one likes the other, but the feelings aren't mutual? Because my closest female friend found out that I really like her a lot, but apparently doesn't feel the same way. She became really distant for a few days, but last night I talked to her and told her that it's ok if she doesn't like me like that, and that I don't want things to become awkward between us. After that she seems to be back to normal, but idk if we'll go back to being the way we were. Was telling her that I don't want things to be awkward the right thing to do? Is there anything I should be doing now? I need advice, preferably from females!!
2007-05-15 11:47:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yea dude you did the right thing... if you didnt tell her how you felt then thats showing that your not an honest friend and that means you have zero chance of ever getting her. second telling her made her aware that you are a possibility for you and if you give it some time it may work out for you.
2007-05-15 11:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by Matt 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are always complicated....I think telling her that you don't want things to be awkward was a good thing to do. Now what you have to do is go back to the way things were.
Just to let you know...my closest friend is a guy...we've been great friends for about 20 years now...have gone to each others weddings and are now enjoying watching each others families grow. So yes close friendships between opposite genders can remain close through all kinds of ups and downs.
Good luck
2007-05-15 18:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing. now, all you have to do is hold up your end of the bargain and be cool with things the way that they were and that will be the way that they are. It's a tough situation but if you love someone regardless of whether friend or lover you do what you need to do to be in each others lives. might have been harder if you went for it for a little while and then discovered that one of you didn't see the other that way. But that would have just been a different scenario to work out. It'll be fine and things will work out the way they are meant to as long as you keep communicating.
2007-05-15 18:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if she's acting cool with it, it'll remain cool as long as you don't push the issue. I've been in your situation, me being a female with guy friends, it's possible to happen. I think actually and I might be wrong but she probably already knew. Women have that intuition about stuff like that. She probably thought about it and that's what the time in between was for. But now that it is in the open maybe someday she'll change her mind, because she'll never forget...hope all goes well for you...
2007-05-15 18:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by emro752005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for letting her know and being big enough to talk about it afterwords. Telling her was the best option because talking about it makes things a little less awkward. In time your relationship may bounce back to what it was, and mostly because of your approach to settling the air. There isn't really anything to do now except try to get over her and go on living. Good luck!
2007-05-15 18:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Mandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you make it awkward it should be fine. If you tell her how you feel 14 times its probably going to cause some problems. Let it go for now, and if you ends up liking you she'll come around. but again having some experience in this area, do not tell her more than once. then all of her other friends will make fun of you!
2007-05-15 18:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All relationships advance in some way, whether they're friendships or intimate relationships. They never remain constant, and they never move backward. Things are going to change, they have to. Those changes may be good or bad, who knows, only time will tell. BUT they'll never be the same again.
2007-05-15 18:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think tellin' her that was appropriate, that way she knows you want things to be as normal as they can, which may take a little time. As long as remain respectful of her feelings then eventually things should become somewhat normal again.
2007-05-15 18:50:30 · answer #8 · answered by Girly-Girl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your biggest mistake was telling her that it's ok if she doesn't like you like that. The truth is, it does matter. It's going to eat you alive when you're hanging out together and you just can't figure out for the life of you why she hasn't fallen for you. This will continue until you repeat yourself like a broken record and get rejected repeatedly.
This will go on until you find someone that you like more than her. Your friendship will never be the same.
Good luck to you.
2007-05-15 18:51:22 · answer #9 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it usually takes time to get things back to normal and everone is back to the same thinking. Give it a month and see what happens
2007-05-15 18:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by David B re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋