I just found out. I live in another state, and my family is taking good care of our friend. I feel like a card or a phone call isn't enough. I am familiar with suicide, that is how my mother died. The family friend was one of my mother's best friends. Now it's her brother.
What can I do?
2007-05-15 05:23:20 · 9 answers · asked by melissa13182 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Pray for the family.
and just be a friend.
2007-05-15 05:26:13 · answer #1 · answered by sugarplumlulu™ ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make the trip if possible, if not I would send a card and flowers for sure. It may not feel like enough but it will be noticed. Also, you might try sending a food tray to the home. If you were familiar with her brother and have any stories of him, you might try writing a lengthy letter recalling good times. Call her and just let the conversation start itself, be supportive and avoid any mention of any kind of judgment mentality. If she is Christian and broaches the subject, suggest that God was there in the last moments and no one can know exactly what happened. No matter whether you or anyone else believes her son is in heaven, it may be important for her to believe it, and it may be true. Also, remember your mother. If this mother is one of her best friends she may be feeling a great amount of pain for her. What a difficult circumstance for everyone. May God be there to offer comfort to all of you.
2007-05-15 05:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by future dr.t (IM) 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in basic terms be in contact and be certain you're there for them interior right here few weeks. possibly the worst time in coping with a tragedy like it fairly is whilst all the people have long previous homestead after the funeral and you're left on my own with what has surpassed off. likely in case you flow there now, from out of state, you would be able to desire to be in the way. in case you flow flow to, do it each week or 2 from now. this is often the main depressing time for something like this. once you do flow to, in basic terms be silent and hear and be their buddy. stay faraway from the prevalent platitudes. they have all been suggested via all people else. If there is no longer something so you might assert to them, that's what must be suggested. desire your buddy gets by way of this ok. we can be praying for you and them besides.
2016-10-05 02:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and send the card and follow up with a phone call. This way they know you are thinking of them. While on the phone let them know that they are in your prayers. Then faithfully pray for this family.
2007-05-15 05:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by kt 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to hear that. If you're able to, attend the funeral. If not, maybe regular phone calls for a few months, and a card with a letter written by you inside? I don't know; that's a tough one. Good luck to you and to your friend.
2007-05-15 05:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by I WALK FUNNY 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pray for them....and just be there is needed...some times we want to do things
because we are depressed too...just be there for your mom...she really needs you now...God Bless You and your family
2007-05-15 05:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kerilyn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray
Attend the funeral if you can
Listen
and
Be there as much as your able
and
If they cry let them................
Peace be with you.....
You are all in my prayers.
2007-05-15 05:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he a soldier in Afghanistan or Iraq ??
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2007-05-15 05:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Alla yer7amoh
2007-05-15 05:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by Donets'k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋