2007-05-15 08:10:29 · 33 answers · asked by so stuck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No such beast.
He will feel the pangs, so the best thing is to be direct, but not cruel.
You let him know that things are just not working out between the two of you and it would be best for both of you if you part ways
2007-05-15 08:12:43 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of those answers was, I think truly hurtful. In December, a girl who I liked told me she was a lesbian and I almost cried infront of everyone I knew who was outside enjoying the unusualy warm weather. I am a boy and I know it hurts to hear that the one you liked or loved was a "lesbian". I am a boy and I think I would know a way. You take him aside and you start a conversation with him. Do not hint you are leading to telling him the news. Then start very slowly on the topic of love but remember that he might be thinking you are going to tell him this. If he starts to get upset, remind him of what good he either has done or what potential he has of attracting the right girl. Tell him what good he has done that you have witnessed. But remember not to say anything that might lead to something that would break his heart.
P.S. I wish you all the luck and I will keep you in my prayers that your attempt to tell him this goes well. I wish the girl who I liked had a heart like yours. You actually considered his feelings. The girl I liked did not. You have a heart and I thank the Lord there is someone like you out there in this cruel world. I hope you find someday, the man of your dreams. The one who will laugh with you, dry your tears when you cry, comfort you when you are in pain and so on. Bye for now.
-Annonymus
2007-05-15 08:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Adam Chambers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, you can't tell him you don't like him without breaking his heart. Just be honest. Tell him and break it off completely. Don't say, "Let's just be friends." It won't work. He will hang around forever hoping things will change and it will drive you crazy. In time, he will get over it and maybe even thank you someday when he does find the right person. Don't waste any time. Do it now. The longer you wait, the more difficult it will become. This is tough but you can do it.
2007-05-15 10:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by LauraLou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first when you say no off course you will hurt his heart no matter what.... you can make it a little bit more easy and maybe a little bit less embarrassed like saying "I cant go out with because..." ...now its no good time for me to have a couple ...i dont see you that way ...we wouldnt work as a couple for real the best one its the second its a very direct way to tell it and descent and its not a LIE... the rest tell something nice... break his heart...dont make it for him hard and try to not be so charming in front of him for a wile XDXP well thats it
PD: practice this and try to imagine how would you like someone treat you before you talk to him...
if hes good hell understand and maybe stop talking to you, so if he does, dont tell him that you wanna still being friends with him...he cant see you like that.
Dont tell him lies like you are gay. there is no need
And talk in privet (no so much enough to run away if necessary XD)
BUT NEVER take a boyfriend for pity you will never be happy ok
2007-05-15 08:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him face to face or write him a note and let him know that your not interested in him. If you baby it he will never learn the ups and downs of life and if you break his heart he will move on. Its probably not the first time. Just don't be mean about it.
2007-05-15 08:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by waltdawg3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say just tell him strait forward. If he can take it .If he's a possible psycho say. " I'm a lesbian and have no interest in men" or that your "not capable of being in a relationship"
My sisters say to annoy the hell out of him.... the fastest way to get rid of a guy is to move too fast and get psycho him. Call him 24/7 ask him a million questions about the "future"be a total lunatic and scream at him in public. Think wedding crashers
2007-05-15 08:25:20 · answer #6 · answered by K M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hoenstly .. there is never away to break up with someone without hurting them.
however the best policy is honesty. tell him you need to talk. most guy will ask why? and they arent asking to be a pain they really want to know why. so think about your reason(s) of why you dont like him and be prepared in case he ask. never break up with a guy over the phone, through a friend, through an email, or a note. a guy will respect you more for telling him to his face that your not interested in him. otherwise to him your just shady.
2007-05-15 08:18:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So stuck, you just need to honest with him and tell him. DO NOT continue to act like you want a relationship if deep in your heart you know that it will not work out. Believe me - he will grieve the loss of the love he had for you, but with time this experience will make him a much stronger person.
2007-05-15 08:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Scott O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and simply explain to him that you don't feel that way about him. I've done it before and sometimes just telling the thruth is always best. Not at first, but in time they will come to grips with the reality and the thruth and be more appreciative that you didn't lie or make up some phony story.
2007-05-15 08:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by lauraking83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont use those words. You dont have to say' I dont like you' but you can be busy or unavailable. Then later say you have a boyfriend or plan to move on. You will break his heart just as probably yours has been broken in the past but life goes on and he will survive.
2007-05-15 08:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋