When I got married the first time around, my mum invited my future in laws to sit and discuss the wedding. All these years later, my son is getting married (tomorrow) and his new in laws have not even bothered to call us.
In fact like I posted else where we (my sons family) are not invited, do you think I should protest or let it slide, I know its late as the wedding is tomorrow. But Im so angry at them right now, I just wanted to know was I wrong in expecting them to contact me. This wedding happened so suddenly. Im still in a daze, Ive simply now just backed off.
2007-05-15 09:51:22 · 11 answers · asked by unity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
NOOO.. wait, I have met the family, and I have invited them for dinner. Yet they are totally stay home people. My son did invite me up until today, he also invited my ex hubby (his dad) the two of them got into a fight and he lashed out at me, in front of his future wife, told me that they (the in laws etc are planning a small get together and we are simply not invited).
2007-05-15 10:09:11 · update #1
With knowing only what you told us, I think your son is being very immature and he will one day regret his actions. Since you were not invited then there is not much you can do and yes you have the right to be hurt. If the subject comes up again you need to tell him how hurt you were by his actions. I used to believe in protecting our children from any hurt feelings, but have realized how do we teach them to be upstanding citizens if we protect them from everything including themselves. My heart goes out to you.
2007-05-15 10:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were in the wrong from the start. If you knew your son was going to get married, you should have contacted the other family right away and introduce yourself. Ask them if they'll need help in anything or offer to do something or give something toward the wedding. These young couple already decided to live together so the least the parents are to try and do is get along with each other. After all, the couple have made you all one big family especially when the youngs ones come along, the grandchildren, of course. So cheer up and be happy. Let everything run smoothly. A rush-rush wedding definitely has a young one coming along.
2007-05-15 17:03:05 · answer #2 · answered by Party _Boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you expecting a written invite in the mail? I think you should contact your son and make sure that you're not just expected to show up (I think maybe the "invitation" was taken for granted that you'd be there!). Just make sure you're not missing something in translation!
Since its so late in the game, and you were completely excluded from everything, I think the most appropriate thing to do would be to GENTLY mention it to your new counter-part at the next meeting. Just a small comment like, "Well, I suppose everything came together well enough; (I wouldn't know, having not received an invitation). I sure wish I could have taken part though. It would have meant a lot to me." And leave it at that.
It doesn't sound catty or snide, but it lets her know that you don't feel good about being shunted aside in such a huge event in your son's life.
2007-05-15 16:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, yes you should have been at least phoned with an invitation to dinner by the brides parents, thats their responsibility. Not much you can do now though since the wedding is tomorrow.
You arent invited to the wedding? Why not? If they are having a wedding, I dont care what they think, wild horses couldnt keep me from attending. You should at least go to the ceremony, they cant keep you out of a church, its a public place (I know, I was married at a tourist attraction church and had a bus load of tourists attend my ceremony) so dont be afraid to go.
Good luck to you, I hope everything works out in the end.
2007-05-15 16:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying that you were not invited to the wedding? I would be more than furious...especially if you and your family are not estranged from your son! I would definately contact her family and tell them you'd like to meet them...and ask to attend the wedding. This is very unusual! Maybe they were waiting on the grooms parents to contact them? I've never heard of this before!
2007-05-15 16:58:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just back off. This is your sons special day. Let it go so the couple can start a happy life. Who cares if the in-laws did not contact you.
The only person you will upset is your son. Do you want to do that the day before his wedding.
2007-05-15 16:56:26 · answer #6 · answered by LI-NYGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is most definatly something seriously wrong if you were not invited to your son's wedding. You definatly should say something. Try not to upset anyone too much as this is probably already a stressful day for all those involved, but you definatly should not keep quiet. It's your sons wedding!
2007-05-15 16:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by katskradle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you that it was unfair of them not to even attempt to contact you...but why wouldn't your own son invite you to his wedding? You should bring this up with your son first before you get angry at the other family.
2007-05-15 17:00:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ginger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not always what happens. Sure, it'd be nice for them to get together with you, but it's certainly not common. Sounds like you had nice in-laws! :)
Maybe you could reach out to these inlaws yourself - invite them to dinner!
2007-05-15 16:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by *huge sigh* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son didn't invite you to his wedding? there's more to this story than you are telling
2007-05-15 16:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by abc 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋