He means a lot to me, We have broken up once or twice before but not for a long time. He is very atractive, and that's what draws so much attention to him, but I hate when other women(girls) talk to him. I need help on dealing with him and his imaturity, and all these girls!!
2007-05-15 10:57:44 · 30 answers · asked by Trina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-05-15 11:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by shannon_yo7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself this: Is he really the right person I want to be with? If not, then leave him. Find a smarter guy. There are smart and attractive guys out there, believe me. So, try not to think just because he is so attractive and other girls like him, you have to be with him. I mean he's not worth it if your smart. Even if he means a lot you have to let go of things sometimes. Your relationship isn't gonna last forever if he stays immature like that. But, if you love him, then I guess you could talk to him. Tell him the truth, what you feel or things will never change. Do it now or your life is gonna suck if you marry an immature guy....
2007-05-15 18:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kali 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend, (now husband), use to be like that. I just gave him his space for a week or so and he finally came to his sences. I told him how I felt about him being so childish, he took what I said to heart and started to grow up. He had no choice...it was either grow up or find someone else to be with. Note (I was pregnant at the time)... so I gave him the choice of paying child support or being with me and acting like he had some sence. Just give him some time to come around, after a while he will get tired of not getting your attention and he will come back. He likes the attention from other girls because he knows he looks good...but the truth is...he can't have everyone. Sooner or later he will grow out of this and want to be up your butt all the time.
2007-05-15 18:06:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tiffany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would make a list (either on paper or in your head) of all the things that you like about him & all the things that you dislike about him. If your "dislike" list is longer than your "like" list than you need to face that it is over & break up with him. If your "like" list is longer than your "dislike" list then take action to fix the problems that you have listed on the "dislike" side.
Talk to him about the immaturity & the other girls. See what he says & how he feels. Maybe he doesn't even realize what is going on, & that it bothers you.
And about his looks...you can't change the way he looks, so if his good looks are a problem for you all you can do about it is improve your own looks until you are confident enough to not be bothered.
If things don't eventually improve, or if he responds negatively from the beginning, then you may have to end it.
As long as your will to stay is stronger than your will to leave you have to assume that you still care about him, & that the best you can do is continue to work on your relationship's problems.
As for the other girls, you can either ignore them & be confident that they are not a threat, or you can try to talk to them. Calmly & maturely let them know that you don't like the way they act around your boyfriend. They to may not realize that they were causing you problems. The other option is that they may act out & cause drama about it, but as long as you handle yourself calmly & respectably all their drama is going to do is eliminate them as a threat to your relationship.
2007-05-15 18:19:47 · answer #4 · answered by penguin_clover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can definately relate to this issue. You guys have been dating for 2 years now... I have been "dating" my girlfriend now for about 5 years. I myself am immature and i totally understand where your coming from. What your going to need to do is sit down and talk with him about where you see yourselves in a certain amount of time. Be serious, make it known to him how serious you are. Chances are youll get something good out of the conversation. Now if nothing changes you have to be strong and move away. Its hard, i know, but its the only way he will know how serious you are. Its going to take time, but in the end love prevails. Good luck!
2007-05-15 18:08:51 · answer #5 · answered by soobielover26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see First you have to sit down and talk like two adults. Tell him how you feel about his immaturity and also how you feel about him talking to females. You also Might Be overracting and be a little jealous. So there might be a few things you might wanna check . Maybe your insecure or scared of losing him and that makes you upset when he talks with other females. Just take the adult way and try talking it out. Because if you dont tell him how you feel he will never know.
good Luck
2007-05-15 18:02:40 · answer #6 · answered by sincerness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to make him grow up faster than he is ready to so give him time on that. Boy mature slower then Women.
About those girls...... you need to sit down with your boyfriend and have a serious conversation and let him know what bothers you. Try to shake the jealous feelings you have when you are out and girls are attracted to him, turn it into a positive and be proud that you are with him and he LOVES YOU. Relax and enjoy your man!! Trust me he will grow up!!
2007-05-15 18:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you like him for the outside and not the inside. If he's too immature for you, kick him to the curb. Obviously you are looking for someone who's more on your level. Trust me, there are soooo many guys out there who aren't only hot, but are mature and can focus on what's most important: you. Two years IS a long time, but depending on your age, you might want to start thinking about the future. You don't want to be stuck with a guy you can't stand forever!!!
2007-05-15 18:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by jessica72487 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience he might be prince charming but until he stops being immature you are always gonna fight and he is always gonna get on your nerves. And as for the women, that will always be a problem because he is attractive so if you want to be with him get over that he is immature and get used to the women because unless you can lock him in your closet for ever women will always be attracted to an attractive man GOOD Luck!!!
2007-05-15 18:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by *Krys* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you need to have a sit down with your man and tell him your feelings and if he laughs it off...you take a final walk without looking back because you will never change him. You will live forever frustrated and he will love every minute of the compliments and you being jealous. See the forest for the trees girlfriend!
2007-05-15 18:02:38 · answer #10 · answered by B2thaD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense but from what you are saying it's you with the maturity problem. Only an immature person stays with someone that isn't right for them. Only an immature person gets mad over other girls talk to him. Only an immature person is so shallow to talk about how attractive he is.
This is not a "him" problem, but a "you" one.
2007-05-15 18:02:56 · answer #11 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋