mother-in-law problems?

Question

My m-i-l ia horrable!!!!! I married my hubby in 94 and we have no kids. I got pregnant on our first dateso we got married, 4 mths into my pregancy my m-i-l pushed my down the stairs the next day I lost my baby and have not been able to conceive again. My mother-in-law has lied on me she told everybody that I stole $750 from my hubby and that I was having an affair with our landlord so we moved. (i wasn't) My sister stayed with us for 2 mths. My mother-in-law called my new landlord and tried to have us threw out. She use to call 3 times aday leaving really nasty messages, my hubby thinks they are funny. Now she calls 3 times aday or til someone answers the phone, or she gets someone to bring her to my house. She had me so mad one day thet my blood pressure was up to 165/116. Now My hubby has took over payments on hewr car that she could not afford to begin with, and she thinks I should drop everything that I am doing and run errands for her, and if I don't do it she throughs a trantrumn

this is just some of the things that she does. I am to the point that I hate her and my hubby acts like he don't care. I do not want to leave my hubby and I would dream of making him chose between us. I just want this woman to leave me alone!! What should I do?

We get up every early 1:30Am she called around 10:30 when he was getting home from work So I answered the phone when I told him that she wantedd to talk to him he replied "I don;t have time" Its like I have to put up with her but he don't. Even when he is off work he don't mess with her

Answer 1

I have the same problem. So I decided to cut her off myself. I will not answer her call anymore and if she comes over unless the door is open or you are out side do not answer the door. If she claimed you stole the money from your husband, she was problem the one who took it. I told my own mil today that until she learned some respect for me that I would not help her. If your hubby will not put his foot down then put your foot down. Remember that you are not taxi

Answer 2

Do whatever it takes to stop that woman because she will ruin your marriage and end up making it look like it was all your fault. You should get your husband involved, as well. Let him know how unacceptable her behavior is. And, just one question: why didn't you file charges against her for pushing you down those stairs? That woman would have been under the jail if it would have been me. There is no excuse for a human being to act like that and it is time someone stopped her and her idiocy, even if it has to be you and you take the flack for doing it! So be it! At least you'll be rid of the snake!

Answer 3

You need to really sit your husband down and tell him how you feel. He needs to stop thinking it's funny and have some respect for you. Tell him you don't want it to come between you but you can't live like that. Don't be nasty at first, just make sure you tell him everything and see if he will lay down the law to his mother. If not, then you start laying down the law to her yourself, and if he has a problem with it then tell him he should've done something besides laugh. You didn't marry her and you sure in hell don't have to put up with her crap!

Answer 4

No doubt this witch bothers your hubby too, but instead of getting mad he laughs it off - that's not the answer either, but it is much healthier for you! When I had had enough of my controlling immature Grandma, I just CALMLY asked her to stop what she was doing (backstabbing my Father) around me - - of course being as immature and selfish as she was, she TOTALLY came unglued, and we did not talk for years - that was fine with me!! Your m-i-l acts like she does because she is ALLOWED to - your hubby might not approve, but I strongly recommend YOU say what you need to say to her - with any luck, she will stay away from you - she needs to know her behavior towards YOU is NOT O.K.!!

Answer 5

No one can fix this but your hubby. It should be obvious the problems she is causing you two. He should man up and put her in her place its his mom so you shouldnt be obligated to do so. If he really wants to be with you and loves you he will. If he continues to let her do these things its him you need to evaluate. Its not your mom and you shouldnt have to put her in her place. Tell your hubby exactly how you feel and give him the altimatum.. If he doesnt do anythign about it or blows it off he is tellin you he doesnt care about you or how you feel and you should leave them alone together

Answer 6

I can't believe you would stay in a situation like this where your MIL attempted to murder you and di murder your baby and where your husband does not support you in cutting this woman out of your lives. Do you want to hang around for her to succesfully kill you? Seriously - you deserve better. You are an abused woman. Get help and get out!

Answer 7

I wish your husband would act like a man and tell his mother to stop interfering and causing problems. She really needs to get a life. Why does he think her behaviour is funny? He should be more sensitive to your needs.

Answer 8

Let's face it---you married your mother-in-law!! Your husband isn't going to protect you nor stand up for you against her!!! The only way you're going to have a better life is to divorce both of them; get your share of the property and go on with your life!! Sad, but true!! A lot of men are really tied to their mother's apron strings and it's a loosing game to try to get them to stand up for themselves and their wives!! Figure out what you want for your life and go after it!! Find a man who loves you--more than his mother and who WANTS a family!!!!! You owe it to yourself!!! GO FOR IT!!

Answer 9

It is sooo hard to accept that your son has a lady who is more important than you. However, your husband has to let your mother in law know that she has to back off. Her behavior is childish and your husband has to let her know. She may get angry and not speak to you for a while, but let him know that it will not last long. Parents love their kids more than anything and will not stay away long. She has to know that he loves and respects you greatly and then she will back off.

Answer 10

Does your husband know this is how you feel? It almost sounds like he needs to be the one to cut the umbilical cord and let his ma know that you are his wife and that although he will always love her you are the first priority. Other options, family counseling?