ok i want to end it with my girlfriend becuse its a longdistence relationship and she to inmature for me but i dont want to hurt her...how should i end it?
2007-05-15 05:15:31 · 16 answers · asked by seth williams! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just dump her. you dont have to worry about her crying to you if you break up with her in an email. you really shouldnt be with her if your not happy with the realationship. find someone else closer to home that can make you happy.
2007-05-16 00:56:17 · answer #1 · answered by Nay Nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi buddy , first let me be your friend , my nickname is zoma and u can call me by that name . Your problem isn't big dude , but if u like her u don't have to end it with her , but if u don't , just go and tell her " Look , i'm going to tell u something , i don't think that u r the suitable girl for me because u are always inmature about me ! , but i didn't mean to hurt your feeling " . if u want this relationship to keep going , u will say : " Please i want u to be mature about me and i swear i didn't mean to hurt ur feelings " If she told u okay i'll be mature about u and she really does that then u r good to go , but if she ran away or told u something else , tell her again the u swear that u didn't mean to hurt her feelings , and tell her " r u sad from me " . See what will she say , if she said no then u r the man , but if she told u yes , then u try as much as u can to cheer her up by telling her a joke then by telling her that u were very sorry . Good luke dude , and from my point of view I guess u (( shouldn't )) end this relationship . For the second time : Good luck !!
2007-05-15 05:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by henry.zoma_fifastreet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly their is no nice way to break up with someone. Either way when a relationship comes to an end someone always gets hurt. Don't try to make an excuse or give her the whole its not you its me things because that will only make it worse. She knows those lines. So the best thing to do is just tell her the truth. Maybe she will get lucky and learn from it. Don't be afraid to be honest. Covering it up will only hurt her more in the end. Tell her the truth and be done with it! Good luck! Hope i could help!
2007-05-15 05:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Meagan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just break up her, telling her that she is too good for you and you don't think everything is how it's supposed to be. With the immature part, I say just let her know so she won't make the same mistake. If the relationship is long distance, then after you break up with her, occasionally call her to check on about her. After she has met someone new, say that she's a great person, and leave it like that. My friend just broke up with her 6-month boyfriend. I told her the same advice (boy advice though) and it went very well. He was calm and confident. Try it!! Hope this helps!!!!!!
2007-05-15 05:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would end it in person.I had a guy fairly older than me dump me when i was 22. I was so hurt, I cried for days.I was immature at the time.But I got over it, and now me and the guy dont see each other much, but we can talk and I had the closure i needed.
Unless shes very emotionally unstable I wouldnt worry. But young ladies can be crazy. I was never crazy but I did cry alot more lol.I dont think there is anyway you cant hurt her.But it would hurt her more knowing you dont feel the same way about her.She may surprise you and be relieved.
2007-05-15 05:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest, though not in the same words you used in the question. Just tell her it's not working or has no future or isn't the relationship you want or you're not in love or whatever else applies. Avoid cliches, no one thinks "it's not you, it's me" is sincere.
You can wait until you're ready, but don't delay too long. You're probably not a good boyfriend during that interval between deciding to break up and actually doing it.
2007-05-15 05:24:17 · answer #6 · answered by DW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you end it, you're going to hurt her. There's a misconception that there's a "nice" way to break up with someone that allows you to avoid upsetting them. You just have to be honest with her...if you want to make it easier on her, tell her it's just hard because of long distance, and avoid confronting her with anything personal (for instance, don't mention you think she's too immature). Good luck.
2007-05-15 05:19:44 · answer #7 · answered by lafemelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and kind. She is going to be hurt, but eventually she will get over it and find someone else. Just tell her that because its a long distance relationship you just need to concentrate on other things right now.
2007-05-15 05:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like pulling off a bandage. Beating around the bush and hinting at it will just prolong the pain. Be polite but firm. She's going to either blow up or negotiate.
If she
Blows up - stay calm
Negotiates - stay firm
2007-05-15 05:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going to hurt her (and you) is letting it drag on when you aren't interested in being involved anymore. Just make the clean break as soon as possible. Be as kind and gentle as possible but be firm and do it.
2007-05-15 05:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋