For some reason I am overly concerned with looks- mine and other people's. I am always comparing myself to other women and then get depressed b/c I know I will never be as pretty as them. And if that weren't bad enough, I am too picky with guys looks. When a guy isn't good looking, I am not interested. Then when I finally date a guy that is attractive, I don't feel good or pretty enough. How do I get past this? I know it's horrible, so don't give me a lecture about it...
2007-05-15 08:33:27 · 8 answers · asked by adodd8 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have 2 suggestions. First being that as soon as you learn accept yourself for the way that you look and realize that you have your own beauty, even if it is or isn't tv/model quality, then you will stop comparing yourself to other females. As for being judgmental in regards to dating a guy based on his looks. There is not one person that doesn't do the same thing. When someone is at a party and they spot someone that they are attracted to, the first thing they say isn't "Wow, I really like that persons brains". Everyone has their own taste and opinions as too what is attractive and what is not. You can't say that there hasn't been a time when you found a guy absolutely hot, until you got to know him, and found that you were repulsed by him. I have. You have a right to your own opinion and taste. I guess my point is, we are all judgmental and vain, in the sense that you are asking this question. Don't be so hard on yourself.
2007-05-15 08:41:04 · answer #1 · answered by TmB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you ever heard the term or phrase: Grace and Beauty?
Grace should always come before beauty. Give yourself a break. It is obvious that someone finds you attractive, you just need to stop looking at another persons beauty, and find the beauty of your own self from within. Looks are not everything! Brains before beauty. I have seen some very beautiful people, but, they were the ugliest people on the inside. I have seen people who society feels are not the most attractive people, and they had the sweetest disposition. then there are the ones who are just plain ugly, no getting around it, It had nothing to do with their looks, it had to do with the worst attitude problem, evil hearted person. What you have on your inside will be displayed on your outward appearance
2007-05-15 08:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by SikU2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things require a total life change. If it really bothers you, you have to make a huge decision in your life that you are going to do what it takes to move past it.
Start looking at who you are as a whole person, not just looks, and try to find the things you value about yourself and personality. If you can't find anything, then try to begin developing some things. Make an effort to help others and get outside of yourself.
Anything in life takes determination and work. Do your best to forget about looks altogether. Start to appreciate inner beauty. It's the only way you will ever be happy.
2007-05-15 08:43:17 · answer #3 · answered by STEVEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are vain at all...you really haven't got the confidence you would have if you were really vain. You are more like very insecure about your looks, and I bet you're darling...It is really, just coming down to acceptance of one's self...when you finally DO love yourself...you will get past this...it isn't really horrible, it is more sad, when people feel this bad about themselves. A man must love you for the pretty inside, not your outside anyway, because looks fade, and there better be something behind them when they do sweetness.
2007-05-15 08:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would suggest to get comfortable with yourself first. Learn to love yourself for who you are. Then when you can think positivley about yourself, you'll be able to see people for the beauty inside them. Its okay to be a little picky about who your with, but you also want to focus on whats on the inside of a person rather than the outside. I really hope this dos'nt sund like a lecture cause I don't mean it to be. But all in all learn to love who you are and be confident.
;))
2007-05-15 08:41:10 · answer #5 · answered by love_da_keys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a good therapist and work through it. Its called insecurity and if you can't just grow out of it, you'll need help. Its not a bad thing... it will help you tremendously.
2007-05-15 08:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by Erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no lecture....looks aren't everything ...look inside yourself and other people see the good
2007-05-15 08:37:40 · answer #7 · answered by tequila_mama1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do crack!
2007-05-15 08:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋