Last Friday this guy that I have been dating for about a month called me last minute to go with him to a sports event. We meet close by the place of the event but decided to take only one car, so he told me to park my car by a fast food restaurant. When we came out of the event we found out my car has been towed. Since it was so late, the towing place was close. I couldn’t pick up my car until two days after the incident. I’m a single mom with a mortgage, $160 in towing fees are steep for me. He has offered to pay for it, but I’m not sure if he is fully responsible for the incident or if I should take the money. I like this guy and I do not want to make it awkward by taking money that I should not have. He does feel responsible for it, but I’m not sure he is.
1- Should I take the money, just half or none at all?
2- If I take the money... what's the polite thing to say?
Thank U for your answers!!!
2007-05-15 05:11:20 · 11 answers · asked by Bri 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is awkward. It was his decision on what to do with your car. I guess I would take at least 80 dollars. Just say, "may God bless you for the help."
2007-05-15 05:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least take half, and when I did I would let him know I appreciated it very much, I would let him know that you don't hold him responsible, but you need the money because times are hard right now, and that maybe in the future you can treat him to a night out, or something like that, he seems nice if he is offering to pay for it, but don't get in a situation where youfeel like you owe him anything. If you feel like you will have to repay him, I may not take any of it.
2007-05-15 12:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by Alysia B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a tough question. If i were in the situation, i would definatley not take all the money. I probably would not take any of it if i could afford to pay for it, or if I couldn't afford it I would take half, and tell him thank, and let him know you would not take any of the money, but your really hard up for cash right now and he's really helping you out. you don't want him to think your only there to suck him dry.
2007-05-15 12:17:26 · answer #3 · answered by wingedstrider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him pay for it. He probably knows you can't afford it and he wants to help. Tell him how much you appreciate it, be honest with him about your situation. At least you already know that he's willing to help you financially, so he seems like a pretty good guy. If the relationship works out, he will probably be helping you more, so just try to get used to accepting money from him. There's nothing wrong with it. Let him help you.
2007-05-15 12:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Neica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he is offering then accept.If it make you feel better.After he pays tell him you will pay him back half of it.I think it is both of your faults really.
Dont feel bad for accepting it.Obviously he wants to.So be very grateful and demand that you pay for half.Even if it is only $20.00 dolars a month or something.I wouldnt feel bad for accepting his generousity.I dont think it will affect anything.Im sure he understands your money situation.And is more than happy to make sure you are happy.A good man would offer
2007-05-15 12:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really can't afford the ticket take the money. It's not rude he offered. And as a thank you you could do something like cook him his favourite meal at your place or something. Not that you have to say thank you but it would be a nice thing to do.
2007-05-15 12:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Susan G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "I don't want you to have to pay for it because it is not your fault the car got towed and I would feel bad taking your money." Then he will insist that he pays for it and then you say "ok fine. Thanks a lot. I really appreciate it." Or if you're really unlucky, he'll just say ok you can pay for it but I doubt he will do that cuz everyone always insists they'll pay. gl
2007-05-15 13:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by Johnny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be a good guy and feels at least partially responsible. If it were me I'd pay it myself. But I don't see anything wrong with him paying half either.
BTW good job in asking the question coherently. Refreshing.
2007-05-15 12:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by elurle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it sounds to me like if i was in this situation i would take half of the money.That way you are paying half and he is paying half,you each would be taking half the responsibility by paying half and half.Good Luck!
2007-05-15 12:16:47 · answer #9 · answered by Daniel Hillhouse`s Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it would not matter if i was responsible or not --- i would still want to help you --- we are going out so to me its not a big deal --- i cant say what he is thinking you know him better than we do --- maybe talk to him let him know how you feel and work something out that keeps you both happy ---- best wishes
2007-05-15 12:16:50 · answer #10 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋