Family Problems?

Question

I've been having some problems at home lately, i've really been having problems at home, since i left foster care, but now they're are worse. Now, everybody in my house are irritable, and I think i'm depressed. Since i got out of foster care, i haven't had insurance, so i all i have is the same 30 day supply of Zoloft I got at the hospital, i'm afraid to take it, cause i know that taking it for a month, than quitting, can make me even more depressed or suicidle. So, i'm just keeping all my pain inside and letting them out. I feel like i'm going to snap soon. i feel like a bag of popping popcorn, that's about to burst. i'm so depressed because, i feel like everything, and every problem at our house is my fault. we don't have money anymore. my mom is crazy stressing over that, now, so am i. and i'm upset of things that go on at my house. My mom is soooo irritable,last night, she wouldn't listen to me,she heard me,but she didn't listen, i kept telling her that i was stressed,and that was why my memory sucked, but she said,"so, people stress over things everyday". she doesn't understand, i stressing about: the abuse i've recieved, emotional and sexual, the way she's sooo irritable,how we have no money, how my brother hates me and said he wished i would have never come home, me not doing well in school,and most of all, everthing, all of this, being my fault! I'm also angry and upset, because my brother doesn't give a monkey's behind about me,he makes me so upset, he'll say whatever he wants to me all my mom does is say, "both of you stop,I don't want to hear it".my brother is also very lazy, my mom will tell him to do something, but he won't, so i'll have to end up doing the chores (his).Then, my brother is a lier and he thinks he knows it all.he'll lie on me and get me in trouble.it makes me so angry. My step-day, oh, my step-dad. he abuses me, lies and denies it,i lie to protect him in court, so, he decides to come back to our house.I had a HUGE problem with that,my never even asked me if it was ok, that he came near me.after he had stayed for a while,i started turning evil at school, but acted like nothing was wrong at home. finally my friends got sick of me, so my best friend decided, we should talk to the counselor, she was very supportive, until they made her goto class, then it was just me.my mom had to come up to the school to talk with the counselors, and she told me that he wasn't staying permanently, he was just here temporarily, because my cousin's kids were over where he lived messing up his house and sleeping on his bed.she asked if that was ok. I wanted to yell out no, because she never even asked me if that was ok. then i get so mad, that her and my brother will leave me alone til' all hours of the night, to go hang out with my step dad. they've been to parties without me,get togethers, six flags, the world of coke and god knows where else.it makes me feel so left out, like i'm supposed to be some family secret, like i'm not supposed to be alive, so they're keeping me hidden, kind of like that book AMONG THE HIDDEN.yeah,feel just like one of those hidden kids.i've been keeping so much inside forever. thanks to everyone for listening to my ranting in raving, i just needed someone, anyone to talk to, who would understand. Oh yeah, my question is, am i just tripping for no reason? what should i do?Ever since i came home, i've been asking myself "go back into foster care, or not?".i would probaly do better in there, because when all these caseworkers and foster parents catch an attitude with me and disrespect me, atleast it's not my blood that hates me. My mom had forbidden me to tell my real dad, who lives in N.Y. about our "family Problems", as a father, i think he should know though, maybe he'll let be live with him, i don't dare tell him though, cuz my mom would be sooo angry. What should i do about that? once again, thanks for listening!!!!!!!!

OMG! I'M SOOO SORRY TO EVERYONE WHO HAS ANSWERED. MY MOM DID MAKE MY STEP DAD MOVE OUT, BUT WHEN HE DID, HE WAS DISREPECTFUL.
SORRY FOR FORGETTING TO TYPE THAT. BUT THANKS FOR ANSWERING ALREADY.

Answer 1

Oh girl I am deeply sorry for how you've been feeling. I was crying when I read what you wrote. I do feel what you are saying cause I suffer from depression/mood swings/ different personality/eating disorder/ etc. Girl I have been there feeling guilty feeling that I am the black sheep of the house.
What I have to tell you is that nothing is your fault. You need to try to sink that in your head. The problems is your whole family especially your mom she is just plain crazy the only one smart in your house is you. Girl truthfully what I would like you to do is seek professional help and talk. You most tell them all that it is tormenting you. And be brave and tell your father what is going on your dad deserve to know don't keep this away from him. And to your ****** step dad oh my he deserve to get a beat down or cut his freaking balls. Girl you need to be out of the house and you need lots and lots of help. I will be praying for you I want you to know that you are not alone when you might think that you have no one to listen guess again Someone is there and that is God he listen to you and he loves you dont you forget that and remember that life is not over just because everything seems down the hill don't give up life will reward you good luck

Answer 2

Well it is obvious you need so much help. Your issue is very difficult b/c I'm lookin at it in so many different ways. I'm going to try to give you the best advice I know how to give a child.

Don't start blaming yourself for everything you are going through. I'm sure it hurts so bad that your family can be so cruel by telling you to go back where you came from. You really didn't asked to be in the situation that you are in but you are. I"m so sorry that you are going through so much! That is why I always say to think hard b/f adopting a child. If a family can't give them the love and care they deserve it is best to leave that child where they are. I feel a foster child has been through so much less on dealing with such a hateful family.

This is my suggestion to you, either speak to a teacher or someone you can trust about this. Or why not tell your real father? And why can't your real father care for you any way? Why are you living with someone that you hardly know, when you have your father still living? So what if your foster mom gets mad, it is obvious she doesn't care for you. If she did, why don't she start taking responsibility. She is suppose to help you Not ignore you. Baby, I'm so sorry that you have to put up with so much evil. If you feel the need to go back to foster care, I say go for it. Any thing is better than the abuse that you are going through living in that house. You don't deserve it. Don't get depress, just report that family and go back to foster care. Hopefully next time, if you are adopted, your new family will show you love instead of hatred. I wish you the best of luck. My heart goes out to you!!!

Answer 3

By the size of you message you obviously holding alot in. You need to discuss it openly and freely to your family and a counselor. Don't hold anything back either. You have rights and you should never let someone abuse them.
Your father should know about your problems. Especially if he can aid and support you.

Either way. Always treat people with the respect you would want to be treated with. This in turn will help prevent further problems wtih poeple whether they are Friends or Family. A bad attitude wont help your situation (im not saying you ahve one just keep it in mind.)

TO help deal wtih stress, try picking up a hobbie. join a group and or sport, get a part time job. Do something to get out of the house every once in a while.

Try to suggest to your mom to have family dinners together every so often. Over time this really brings a family together and has proven to help keep kids out of trouble.

Running away isnt always the best solution. But if nothing else works then you should look into foster care.

I really think the most important part is to pick up a hobbie. Something physical to keep you active can really help with you stress and keep you busy.

Answer 4

Oh honey you are on a collision course for disaster. First off please call your real father and let him know what's going on. You should talk 2 your school counselor and see what the have too say. No Matter What Tell the truth! If u continue 2 recant your story soon no one will believe you. There are also free clinic where u could see a getting your prescription medication for free. Sometimes Dr's offices will give you enough samples to last you for a while. You could also talk to some pharmacies and see if there was a way they could help out also. What ever you do keep yourself together. Don't attempt to hurt yourself or anyone else. Keep on your school work and trying to take all of those raw feelings and emotions and find an outlet for them so you don't explode.
Bless you and Good Luck!

Answer 5

How old are you? In some states anyone over the age of 16 can choose where they wish to live. Also, if you don't have insurance, there are places you can contact for help with things like Mental Health resources. Call into your local Social Services and ask for listings or places you can go to apply for assistance such as family counseling, etc. Many of these places are non-profit and will be completely confidential. Another place to look for in your area is commonly called the Rape and Abuse Crisis Center. It is for anyone who is depressed, abused in any way (physical, verbal, emotional, etc) and can point you in an appropriate direction.

Answer 6

Hon, you talk to another adult. You talk to a school counselor or find yourself a child advocate in your area who can help you. You should be able to get the meds you need and you should be able to see a professional who can help you deal with the problems you are having. Don't think everything in the world is your fault. You are a child and it's NOT your fault. Your parents are supposed to love and nurture you and listen to you when you have problems. If they don't, then you need to find the help you need somewhere else. Don't give up. There are people out there to help you. Look in the phone book. Call a hotline. Someone can help you if you'll just let them. I'm so sorry for you. Please take care.

Answer 7

i really think you should tell your dad and tell a counselor that you are being sexually abused. you matter in this world and it is NOT okay that your mom is allowing this to happen to you because she wants a man in the house. you need to get far away form these people, but until you can tell yourself over and over that you matter, that you deserve better.

Answer 8

I don't know how to answer your question in the long run, but you need to get OUT of that house if you are not being respected. Plus you are being abused! That is horrible, no person deserves to live that way. I don't know how to get out of that HORRIBLE situation, but you shouldn't have to live w/ ppl that abuse you and disrespect you.

Answer 9

Maybe you should contact your real dad, thats what I would do, my parents had issues, and I thought I couldn't ontact my dad, but I am glad i did. He has helped in so many ways.

Answer 10

wow. This is serious. You may want to talk to your father about this or your doctor. Maybe living with your father will help.