Based on my last question http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhEnKMoEVy9hqUU.luhD1Wrsy6IX?qid=20070514162305AAopQ0J
I dont know what to do, i love my dad but i feel like if i speak to him, its like forgiving him and i cant do that knowing he probably does see another women, and if i dont speak to him things will probably be worse..Please help i really need advice..
2007-05-15 08:58:12 · 11 answers · asked by Leo 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I know this is hard, and I feel so bad for you. Your parents are dragging you into an adult problem. They are trying to make you take sides -who is right- who is the victim.
My best advice: tryto let your parents work this out between them. Your dad may be a dog, but I bet he loves you and respects your opinion of him-in some way.
I bet your mother loves you but is using you to make your father feel guilty,and letting YOU console her, instead of HER consoling YOU..
Both parents are wrong.
You are a kid. You should have kid problems.
Yuo can love your dad, and not approve of what he is doing. You can tell him that. You can visit with him, you can tell him you are disappointed that he is dragging your family through this hardship, just for his own selfish reasons.
It will help for you to say what YOU want to say, not to take care of your mom's problems.
Your mom is a big girl. You cannot make her stop crying. You cannot make her grow a backbone and leave a cheater. She is not ready. You can love her and not approve of what SHE does, either.
You can try to live your best life, and enjoy being a kid for a while longer. You can learn from the pain in your life, not to be a cheater yourself, or to put up with one.
You cannot fix this, but you can take care of yourself, and not let your parents use you. Just tell them to tell it to their spouse, and leave you out of it-then leave. or go to your room and play videos.
Try not to act out- and drink, get into trouble and all that, it will backfire. Try to stay out of it. Really.
Take care, honey
2007-05-15 09:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should speak to him but let him know how you're feeling about all of this. Don't take sides though as you only get 1 mum & dad and as hard as it may seem to stay neutral it is for the best as it is so easy for things to escalate and you could end up never speaking to him again. Your parents need to sort whatever problems they are having out themsleves and neither of them should try and involve you or make you choose sides.
2007-05-15 11:49:31 · answer #2 · answered by stpredator 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same situation with my mom. I didn't want to talk to her either, but I did. I let her know how I felt. I told her that what she was doing was disrespectful not only to my dad but to me and the rest of my cyblings. I told her that if she wants to have her fun, she needs to think about the family that she already has first. She needs to get divorced then go mess with whoever she wants. I'm not dissing on my mom, but I really didn't like what she was doing. Instead of going off, I gave her advice, and acted like the grown up. After that she has respected herself, and my family. I hope I helped you.
2007-05-15 09:05:24 · answer #3 · answered by mrz_lr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree life is short
When I thought my wife was cheating, I called her cell phone company and said we have a large bill and I need to know if one of my kids are messin with it. Can you send me a itemized bill. Believe it or not they said sure thing. Low and behold I got the guys phone number.
2007-05-15 09:06:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mr nice guy 2U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love your dad, then forgive him. You don't have to like the situation but talking to him is better than holding a grudge for years. It will be better for both of you.
2007-05-15 09:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by homeworkdude2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love means you can love someone even if you do not agree with them. Don't forget two things: Your father is human, and you would not be on this earth without him.
2007-05-15 09:01:14 · answer #6 · answered by Euro Cop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is very short, I just lost my father. Speak to him.
2007-05-15 09:00:49 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how your feel and how what he is doing makes you real sad. He must think you don't know what is going on.
2007-05-15 10:47:19 · answer #8 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly how you feel. let him know that you are entitled to your own feelings and you are expressing them to him. Let him know you do not approve of his behavior, be calm and don't yell.
2007-05-15 09:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell your momma. Yes you can still speak to him, but you momma should not speak to him anymore.
2007-05-15 09:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋