Should i offer him help?

Question

The guy i like has very bad english and avoids lectures and classes all the time, this can`t last much longer or he could drop out of college...
english is not our native tongue and i lived in America for some time so i speak much better...
he`s been avoiding classes for some time and he doesn`t want to have a presentation...i think he is embarassed to speak...so would it be a good idea to offer him help with english, my friend says he would probably be embarassed too, but i think there is nothing to be embarassed of, it can be done...
what do u think? is it a good idea? i am asking because i really like him and he likes me too, but i don`t wanna make a wrong move now.
thx

yes, moe I would help anyone who needs help ,not just this guy...

Answer 1

Go with your gut and help the guy, if you like him, he would open up to you. It's not good to be dropping out of college.

Answer 2

I think it would be a great gesture for you to offer him some help learning English and helping him with his lecture. You will need to make it clear what your intentions are up front though. You do not want to give him the wrong signals. If you want more than his friendship. That is by all means great. But if this is just a generous deed let him know up front what the intentions are. He could think your making a pass at him otherwise. Good Luck - Mark

Answer 3

Yes, you should offer him help. Be up front and honest. But you and he should face the fact that he probably should not yet be in college. Maybe you can help him figure out an exit strategy that leaves the door open for him to return. Perhaps he should focus on English classes until he feels more comfortable. But really, what is the point in trying to learn History or Biology in English if you don't understand English. He should focus ALL his effort on English until he masters the language. good luck

Answer 4

In my opinion I think there is nothing wrong with offering the help I would just tell him I know you might be uncomfortable in a class setting so what do you think if I try to teach you? Then there would be no one to ridicule him if that is what he is afraid of. My mother in law is from Yucatan and already spoke a little bit of English when I started dating my now husband, I spoke no Spanish (still now I only know a couple of words almost 10yrs later lol) she asked me for help to understand and use English words the right way. It can be VERY frustrating but with patience it WILL be worth it in the long run just sit down and talk to him seriously. I hope everything works out for the best and hope this helps with your decision. Good luck and follow your heart. G

Answer 5

Offer him options-- like a tutor or aide for the classes, and provide moral support. Let him know that it is ok that he is having trouble with speaking in front of groups--- many people do. Be supportive as a friend, but don't step on his toes by trying to teach him or tutor him. This might hurt his ego and drive him away. Ask him out for coffee and have a good conversation. This will help him practice English.

Answer 6

I think that offering someone help is always a good idea if done with tact and without ulterior motives, Maybe he will be embarrassed, recognize this with him to overcome short term embarrassment for the long term benefits of being able to communicate and express himself in an adequat manner. Finnally he will be proud of himself and his accomplishment.

Good luck and take care

Answer 7

well i say he would be embarrassed and if you went up to him and asked him does he need help he could get more embarrassed or take it the wrong way like as if your looking down on him or something but ya make your move if he gets bad just tell him your only trying to help like it is the truth . is he a very popular kid then he probably woudlnt mind but if hes a shy type he would be embarrassed

Answer 8

You're not making a wrong move,you're offering to help with his English. If he's from another country and going to college here,he better pass his grades or he will be deported.

Answer 9

offering your help is a positive thing ,maybe he needs help and doesn't know who to ask and feels embarrassed to ask maybe if you let him know your willing he'll be appreciative and you can always go out for coffee and do lots of English talking during your times out get to know each other through English :) sounds good to me. I think he may need the offer of help. Go for it !!

Answer 10

Just hang out with him and then casually bring up your class work and ask him if he'd like to study with you and if he'd be willing to be a study partner. That way, you could help him as well.

Everybody needs a study partner.

Don't blatantly say that you want to help him because you think he might not do well.....or something like that......that's the last think you should do.