How can I make this work?

Question

Hi, last wk, it was my grandma's bday. My bf of 3 yrs (26 and I'm 25) was invited and he chose not to attend. He met my mom (once), not my close relatives. Yest, I was bridesmaid for my friend's wedding and was planned months in advance he would come. But at very last min., he told me couldn't come. His reasons are he is uncomfortable, and they are strangers to him, so what's the point of attending. The only function he attends is my bday (no-one else around). Strange part is that in our first yr, he attended almost all the functions I invited him to (to impress me). Now, he backs out of everything. My friends/fam never said anything bad of him b/c it's impossible since he hardly met any of them. I attend all his fam/work events. He attends his friends' bdays. We've discussed marriage, he loves me and he knows about how important these events are to me. Next wk is my mom's bday, should I give myself an ultimatum? How can I get him to attend my friends/family functions?

Answer 1

This may be a sign that deep down he no longer has long-term plans for you. If he did he would take it seriously to become part of your family. Probably time to confront him about it and move on if you are looking for real commitment and not just serial monogamy.