Worried about my first time?

Question

im worried about having sex for the first time. my gf and i r virgens and i am scared i won't be good or know whut to do. my gf is scared of going on the pill, she thinks it might make her bloat up or get pimples. i dont want to get her pregnant but evem the suggestion of the pill and condoms didnt satsfy her.

Answer 1

The both of you are so not ready for having sex?
You aren't mature enough at all.
Just by what you've said i can tell its not a good idea.

Answer 2

Don't worry about knowing what to do or being good. If it's the first time for both of you it will be awkward, somewhat embarrasing, and be over in a flash. My suggestion to you would be not to pressure her into having sex, but instead get her to feel more comfortable with you by "fooling around", kissing, taking naps together, oral sex, and then slowly progress your relationship over time to the point where neither of you are apprehensive about having full intercourse. The pill isn't necessary if you wear a condom properly but a condom and the pill together lower the chances of getting pregnant to about .0001%. Make her feel special and loved and you will have a stronger relationship and a better chance at "sealing the deal".

Answer 3

Well if you arent ready why rush into things! Having sex is a big step to take in life because once you have it it is hard to stop having it, your body asks for it. And well in regards of the pill it is very effective 99.9% ,it will not make you get pimples it will actually make them go away, and of course the condom works against HIV & STD's and the pill does not protect against HIV. I will really advice you not to have sex if you dont feel comfortable because you will not enjoy it b/c you'll be worring about getting pregnant, also to reduce the risk of getting pregnant try not to have sex during your fertile weeks. I hope this helps

Answer 4

first of all how old are u second descuss it with her its better to not do it if u are both uncomfortable it one of the first warning signs that ur not read just wait till the time is right (you will no) right now ur probably telling ur body its time but ur mind is telling u otherwise when everything feels right and ur both comfortable that is when you should do it unless ur like really young and by the way by doing something that makes the other person uncomfortable will just make the situation acward and will end in a disaster dont do something that ur mind and body tell u otherwise its called a hunch meaning that something doesnt feel right (its a sign that something bad will happen by doing it and ur it an instinct and when it acts up its best not to ignore it but to listenn to it and trust in ur self its kind or like the little devil and angel ur concsence is basically telling u not to and that it is wrong) u shouldnt be pushing eachother to do something neither of u want to do

p.s. why are you doing it any way when both of u obviously dont feel comfortable doing it. its better not to do something u might regret later because if u make a mistake like that u might not have a girl friend at all in the end

Answer 5

As it both your first times, your both going through the same process dont be scared yea its your first time but you both will be fine. As for the pill it does make the girl bloated but there are pills that dont make her bloated she just has to ask the doctor. Honestly i dont believe in condoms because theres always a chance they can split, and then she may have to take the morning after pill.

Answer 6

definitly get her on the pill, it wont make her bloat or get pimples if anything the complete opposite! your first time might hurt her a lil at first thats completly normal! you'll both really enjoy it once you get the hang of it, find a good position and take it slow and easy at first then when your comfortable you set the speed! always use condoms unless you want a baby ruining your life! condoms should be safe is u use them right even without the pill, just make sure it dont slip off in the middle of it!

Answer 7

You know, even though a bunch of people around your age already has done it, why do you? why get in trouble when there's no need to. Why try to do something that can not only hurt her but yourself as well. Sex is a beautiful experience for people that are IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER and ready to spend their lives together, you are just ready to be like the same and explore but by exploring you could become a dad when it wasn't yet your time.

Answer 8

Dude use protection for sure.

If u don't like condoms and she don't wanna take the pill, then try that contraceptive foam spermacide stuff. Before my gf got on the pill, we used that and it was awesome.

And u WILL know what to do...just go with it. It's massive tight the first time tho. It's so tight it hurts your dick man...so be warned....Bloody too.

Answer 9

Above all i recommend you of not having sex if you are insecure although you shouldn't even have sex if you are not %100 certain that that is your love, otherwise just don't even try sex because it could become a surprise burden that you don't want for the rest of your life for not choosing an appropiate partner to marry.

Answer 10

People who can't spell "Virgin" should probably remain "Virgens"
Although the anxiety that you are going through is normal,
all of this drama makes me think that at least one of you may be too immature for sex right now.
Ask questions of health care professionals, not the Yahoo's on Yahoo.
Good luck.

Answer 11

well i think that maybe u 2 shouldnt do nething then, its real cool u 2 plan on losing yall virginity together but u should use some sort of protecetion. honestly it seems to me someone wants a child but dont no how to say it, wear protection! oh yeah dont worry about satifying her because i believe that will work out on its own just flow with it dont put pressure on urself or her it makes things easier..........sorry for the novel...lol