Sorry for anyone this might "offend" but I just have to ask.
I've been with my boyfriend now 2 & 1/2 years, & we've been having sex for about the last year & 1/2.
My problem is....Everytime (EVERYTIME) we have sex...he cums fast. We've never had sex more than 15mins at a time, and my friends talk about their b/fs going for 45 mins to an hour before finishing.
Is there something he could do to possibly keep from finishing so soon?????
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
2007-05-15 04:51:21 · 14 answers · asked by ♥Yes Im K.A.B's Mommy :)♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gosh, I wish I could give you some advice. But the sad truth is that I have the same problem. My man "gets there" verrrrry quickly. It's frustrating! He says it's because my "stuff" is so good. And while that is true :), I think he should learn to control himself. The one thing I know for sure is that doing it doggie style will almost always make them "get there" faster.
2007-05-15 04:57:43 · answer #1 · answered by Diamond Diva 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, it depends on when you are starting the clock.
Do you mean, 15 minutes from the time you start foreplay? Or do you mean 15 minutes from the time he enters you?
If it's the latter, and you've actually timed him accurately, then he's already going more 3 times more than the average time!
Look 15 minutes during the actual in/out phase is a LONG time. Are you sure you've got an accurate time? Next time glance at the clock right he's in. Then look again when he's done. I would bet it's not 15 minutes.
What you should do to extend the whole thing is to extend the foreplay part. Also, if he is taking a short time, it could be a breathing issue -- tell him to breathe when you think he's getting close. He may be holding his breath towards the key moment.
2007-05-15 05:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all you know, they can just do foreplay for the 44 minutes and 30 seconds and then they have intercourse and he lasts 30 seconds! Women and Men both tend to exaggerate to make the others look good, if not themselves. I wouldn't put too much stock in anything they say. You and your bf aren't your friends and their mates and vice versa. Everyone is different. And as far as not making him finish so soon, masterbate him or have sex with him more often. Sex is like a workout. The more you do it, the better accustomed to it you'll be and your endurance will be longer. Orgasms are a mind thing as well, so make sure neither one of you are stressed. Also orgasms tend to be prolonged for those who are in good physical shape. If your partner doesn't work out or anything, then that could be a reason why. I hope I helped you out. Good luck!
2007-05-15 05:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by Papi Grande 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try having him control his breathing.The faster you breath the faster you will orgasm.If he does finish to fast.Which I hate to tell you all guys do sometimes.Have some more foreplay for about 10 to 15 minutes and get him ready and he should last a lot longer.
Or maybe try oral sex first.Have him do you until you are at that point or past it and then you insure you get yours to.
Then that 15 minutes will be great.Foreplay is good for the man to.Sometimes we can relax and take our time with foreplay and it helps the anxiety of it all.
2007-05-15 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need more foreplay, just dont jump into action so fast..if he is doing it for 15 minutes at a time, then keep repeating until he can stay longer..and never compare him to other guys.. that is just too much pressure..maybe you are so hot that he cant stop.. maybe any other guy would be the same wwith you..but just one" fast one".. isnt enought to satisfy both of you..maybe the location where you meet is the ideal place to be either.. try a different hotel or something, where you can take your time.
2007-05-15 05:31:42 · answer #5 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting him satisfied in another way the first time around. He will last much longer the second time. You might also have him do oral on you first and get you satisfied. Then you might be willing to have him finish as he usually does, too early.
2007-05-15 04:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by Cisco Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The big question, Do you get off in 15 minutes?? If you do don't worry about the length of time it takes, it doesn't matter how long it takes as long as your both happy with your sexlife. If you don't then tell him what you would like him to do to satisfy your needs. Or if he can go more than once, do it again. Good luck.
2007-05-15 04:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Something you can do? Sure, in the middle of the act, tell him you posted this question here!
FYI - I am good in bed, but 45 minutes / an hour is rare - I usually celebrate if I can go that long! (invite friends over, party, high fives...)
2007-05-15 04:56:36 · answer #8 · answered by John Q Harris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can try something to get him more relaxed like a glass of wine or something. Try a little less foreplay and if all else fails there's always the little blue pill. LOL
2007-05-15 05:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by Babygirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take breaks such as kissing him on the neck and hand..then let him go! Do you watch porn--That may be the reason he is speeding up the c u m cycle
Glad I could Help
2007-05-15 04:55:29 · answer #10 · answered by JBreezy. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋