my 20 month old daughter has 5 large teddy teletubbies thats she HAS to take EVERYWHERE. if we dont take them, she gets really upset.i even have to tuck them all in at night and theres not much room left to her!!lol how can i get her to just maybe take the one places and just tuck one in at night?!!
2007-05-15 04:49:08 · 15 answers · asked by xloux 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I think you just have to be firm and tell her she has to leave part of her tubbies at home. This sounds a bit harsh, but tell her to pick the one that she wants to take a long and leave the rest behind. Tell her they are going to stay home and take a nap (or something equally boring to a 20 month old) while she is gone and she can play with them when she gets home. If she puts up a fuss in the car, she will get over it. It may be a little difficult for you to deal with your child being unhappy but sometimes we just have to place limits, accept the consequences, and praise them when they follow your rules. As for sleeping in the bed with them, I would just leave that alone for awhile. As long as it's not interfering with her sleep, I would just let her keep having them in bed with her. At this age, it's a comfort item and I think completely harmless. It's probably just a phase and eventually, she will find something new, probably equally irritating! :o) that she HAS to have.
I can understand why you would not want to tote all of them around with you every time you go somewhere, so I think you are right to limit her to one for outings.
Also, I totally disagree with the person that said give them all to charity and leave one for her. This is a HORRIBLE thing to do to a toddler. This is not a concept that a 20 month old can understand.
Good luck.
2007-05-15 06:49:44 · answer #1 · answered by Amy27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess theres 2 ways you could do it:
1) Tell her firmly she can only have 1 at a time...let her choose or if shes being stubborn you chose one and put others in sight but out of reach. She may get distressed but will get used to it if it becomes routine. Lots of praise for though at all times!
2) Gradually take one away-say its in the wash. Then thats one less...and gradually get her down to one or two over time! Else replace the 5 with one new extra special one!
Also is her room "child friendly"....does she have nightlight, suitable bed, things that make scary shadows removed etc...maybe the teddies have become security!
I had a few teddies and a blanket I took everywhere...I had them all the time till about 3, then slept without when nearly a teen :)
2007-05-15 08:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem, my son was given very large disney characters and he insisted he took them everywhere and to bed!!! I ended up buying smaller versions to tuck in with him and we made a sleeping bag on the floor for the large ones. This worked and now he only takes tigger to bed. You have to be gentle with them as toys are traumatic business! It took me quite some time but by using the smaller toys it did work. I also said that the big toys didn't like being in bed with him because it was too squashed!!! LOL Hope this helps!
2007-05-15 05:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by crafty ails 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Mum Used To Gradually Start Taking Them Off Me So Soon I Only Had One Teddy. You Should Try That.
2007-05-15 04:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Miaa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is me doing my heartless mum thing BUT realistically for your daughters well being she needs, love, attention, food and good care. Not teletubbies. She will scream, she will cry and 2 nights later she will completely have forgotten about them. The great thing about 20mths is a very short memory! Honestly it will be a dreadful few days but well worth it for seeing a more independent little one. You wont permanently scar her. They are kids not china dolls.
2007-05-16 00:49:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me know. Because my 28 month old son taken 3 blankets and his wendy doll and his bob doll everywhere. I finally got him to leave them in the car should we get out somewhere, but he must sleep with them all. I figure they must make him feel secure when he goes to sleep and when he somewhere outside of the home. I just can't take that away from him. I try compromising, but the poor thing is attached.
2007-05-15 04:59:02 · answer #6 · answered by MommyofTwo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could go out and find a special teddy from the bear factory (if your in britain) as the sales assistants there make buying a bear there very special. If she has one extra special bear she may prefere that one. But toddlers know what they want. Good luck.
2007-05-16 08:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by carinaburke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to be a bit hard on her, by being firm and say, "No you can take one for today", if you stick to your guns she will understand. When she stops crying, you must praise her like mad, sounds crazy, but if you give her lots of praise and attention for the behaviour you want to see from her, and just ignore her on the behaviour you don't want to see.
You are her role model, and you have to teach her watch is right and what is wrong.
Please persevere (sorry can't think of right spelling) aswell, because she will soon come around.
2007-05-15 05:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by MercuryRising 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she is a big girl now and other children need the other bears go to a charity shop and hand them over leave 1 for her. Tell her you are So proud of her and it will help children with no toys. Also buy her a treat. Hope this works.
2007-05-15 05:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by scorpiotoo2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe try telling her we have to chosse one teletubby today hunny as the rest are tired and need you to tuck them in bed while we are gone out
my little boy is nearly four and he still carrys a massive floppy dog most places but he puts her to bed whilst he is at school ect ....
they do grow out of it
i promise lol
2007-05-16 00:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by sweetchant1lly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋