Stay or Go...?

Question

I met girl 3 days ago,been in pretty good text message contact since and have developed good understanding of each other.Girl did admit to being scared of further developments and i admit to really,really liking her.My immedaite plan was 2 move to London now dont know what 1 to do. Stay or go ? I was not looking to be with anyone, all i said to girl was do you mind if i sit here!

Answer 1

Well I would just GO...

.Why let someone hold you back? I mean she's not looking for a relationship and either are you, so you'd basically just be friends and nothing more.

.Now since you don't know her very well anyways and you've had your plans to move to London prior to meeting her, I don't think she is enough of a reason to cause a set back in those plans or to change them in any way.

.You should just go ahead with your move to London and start over down there, there are plenty of other girls who will enjoy your company just as much.

....Have fun in London (if you go) and I hope you make the right choice of whether to stay or go.

Answer 2

Three days of text messaging and now you are thinking about changing your plans? You don't say how invested you are in going to London. Maybe its not very important to you or maybe you are looking for a reason to stay where you are.

If London IS important, then you can stay in contact with the girl. You might have to email instead of texting, but is it really that much different? If you get to know each other really well, then you can decide what is more important at that time.

Wishing you the best!

Answer 3

I think you need to decide if you can make your plans to London in the future, you could stay and see what develops between the two of you. if you will not get this oportunity to go to London again. You may want to chose London and try a long distance friend ship. you are in the very beginning of a fague relationship. If it is to develop then it will with you in London or in the states. Don't give up an the chance to go to London, for a possibility to be friends with a girl. because she sopunds like she only wants to be friends.

Answer 4

The me from a couple hours ago would be to go. If you love her and want to be with her go and be with her, see what happens.

But now my advice is to stay. Don't let someone you don't even know screw up your entire life. Hell wait awhile, just be long distance friends. Besides if you do move there could be so many complications, one being she may already have a guy and if she says she doesn't she may just be yanking your chain.

My advice Stay. Live your life and if there's someone who walks in that doesn't completely throw you into a sea of horrific events, such as a new coworker, new neighbor, someone who you meet that lives in the same town. But don't just leave everything for her, at least not now.

Answer 5

Hi..Text messaging is ok..BUT not enough to really develop a relationship with someone.. Don't be so fast pack up and go! If there is a way for both of you to spend some weekends or days together, I think that would be better...Think about it, before moving to London so fast! Good Luck!

Answer 6

wait are you moving to london to be with this girl or are you moving there because you were planning to prior to meeting her? if it's the first one i would say stay because that's rushing it. and if it's the second one i would say go because you don't need to hold yourself back for someone you have only known 3 days. i wouldn't take her to account on any decisions you are making considering you barely know her and who knows where this could even go. choose what you want and continue to talk to her. if things go further and you guys end up together then great, but don't rush into something after 3 days especially if this girl is saying she is scared of things going further. just take it easy.

Answer 7

You should go...but stay in touch. As long as the two of you keep talking and expressing your feelings everything should be okay. Just make sure you put it out there if its going to be an exclusive relationship or non-exclusive...(I made that mistake once...) I cant help but wonder though...was this love at first sight? Does she feel the same way?...if so...why not go together...that'd be romantic. If the trip can wait...and you really want to get to know this girl...and you think she wont be a waste of time...then you should maybe stay (maybe...cuz its still up to you)...it'd be incredibly romantic though...well good luck...take care.

Answer 8

I think you really need to get to know this girl first before making any rash decisions. If you really like her and she likes you then you have plenty of time to move to London to be near her. Where do you live? How many miles away? Love does funny things. I left my ex and got straight into another relationship that is really solid now. I did want time to myself originally but if I didnt make the move, I may not have ended up with the wonderful bloke I am with now. Your heart will tell you what to do and its fate if youre meant to be with her. Good luck x

Answer 9

GO!
desperate much? Don't let a random stranger get in the way of your plans. What if she isn't "The One"? Then you'll have wasted your dreams to go to London for some woman who probably won't even remember your name in a month. If things really are heating up with her as you say, there's always the internet and telephone calls to keep in touch. Don't jump into anything too fast.

Answer 10

I would go you can still stay in touch with the girl via text,and see her at weekends if you can,i would'nt personally commit to anyone after three days especially if it meant turning down a opportunity that i may not get the chance to do again.