do I have a mental problem?

Question

i like this girl at my school, and shes already told me she didn't see us more then friends, but i feel as if i love her. I barely know her outside of school, and i am already willing to die for her. i feel enraged just seeing another guy talking to her, and i have thought of suicide often. i was just wondering if this was normal or if i have an actual problem...thanks

Answer 1

You may depressed and unhappy about other parts of your life and your crush has become obsessive because you are focusing on her instead of the real issue. You need to seek counselling before you hurt yourself or anybody else. Good luck.

Answer 2

No, not normal. Anything that involves obsessing over what you cannot have and feeling suicidal is not healthy or normal. What IS normal is having feelings, though, so don't feel badly! Things like this happen to a lot of people. What you might consider doing is discussing this with a doctor. There may actually be a medical or psychological cause for what you are experiencing. At the very least, you can rule things out. Perhaps he can recommend some therapy to help you learn how to deal with your feelings. You do not have to feel this way. Take your feelings seriously and talk to someone about them so you can get yourself on the fast track to recovery. Good luck!

Answer 3

I don't think it's a mental problem. Sounds more like an emotional problem which can stem from a plethora of things. You think you would die for her and say you would, but if it came down to it, you might think differently. Hormones wreak havoc on teenagers. Just remind yourself that things will level out with some time. Since she says she's not interested I would begin working on focusing your mental energy on something else that interests you and consciously try not to think of her. Turn your thoughts to something else when she enters your mind. It won't be easy but you can get through this. I know how you feel..... most people who've lived through teenage years can say that. It's a lot of fun to be a teenager, but it's also brutal at times. Just remember it won't last forever. This too shall pass and you'll look back and wonder what you were so upset about. I promise!!

Answer 4

Well, when one feels like you do, so desparate, yes, there is a problem, but it is because you feel so inferior...maybe you really do love her, and you must respect the fact, that at least for now, she doesn't feel the same,...be glad she isn't some fake that leads you on,...we all have infatuations at times, and we feel like that, that we can't live without them..but that is unrealistic, honey....You need to really sit yourself down, and talk to yourself about this...be rational, and tell yourself, that it isn't that you are a bad person, just not the person for her...and that is really what it is about. Don't waste time burning a candle for this girl...just always be sweet, and be her friend, because you just never know what the future may bring...and don't EVER think about killing yourself...

Answer 5

Don't let a girl make you suicidal. You are better then that. She didn't care when you wanted a chance with her. Why should you care. You deserve much better then her. Ignore her. Take up a hobby and get your mind off of her.
Maybe you should talk to a therapist. I think they would help you understand how you are feeling about everything right now. Good luck Just remember you are worth knowing. Don't let anyone tell you different. Please keep your head up high. Your wonderful.

Answer 6

Yep, you have some mental problems. See a professional counselor before it gets out of hand. Maybe now maybe later. However, untreated it's just going to get worse. You may wound up doing things you're going to regret. Thanks for noticing the problem and being willing to do something about it.

Answer 7

please talk to a school counselor,a clergyman/woman,any trusted and knowledgeable adult who can steer u in the direction to get help.it is normal to feel somewhat sad or somewhat angry in the face of rejection,but rage and suicide is going too far to the extreme.everyone needs help now and then,dont be afraid or embarassed.intervention now,while ur young,can save u a lifetime of pain.ask for help,and make sure u get it!be good to urself.if a friend felt as u do,u would tell him to talk to a dr or a psychologist-well,be ur own best friend in this situation.best of luck.

Answer 8

Yes, you do have a problem if you are thinking of suicide. Why can't you just move on? Their are other girls out there... But now I don't know, I think you need to seek help before you even consider anyone elsa....

Answer 9

Being a kid is hard. I've been through what you described when I was a teenager. It will get better. It's probably just hormones but talk to your parents about it kiddo, you'll feel better.

Answer 10

I would say you do have an actual problem called obsession. You have the typical stalker mind. Your not stalking her are you? That would be bad. You just want her and can't have her and that ticks you off. Go see a counselor.