believers, you tell me!?

Question

i have been in limbo about my belifes in God, but now i'm leaning more toward the non beliving side...my best friend husband died in iraq recently...shes 7 months pregnat..so why would God leave this young girl alone with a unborn baby that will never meet her dad? how can i beilive

jonny, how the hell did this women or solider sin? there is no way they diserved this...he was doing his job.

ok god dosent control things or whatever which i don't get cuz he could, but he could have protected him and he didnt.

chris d, ive always hated war, ive always thought it was bad, this just prooved my point.

Answer 1

I know that things like this can be hard to accept as in God's will, and I understand your doubt. I wish I had an answer for you, but I cannot speak for God as to why He allows these things to happen. Some things we are never going to understand in this life. But I can tell you that tragedies are going to happen to believers and non-believers alike. Christians are not immune to suffering. And believing that God has a purpose and a plan for even those tragedies would help me get through anything better than having nothing to believe in.

I feel for your friend and her unborn child. I will keep them in my prayers.

Answer 2

The first jerk to answer this question did not even try to comfort you so please don't lean towards nonbelief you may end up quitting on life like her. I am sorry you are going through this time in your life and I wish I had a better answer but all I can say is that faith will see you through. I know exactly where you are coming from , I have been very confused about how GOD would let horrific things happen to good people and I still don't know but all I can say is that I believe some answers we wouldn't understand right now will be made clear later.Sometimes having faith goes against all reason. I wish you and all the ones around you only and all the very best.

Answer 3

WIth all due respect to you and to your grieving friend, you cannot use 'bad instances' and reason then that either:
God doesn't exist because bad stuff happens to 'good people'
or
God must not be a loving God because of all the bad stuff going on in this crumbling world

To lash out at God when one is grieving is very normal and human. Just don't quit talking w/ God, even when you don't feel that He's there.

I have had many an instance in my own life (and I am a devout believer) that shook my faith. I have cried out God where were you in all of this?!

And all I can tell you about 'bad stuff happening to good people' is this:
You may never know this side of heaven the glory that God will bring through tragedy.
You may never know why He would allow it until He is standing before You, face to face, spirit to spirit and until you have been resurrected in His presence.

All you and I are called to do while we're here is continue to seek Him, worship Him and TRUST Him. That last bit is the hardest.

In the meantime, it helps to offer your suffering to Him as a sacrifice.
If anyone knows your pain, it's Jesus. Imagine His torment as He hung on the cross, suffocating in His own lung fluid every time he dared to draw breath.

Offer it to Him. Continue to seek Him. Ask Him the hard questions. He will never leave you nor forsake you, but that doesn't mean that you will not experience suffering.

Praying for healing and wholeness in Christ for you and your friend.

Peace be with you ...

Answer 4

I don't know if I have an answer that will satisfy your question.
I certainly do not wish to convert you, proselytize you or condemn you.

All I can say is based on what I know, what I feel and what I think, based on my religious convictions.

Is God present and an active participant in my life?
By the very fact that I breathe and blood flows through my veins is a clear indication that something bigger than me created me, and every other living thing on this earth.
The miracles are around us, if we choose to open our eyes.

After the Holocaust, many people were asking the same questions you are.
The first link might help you understand how they coped with the question: "where was God?".

We do not have all the answers as to why things happen as they do.
That is for a higher power to know and for us to learn from.
What we have been given is free will...to make choices that ultimately will determine our character.
The second link talks about when bad things happen to good people...I've read the book and I encourage you to at least look at the link and think on these things.

The last link is simply an outline on the very first people to realize that there is only one God.

Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Faith in God does not guarantee a happy or secure life. If you don't want to believe in God, I think that's fine. I'm a little on the fence myself, but don't decide not to believe because you think he's treating people unfairly, and you're angry about it. These are our lives, and they are what we make of them. Wanting them to be anything else is what causes us suffering.

I had a deeply religious Christian friend. In high school, her family was sued, and her dad lost his job. Then, while she was in college, her father was killed working at his new job. This hurt them tremendously, but they didn't abandon their faith because things got bad. They understood that God never said he would save them from difficult circumstances. All he said was that he would reward them after life. I don't know that I believe that the creator of the universe exists, much less is paying attention. It doesn't really matter. But bad things do happen to good people, and all we can do to prevent it is try our best not to perpetrate badness onto others. They don't deserve it either. The rest isn't up to us.

Answer 6

I know now this doesn't make sense to you but you can't see the plan God has in store for this lady and young baby. Can you see the future? Well maybe God can and he has a plan. Death is always hard to deal with and it is perfectly natural for you to feel this way right now. Anger is a part of the grieving process. I got mad at god when my mom died. I cursed him and thought ill toward him but God has something better in store for this lady.
PS I am not a religious freak either!

Answer 7

God has put everyone on this Earth with the gift of free will (people can choose their own path in life, whether it was the path that God intended for them or not) this is not Heaven, it is not supposed to be easy- so many terrible things happen and, although things do happen for a reason, it is not always the way that we would (or God would) like them to be- maybe He will bless this family later on in so many ways, though I do acknowledge that nothing may comfort them the way that bringing this hero back to them would. It isn't easy to understand for any of us, but if anything, monumental or small, can "shake" our faith in God, then why is this faith worth having? Belief has to be strong in the face of grief, adversity, and-in this case, profound tragedy. I will pray for these people.

Answer 8

You have to believe that everything happens....for a reason. Seriously, when we go through pain like that, it's the worst thing ever....but the absolute worst thing you can do is turn your back and run.

It's going to take a lot of Bible reading to understand why.

Life is very painful....just because we don't understand what or why God does things- it doesn't mean he doesn't love us. It just means we don't understand. Because in the end, it will all be for His glory...even if we may not see why now. I'm tellin' you as someone who has had to see my bed-ridden mother get worse and worse over the last couple years......Please don't run from it...bury yourself in it.

Answer 9

Sometimes things like this happen in order for one to BECOME CLOSER to God. Have you ever called upon Him when you had something bad happen to you or were experiencing some hard times?? Sometimes that is often the ONLY time people call on Him & He wants us to have faith in Him. He wants us to seek Him even when we aren't going through something terrible in our lives. It is like a savings account -- You rejoice in the Lord in GOOD OR BAD. You thank Him continuously regardless of the circumstances.... Because you have a LOT to be thankful for. Then he will know that you are faithful!!!
I truly am sorry for your loss -- I will keep you, her, & the extended family in my prayers.

God wasn't so bad - He left her a baby to remember this wonderful human being that fought for our country.

"All Good & Perfect Gifts Are From Above".

Answer 10

Let me tell you about the last 18 months of MY life: my mother in law died, my father in law died, 2 of my oldest friends died, my house burned to the ground, my hubby's business is closing and he'll be without a job and my mom died about 3 weeks ago. I have been diagnosed with an enlarged heart, diabetes, restless leg syndrome, high blood pressure, sleep apnea and am sick a lot of the time. And, guess what? I still believe! God never promised roses without thorns and He never promised people would live to be 80! My mom was only 64!