would it be ok with you?

Question

if your neighbors are home all day ALONE while their children are at school and you are home with a 1 yr old all day. then when your 4 and 7 yr old get home from school, the other kids parents just let their children come over EVERYDAY , ALL EVENING for me to tend too. they never ask or call, they just come. I never see parents checking on them or anything, its just up to me to watch them, it just doesnt seem fair to me that I am the one with the kids 24/7. what do you think? shouldnt they at least take a turn?

ha! i have said that I was gonna put a sign in the yard and say 6 an hour and if i dont know ya, its 10!

dont get the wrong idea ,I do make them clean up their messes. these dont knock, they just go to the yard and sit, like its their own. and i have started treating them like they are my own, if they dont like it, then they can definitely go home and tell mommy!

Answer 1

Simply send them home. I know that you want your kids to have friends but don't get taken advantage of. Considering the situation though, would you want your kids at their house knowing that they wouldn't be watched properly? But I completely understand how tiring that is. Taking care of a 1 yo and then 4 or 5 more kids after school. Having to get dinner ready while tending that. Stressful. You should have a talk with the other parents. I'm sure they don't know it stresses you out.

Answer 2

Yes, i agree!

Tell the children that you love them, and take them back home for the first few times. If their parents still don't get the message, they will have to find their kids off the street. Your neighbors are definitely taking advantage on you because you just keep their kids all evening.

Take turn? hey i don't' trust those parents to baby sit my children when they don't even call or find their kids all evening.

You don't' have to take responsibility for anyone who show up without advance notice and not in your wish. Having the kid to call their parent at your place first then tell them to go home, making sure that their parent know that their kid isn't with you anymore and you aren't responsible for anything happen to them while they are out on the street.

Answer 3

I watch my grand kids just 2 days a week and they tire me out. I love them would do anything for them. However watching some one Else's kids on a daily basis in not how I would spend my evening. You have your own kids to watch. I would set a time for the visit to end. I would also send them home at the door if it isn't in your plans that night to have company of any age. If they take turns in watching your children then that would be different. However that is not what I am reading. If they aren't family send them packing and play with your own. This is really a good thing. You get to spend more time with your own kids and you get to teach them what you want them to learn not your neighbors kids.

Answer 4

yeah that's bull sh*t!!! I say you just close and lock your doors for a few days. Eventually, the other parents will get the hint, and hopefully they'll be nice and ask you what's wrong. Just tell your kids that you're not feeling well and can't keep watching the other kids every single day, then tell the other kids the same thing, make them go home and tell them that they're parents can call and talk to you about it if they want. :o)
good luck to you!!

Answer 5

Yes, it would bother me.

I would tell one of the mothers that I'm just so exhausted and, although I do like the children being around, I was thinking that it would be nice if we all took turns. Could I send the children your way a couple nights a week.

They're enjoying the luxury of having the kids gone and you're having to take on all the burden. Maybe they don't realize what a toll it's taking on you, but they should.

Answer 6

that would NOT be ok with me lol, once a week would be ok so the kids could play but not every day....try talking to them about the kids going to their house, or maybe say "sorry i cant watch them today i have a few aarons to run" or something along those lines, if they dont then just dont answer the door!! lol but yea i def think you should take turns, or if your with the kids 24/7 and theyre out having a good time then ask them to pay you

Answer 7

get a higher fence and use a lock, if at all possible.

its a big liability to let children into your yard. i know u didn't invite them but according to the law, u r responsible for what happens on your property. if a child falls down and u r screwed.

gently, but sternly tell the children to go home when u don't want them there or send them home when u think its enough.

do not feed these kids because u don't know if they have diabetes or food allergies.

Answer 8

I don't have kids yet, but I would definitely not stand for it. Maybe you should go over and talk to them to see if they could take your kids and yall switch up. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but it doesn't hurt to try. It just depends on the class your neighbors are on how they would handle it. If they refuse, you might have to stop letting your kids have them over. Good luck!

Answer 9

well maybe just tell the children that they need to go home, if u have to get rude about it then go ahead. They are children, they will forget about it and move on. but sometimes you just have to say something! Otherwise they parents will remain clueless and so will the kids, if you need a break then tell them.

good luck and just do what you feel is necessary.

Answer 10

You need to say something.Cause thier not your kids.Really what if something happens while you watch them??Who is going to blame??YOU!I would also look into calling CPS cause that isn't the thing to do now a days.There are too many perves out there.I mean they feel ok with it cause they are going over to your house.But what if you didn't live next door?Would they still let thier kids all night?