I have done it every year for the summer because I am a stay at home mom and I don't have to take off work or anything. She pays me a fairly decent amount but now that gas prices are going up and her kids are getting older (8 & 10 and mine are 3 & 4) I just don't want to do it anymore. I know I save her alot of money by not charging her as much as it would cost to put them in some sort of daycare but this was my oldest sons first year in school, and now that summer is approaching I want to take some time off. Am I being selfish? Should I watch her kids again for her? If not what should I say to her?
2007-05-15 07:54:25 · 11 answers · asked by Wanda 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You have every right to not "want" to babysit for your sister. With the age differences that might be really tough on you because of your kids and her older kids will want to be doing different things. Just make sure you let her know in advance so she has enough time. I know that she might be upset at first but you need to spend quality time with your kids too and want to be able to pick up and go. Just because you are sisters makes it a little more difficult, but how many years have you been doing this? How much have you helped her out? There are a lot of programs out there that her kids can participate in. The best way is to be upfront and honest. If you want to let her know you will do Fridays or a couple days out of the week if YOU want to. Just make sure you let her know that you love helping her out but she can't depend on you for every summer- even though you are family, you each have a family of your own.
2007-05-15 08:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a relationship with your sister, surely you should be able to express your true feelings about your position for the coming summer. You have every right to want something different. It would be selfish of her not to want you to branch out and do something else. Please give her plenty of time to find someone else in the meantime and do what you can to help her find a replacement. Make sure that you come by and help the children adjust as best you can. Family will always be family, however; you still have children of your own and your own responsibilities and desires to do things with them, and also have some time off for yourself. Your sister should understand that, afterall, she is a mother as well and both of you need time away as much as you can get just to keep your own sanity. Just be honest and upfront and loving toward her and I am sure she will understand.
2007-05-15 08:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by THE SINGER 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does the gas price matter? Are you having to drive to her house? Can she bring them to you? What about splitting the time between you and a daycare? Either a month with you and then a month at daycare. Or maybe do it 2 days a week with you and the other 3 days at daycare. Many daycares have a part time price.
2007-05-15 08:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by ladybug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her PLENTY of lead time - this is going to be dropping a bomb on her.
Is their any opportunity for her kids to participate in a Day Camp or something for at least part of the summer - that would lessen your workload. At ages 8 & 10 they will want to be playing with kids of their own age - if you don't live in the same neighborhood perhaps she can locate someone in the neighborhood to watch them?
2007-05-15 08:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely at the start, it particularly is your mothers and dads duty in spite of ways little they're domicile. they're the mothers and dads not you. they're watching for to plenty from you and your sister. Chores might nicely be divided the two between you too and it particularly is something which you and your sister and fogeys are going to ought to sit down and make the checklist at the same time....as long as you do your chores, dont complication approximately your sister. You shouldnt ought to clean up after her, she is sufficiently previous. TIme for a family members assembly i think of, and you will ought to organize it.
2016-11-23 14:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't want to do it, you probably won't be as good with her kids as you would if you did want to. You are not being selfish. She is family, but you have to think about your kids first. I would let her know sooner rather than later that you can't do it. She will probably be upset, but that is her problem, not yours. Offer to help her find someone else to watch them. Since they are older, it shouldn't be too hard.
2007-05-15 08:03:02 · answer #6 · answered by e_imommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with your sister. Explain that your son's first year at school made you miss him, and now that summer is coming you want to spend quality time with him before school starts again.
2007-05-15 08:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by norielorie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way I can think of is to just tell her that you would like this free time with your kids to do parent and kid things together. Tell her you would be happy to do it now and then (designate when you would be okay with it if at all) but since you and your children worked all school year you would like this time alone with them. She may get upset, but hey, you have to think of you and YOUR children too.
2007-05-15 07:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by College~~Bound 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no law that you must spend all you productive years babysitting for family members of anyone else. You need to have time to yourself. Explain to her that you can't continue to care for them, inasmuch as you love them. Give her sufficient notice so that she can make other arrangements. Maybe you could even help her to find someone who can do the job.
2007-05-15 08:05:48 · answer #9 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just be honset with her. Let her know that you want to spend time with your child since he is in school himself. Your not being selfish. You just want time for your family for once.
Just talk to her. She might be upset at first but she will understand.
2007-05-15 08:02:48 · answer #10 · answered by New_Mama06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋