This hurts me to even think about.
My son is getting married tomorrow, I like his choice of girl he is going to marry. We took them to get a date via the courts. (my second hubby and I)
Then he invited my ex hubby, still that did not worry me, I was still happy my son has finally stopped his silly behaviour of drugs and clubbing.
Then all of a sudden today, he (my son) comes to our home, and starts complaining about his dad, I told him it was his choice to invite his dad, not mine.
Five minutes later my son starts swearing at me and tells me we are no longer welcome at his wedding, his new family are all going for lunch after the wedding, we are not invited.
He chased is dad away, and his sister that lives 75km away had to drive through to collect the father, as he has no transport of his own.
I really am not sure if I am hurt or shocked by this, I stood with my son, while he was in rehab, bike crash, broken legs, and lover affairs galore.
What would you???
2007-05-15 09:25:08 · 11 answers · asked by unity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His fiance was with him, she didn't say a word. But when I asked why is he doing this, no answer was given, I did text him awhile ago, he thinks what he is doing is correct, told me if he sees us there good, if not also good, so guess we won't be going.
2007-05-15 09:56:57 · update #1
i know you really want to go to that wedding, but it's best to let your son cool off. If you come when he told you not to, he might just blow up, and you guys could start arguing, i think it's bad to argue between parent and child.
I watched a movie on life time yesterday, where this girl, argued with her dad and wouldn't forgive him, for like two weeks, then her dad ended up dying, she was really upset and never got to say, i love you or i fogive you.
I don't wanna say that's gonna happen, because i don't want to put bad things in the air, but i'm just saying, let him cool down, don't give him a wedding present (just yet) and don't call him for a week (a five day week), then go by his house,maybe talk to his new wife first, about how you feel,then talk to him. If you want,call him now, but be careful, he might still be angry and could hurt you (emotionally, not physically).He could just be under alot of stress, from wedding planning and stuff, and the fact that he's about to commit his life and honesty to someone.
I may be wrong in this assuption, because i'm only 14, but i tried! GOOD LUCK lol!
2007-05-15 09:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation. It sounds like there are some unresolved issues with your son and his father yet. Although I don't know the whole situation, it almost sounds like you are the easy target to take out this frustration. I guess, the thing I would do is to make sure you support his wedding. Maybe drop off a gift and quietly leave or even call and leave a message with best wishes. Stay calm, maybe see if you can talk to him in a rational way and he will either come to his senses or if later on, realize what happened. I just hope he doesn't regret his decision later on.
2007-05-15 09:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he may be a big boy, but he's still your son and he has NO RIGHT to speak to you like that, I don't care the reason. You need to get him alone and sit down and let him know just exactly how hurt and sad you are. Do it now, before the wedding, before it's too late and things really start to get out of hand. If you are not at that wedding he will regret it the rest of his life and so will you. Lots of luck, hun.
2007-05-15 09:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him have his space. he will be back ! Make sure that he's not back on drugs. Ever thought maybe he's stressed about the wedding ! I am sure he'll come around . If not just put him in Gods hands and leave him there.
2007-05-15 09:31:43 · answer #4 · answered by Tivas Tivas 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like something thats going to pass over. I would just give him a couple hours to cool off. Iam sure hes in a lot of stress right now, I would give him some time..and then try to contact him later on tonight
2007-05-15 09:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Kerry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's using again with the irrational behavior. I would stay home from the wedding and let him feel bad when he comes to his senses. Sounds like he needs to suffer the repercussions of his actions....maybe then he'll get it.
2007-05-15 09:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by str8talker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he still has some serious issues to be worked out.
Forgive me....But the lack of respect he showed his parents defined his character. I hope you can find away to make him understand the hurt he has just caused.
2007-05-15 09:38:02 · answer #7 · answered by tincre 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just show up, you're his mother and if he doesn't want you to be a part of it...then let him. But I'd show up and just be there for him in the back.
2007-05-15 10:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check him back into rehab because his irrational behavior maybe a sign that he is using again.
2007-05-15 09:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by juicie813 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would call his fiance up and ask her if she knows what is going on.
2007-05-15 09:45:32 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋