of being Christchian but isn't mandatory, DON'T believe these lies for it is a deciever and an antichrist. Any queastions?, e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 9

You are a little vague. Are you saying sex should only happen in marriage? I grew up Catholic and that was my understanding. It was pure and simple, you have to be married.

Answer 10

Strawmen are always easier targets than the real thing. That's why people say the church is anti-sex.