It's been 5 years since we broke up and I have been seeing someone for almost a year, but recently we (my ex & I) started texting and talking to each other. We even hung out once but I feel guilty not telling the guy that I'm seeing about it even though he's not considered my "boyfriend". Should I tell him or just end this talking with my ex?
2007-05-15 06:39:18 · 7 answers · asked by babygirl28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The first mistake you're making is not telling your current bf. It is absolutely possible to be friends with an ex. As long as you're honest with yourself. Are there any old feelings? If your ex has feelings or you do, then it won't work.
So first thing is first, talk to your current bf and see what he thinks. Hopefully he isn't the jealous type and respects you if you truly do have a good friendship with your ex. Secondly, how well do you know your ex? Has he moved on? Does he respect your relationship? Would he ever cause drama or are his feelings easily hurt?
If he has moved on, truly appreciates your friendship and things are ok with your current bf, then you can confidently say that you and your "ex" have moved from being "ex's" to friends. Once you can think of him as a friend and not an ex, then it can work.
2007-05-15 07:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are children involved then the better relationship you have with your ex (their father) the better things will be overall.
If he was just a boyfriend etc. and you have a new man in your life, you'd be better off backing off or risk losing current man.
That is unless you want to get back together with your Ex. That can be good - or bad. Remember - there was a reason why you two broke up in the first place...
2007-05-15 06:48:34 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I only talk to one guy I ever dated. My husband knew about him. As long as your honest, I don't think it will be a problem. But get ready for your current guy to ask you how serious the relationship was with the ex. That might cause some problems. If you try to hide it and he finds out, you'll be in some hot water.
2007-05-15 06:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what's the harm in being friends with your ex if there's no intimate feeling left for him? if your new bf really cared he would understand see you have to remember no matter how hard you try you can't erase the ex from your life he is part of your past and if you can be strong and rise above the issues you had and get past the resentment of breaking up you can have one hellva best friend
2007-05-15 06:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by sassysandyinmi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me and one of my ex's are actually bestfriends and have been for 3 yrs now. There is no sexual intrest between us so it works. As long as you explain to your new man how long its been and that its only a friendship it should be fine.
2007-05-15 06:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by WiCk CiTy SHaWdi 727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your not doing anything wrong, I don't think you have to tell the guy your seeing. Just make sure it stays a friendship.
2007-05-15 06:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by ♥KP♥MH♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's NOT good and it's actually impossible. You should respect your new man leaving your ex behind once and for all.
2007-05-15 06:42:42 · answer #7 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋