Or have you already? I'd love to hear about it, it sounds pretty sweet... I am kind of tempted because I'm engaged and I really don't want the hassle with trying to keep everyone happy and do you invite the friends of the parents or the second cousins and all that... plus there is a lovely church on the edge of a village surrounded by fields where my fiance's grandad is buried, and it's such a tiny church, can't possible fit everyone in... I really want to elope there! Do you think the family might get angry?
2007-05-15 06:50:36 · 60 answers · asked by floppity 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
May I just mention that someone is putting a thumbs down for everyone and it isn't me! I'm putting thumbs up!
2007-05-15 07:58:46 · update #1
Lee, elope means to get married without the whole wedding scene - I think you were thinking of emigrate!
2007-05-16 03:58:41 · update #2
This sounds terrible but I've been married three times so I am kind of an expert. I did the big wedding twice and you are right, you will never make everyone happy. My second wife and my family hated each other and my family didn't even come to the wedding. My third and current marriage was supposed to be just us in a small church and at the last minute we invited immediate family. They said they would have been so upset to miss this but wouldn't have ever said anything because they thought that that was what we wanted. My suggestion, a very small wedding and save the money and headache for the rest of you life together.
2007-05-15 06:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by rescueman91 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I have, and I would. Whether or not your family would get angry depends on the family. It is really up to you how you handle it; there's nothing wrong with compromise and taking your family's feelings into account, but at some point you will have to draw the line - where this line is drawn is different for everyone. I eloped when I got married the second time - we went to Vegas for a weekend, and came back married. It was fine with me, and I would have done the same thing again. Third time I got married, we had an informal outdoor ceremony with the friends and family; his parents were pusing for a more traditional wedding, but neither of us wanted it, so the line was drawn at keeping the wedding small and informal. You could invite just the closest family members and friends. Remember, you don't owe anyone a ceremony, and in the end, it is your happiness that counts the most. Congrats.
2007-05-15 07:11:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, my husband and I didn't exactly elope. We had a trip to Vegas coming up, and we decided to get married out there. A few family members came, but there were not a lot of people there at all. It was so fun. Sometimes, I wish that we would have had a big wedding with all of our family & friends, but at the same time, I didn't have all of the stress the most brides have to deal with when it comes to the planning of the wedding. I just got to enjoy it. It was the best day of my life. And then when we came back, we had a reception for all of our friends and family. It was alot of fun. I just thought it was nice to not have all the stress and to just be able to enjoy what should be the happiest day of your life. Congratulations! Just have fun with it, and do what YOU want to do. Your family may be a little upset that they aren't there, but they'll get over it, especially when they see how happy you are, and once the realize that you did what made you happy. Good luck with everything!!!
2007-05-17 04:51:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am a wedding planner who is engaged. at this moment in time i am planning a wedding for my best friend (mind you being a planner is pretty much like the one who is getting married) so i deall with all the fuss of"making everyone happy." now i mention i was engaged right and i also wanted the whole wedding thing but after seeing what really needs to go into a wedding it is VERY STRESSFULL and as a wedding planner i feel that the bride and the groom should be worring about nothing but their vows. now my advice would be either get a wedding planner for all the "fussiness" or do what i decided to do about my own wedding......go to the nearest justice of the peace or the place you said which sounds so beautifull and throw a huge party dont even tell people it a reception wait untill they get there and just say 'oh by the by we are married' but i would suggest that if you do decide to go with the small chruch (which i think is the right choice) you have to at least have both of your parents there or just your closest friends. congrats hope what ever you decide is what you both really want. best wishes
2007-05-16 16:28:10 · answer #4 · answered by diana m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wanted to elope but my husband to be wanted the family there. We ended up having a small ceremony for friends and family (about 50 people) and then renewed our vows on our honeymoon 5 months later. I was like having the best of both worlds. Maybe you should invite only a few key people to the church for the ceremony and have a large reception with everyone else. It is your wedding and if you want to elope your family might be a little upset but it is your dream day not theirs.
2007-05-15 07:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by 2littleiggies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some family members may get upset at first, but as they are family they will soon get over it, it is a happy event after all so even if some do get offended then give them time, they'll come around. You could just invite your parents. I have not eloped but I would do it, if it is how you want to do your wedding then follow your dream. It may be a nice idea to explain to family your reasons for eloping before you do it.
2007-05-15 23:16:03 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do an immediate family type wedding that way everyone is equally insulted but cannot complain. A friend of mine went to Scotland with his girlfriend and came back married. I think their parents might have been a bit upset but that is the way they wanted to do it.
Brother got married in Rome just immediate family a cousin who is a priest carried out the ceremony really very nice actually the best holiday I ever had.
if you do not want a big wedding then don't have a big wedding nobody can be insulted if you have immediate family and few close friends from either side.
2007-05-15 07:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by mixturenumber1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married before and so when we decided to get married we wanted to have a very small wedding with just the two of us. We have had the big crazy wedding where everyone is running around making sure everything is done and so this is what we wanted this time around! We flew to Cailforinia and got married on the coast of northern California on the beach a sunset barefoot. The photogopher was the witness and we stayed at a bed and breakfast for 4 days. They didn't have phones or tv there. This was the most romantic week!! Just the two of us celebrating our wedding! When we got back home we had a reception a week later with all of our family and our kids.
Our family understood that this is what was right for us and it was what WE wanted. They really didn't get mad. We did have them help with the reception, so they felt involved.
2007-05-15 07:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by mattswnrflwfe 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I eloped and would do it again. I have always imagined a big wedding, but that takes planning and money. I wanted to get married right away- I did not want to wait, also I wanted a house more than a wedding. I did by a white dress and my husband wore a tux. Save your money and elope. My family didn't mind. We actually told them we were going, and explained that we couldn't afford a big wedding. We had the wedding taped and had many pictures taken. They got to see them all when we got back.
2007-05-15 09:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Pure Romance by Jolynn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father told me when I was 10 yrs old to elope, I took is advice. We eloped to Vegas in 2000. It was wonderful. No stress, no hassle, no bickering. We told our parents 2 days before we were leaving to Vegas. We said if they wanted to see us get married, they knew where we would be. Our parents showed up. It was just us and our parents.
We talk about what we missed for not having a formal/big wedding. From what we have seen of our friends/family getting married...we didn't miss anything we would have regreted.
2007-05-15 08:08:35 · answer #10 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋