we broke up and got back together, in the mean time he went on a date w/ another girl and told her he loved her,
he doesnt want to have sex anymore, but he says that shouldn't matter, i agree but it is strange, he tells me he still loves me, but he has lied so much lately i dont know anymore.... please help.
2007-05-15 05:33:38 · 29 answers · asked by kcnash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'd say if you have to ask: you probably already know the answer. Just from the little bit of info you gave, I'm going to say no.
Move on, buck up and live life!!! No sense wasting your time on this guy!!
Good Luck, and smile!!! Ü
2007-05-15 05:38:58 · answer #1 · answered by CluelessOne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people break up, its not usually a mutual decision. There is a person who wants to be without the other person. I'm not trying to be negative, but maybe it wasn't the best idea for you two to get back together. I agree that sex isn't everything in a relationship, but it is a part of it. If you suspect something is not quite Kosher, then confront him in a non-nagging nature. Maybe plan out what you would say to him and be prepared to call things off if you continue to be lied to and hurt. Good luck!
2007-05-15 05:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a 30 year old male, I would say that they guy has some sort of hang-up, problem or concern that he isn't being truthful to you about. Perhaps it's an STD, he might have gotten the other girl pregnant, he cares for you and likes the idea of a relationship with you but doesn't love you. Bottom line: something isn't right and you are better off with someone who loves you and makes you feel loved!
2007-05-15 05:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mike T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MANY MANY personal experience has me drawn to answer this one.
He obviously broke up with you so he wouldn't feel like he was "cheating" on you as he went on this other date of his. BUT, you forgave him of anything he did when you got back with him, whether you knew about it or not beforehand...
The sex thing, maybe he just wants to make sure that Nothing POPS UP in the next couple of days.
Guys must feel the need to make sure what they have is the "GOODS" and that nothing compares or whatever...
If he told the other girl he loved her, look at it this way, he was either trying to make her feel good, or he was really pouring it on to sleep with her.
If he is good to you and you are happy with him, you should try to work through this. If you don't think that you can ever get past the fact that he could have slept with someone else, Move on to the next level of your life. He was just a stepping stone you needed to learn something.
Good Luck
2007-05-15 05:43:41 · answer #4 · answered by kirstycooley2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that he loves you because if he did he wouldn't have even been seeing the other gurl when you were apart that means that he didnt care about in the first place and second of all he would of never i mean never let the word i love u come out his mouth to another gurl well except if its his family but thats about it gurl move on because he going to make your life a living hell anymore questions email me at www.wifeymaterial92@yahoo.com
2007-05-15 05:41:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're boyfriend REALLY loved you, you wouldn't be on here asking if he did, you'd know. And this is 2007, guy's usually throw the word "love" around like it's nothing, usually a good line to get sex ( *L*egs *O*pen *V*ery *E*asy ) so who know's, he could actually love you, and just be saying he love's the other girl so he can get in bed with her, but sound's to me like you need to leave him alone, go on a date with another guy and see how he likes it.
2007-05-15 05:39:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to understand if your boyfriend loves you, you simply need to know what love is... Love is not the feeling one gets when another does something nice for them... that is called appreciation.
Love is the strong desire to give to another and do things for another after you've gotten to understand what they truly need.
Has your boyfriend tried to understand who you are? Does your boyfriend have a strong desire to give to you... give you a listening ear... give you the benefit of the doubt... give you the respect you deserve as a human being?
2007-05-15 05:44:32 · answer #7 · answered by Bin Yummy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm......if he's really like that to you, then he might have cheated on you. However, you didn't mention the amount of time that you and your bf have been going out. If that's the case, then I suggest you move on and find another guy. Sorry for being harsh on you but I think that's the right choice for you. ^_^
Best of luck.
--Jonathan
2007-05-15 05:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jonathan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has lied to you in the past and has told this to other girls, no question he is lying now. If he has done it in the past it only gets easier to do it again. And if he really loved you, you would know it without a dobut....
2007-05-15 05:36:58 · answer #9 · answered by Vic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he just wants to do what he wants, and doesn't respect you enough to be honest with you. It would be hard to trust someone who lies to you, so how would you ever know what he really means or how he means what he says if he has lied so much to you? Move on to better fish!
2007-05-15 05:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by karlee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋