Do you think biblically *Commitment* is more important sometimes than love?

Question

As human beings full of emotions that can change from day to day, sometimes hour to hour, what happens when we don't feel so loving twoards a spouse, child, parents, friend neighbor
we don't just kick them all to the curb because we don't feel the love we should have for them at some certain times, but we honor our commitments to people as we honor GOD so my question is" Do you think Commitment is more important than Love since Love can change all the time?

Answer 1

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 show that 'true' love wouldn't not let such a thing happen.
What would make the love change anyway? Usually it's something that can be overcome or worked on.

Love is long suffering,
love is kind,
it is not jealous,
love does not boast,
it is not inflated.

It is not discourteous,
it is not selfish,
it is not irritable,
it does not enumerate the evil.
It does not rejoice over the wrong, but rejoices in the truth

It covers all things,
it has faith for all things,
it hopes in all things,
it endures in all things.

Love never falls in ruins.

Answer 2

True love does not even exist without commitment. The emotions you speak of are just "feelings". Feeling like you love someone does not mean you actually love them. Loving them is when you have a commitment to them. Ask any couple that has been married for a long time.

I have been married for 15 years. I don't always "feel" like I'm in love with my spouse. But I do love him all the time.

You can be committed to someone and not love them. But you cannot truely love someone without a commtiment.

Answer 3

I believe that love is nothing without committment.
I believe that many people confuse lust with love. They are not the same thing. Lust is all about the phsyical aspect of an attraction a person has towards another person. It's superficial. But real love includes understanding, compassion, forgiveness, patients, nurturing, and yes... committment. To know what real love is, you have to see it through the eyes of God, and look at your spouce, loved one,or friend as the whole person, flaws included. Because no one is absolutely perfect.

Even though we are all sinners, God still loves us. But for those who end up not going to heaven the way God would like them to, that was a choice in life they made for themselves.

There is something wrong with a relationship if people fall "in and out" of love so easily

Answer 4

I do think that Commitment is a stronger trait to have than Love.

Do not get me wrong without love in any relationship it sucks-- you might feel that it is completly useless but like you said we don't just kick them to the curb. We commit to something so we need to give our all at trying to save the relationship.

If and when nothing works-- thats a whole different issue.

Answer 5

So what happens when you don't feel live for your spouse for more than day? A month? A year? Are you just supposed to remain committed to the relationship even though you don't feel anything anymore?

Answer 6

Commitment is part of unconditional love. Sometimes we don't feel like loving, but we still unconditionally love and stick to our commitments.

Love doesn't change all the time. God loves us unconditionally all the time. Even the worst of us. Jesus died on the cross for our sins while we were yet sinners. Jesus didin't feel like dieing on the cross. He sweat great drops of blood when in the garden. But Jesus said that this is the greatest love, to die for ones friends.

Answer 7

If you truly love someone your mood swings have nothing to do with that love.If you love a spouse,child parent,etc.you will love and demonstrate that love each day irregardless of emotional feelings.the marriages today break up over the most silly reasons.That isn't love.Love says I will be there no matter what.Jesus demonstrated His love by suffering,and dying for every person's sins.He offered us salvation if we just ask and believe.

Answer 8

You trivialize love by seeing it as a fickle emotion hun. There is a difference between not liking what someone does and not loving the person, whether it has to do with religion or not.

The Bible is very clear as to what love is and is to be and to not follow Jesus' commandment to love your neighbor pretty much puts you in a place you do not want to find yourself.

The Ol' Hippie Jesus Freak
Grace and Peace
Peg

Answer 9

True love never changes, commitment is extremely important. But we commit out of love!

Answer 10

committment is important and people have forgotten that. When they fall out of love with their spouse they think nothing of getting a divorce. They say that they just grew apart, but what does that have to do with breaking a committment that they made? When you commit to something, it is supposed to be solid, not subject to change when things are going your way.