2007-05-15 10:04:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes, my friends had a cocktail reception where they only served drinks, cake, and finger foods. it was very class, no one thought twice about it, and it saved them a fortune!
2007-05-15 10:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by no clue 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This question would make Dear Abby or whoever-the-etiquette queen is wince! It is your wedding after all, but if you're going to invite them to part of it, they should be invited to all.
However, if the cake and drinks are right after the wedding, and the dinner does not come in between the two (which it probably does) then it would be okay, as they wouldn't know. But if they're minglers, someone somewhere will let it slip that there is a dinner. If you expect them to buy you presents, you should shell out on them.
In most Jewish things (bar/bat mitzvahs and weddings) it's a whole weekend affair. There will be a dinner Friday night for out-of-towners...nothing extravagant. The wedding is Saturday afternoon, with dinner following and the dancing after that.
But, thinking of manners, invite to all or invite to none.
2007-05-15 17:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, it wouldn't be a reception, it would only be a much briefer gathering to toast the newlyweds. Then later, the friend and family you've selected can get together for the dinner, or reception. I don't know how you'd word the invitations though, since most people have the epectation they'll be invited to a more formal meal- maybe you can ask a printer for suggestions.
2007-05-15 17:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a cake and drinks reception (hopefully you can put out some hors d'oeuvres as well), but what you cannot do is have two tiers of guests-- one set that gets to go to a dinner reception, and one set that only gets cake and drinks. If you're thinking of doing that, I guarantee that you will alienate everyone who is not included in the dinner reception. Don't even think about doing something like that.
2007-05-15 17:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Karin C 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you serve cake and punch immediatly following the ceremony and hold the reception later. Thus the two(1.wedding/cake,2.dinner reception)would be possible without conflict.(unless you didnt include your future mother-in-law for dinner,ouch)Seperate insert cards would accompany the inviations indicating the nature of the invitation.
2007-05-15 17:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by jimbo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You just have to pick a time of day in which you wouldn't have dinner, i.e. 2 p.m., or if it's a morning wedding, say like 11 a.m.
2007-05-15 17:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by happybirthday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, in that case ideal is to make the wedding in the morning (before noon) maybe and you can always state that on your invitation.
congratulations
2007-05-15 17:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Marisa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you can......invite them to the party in the evening...and give them cake and drinks then ..We do that all the time in the UK
2007-05-15 17:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by mags 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have a dinner, but if you do, you have to invite everyone. No dividing your guests into "first" and "coach".
2007-05-15 18:16:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've never heard of that
2007-05-15 17:10:14 · answer #10 · answered by Future Mrs. Hamlet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋