Why do some guys have so much luck with women, and others (myself) can't have any?

Question

Why do guys who have girlfriends get so much attention from other women, and I can't get one woman to notice me. Everywhere I go it seems as though I am invisible. No women ever give me a glance. I don't think I am a bad looking guy. I take pride in my appearance, I try to make eye contact, but women just don't seem interested.

Sometimes I think some people are meant to be alone, and that scares me. If there is a God, how can he allow this?

Answer 1

If you were to ask 100 women whats the top three things they look for in a man, I gaurantee 1 would be Confidence. I can tell by your convo that your lagging in this. Theres guys I know that are not all that good looking but have a Confidence level that could'nt be shooken because of there THOUGHTS about getting women. Remember, As you thinkith so shall it be. Replace all those thoughts of doubt with words of encouragement. Write this down on paper "I am confident in all that I do, my self esteem is at a level that will be noticed and magnetizing to all women." Read it as much as you can until it becomes stamped in your brain. Then simply visualize yourself talking to the type of woman you want, I mean see it as vivid as you can, feel it as deep as you can, even imagine how her scent will smell, how her voice sounds, the words you want said, all you want to happen. Keep in mind theres no short cutts to the Spiritual realm, so patience is key. Now smile and go on your journey to get as many women as you want.

Answer 2

No one is meant to be alone. You controll your own destiny. Show some confidence, stop waiting for women to notice you and notice them. Walk pass them and smile, open the door for a pretty lady, start up a conversation about something funny, be more friendly. It sounds as if you're standing on the sidelines waiting for someone to notice you and sometimes it just doesn't happen like that. You have to make yourself seen.

Don't be afraid, the worse thing she could do is say no or reject you which means you'll only end up right back where you are. The important thing is that if you at least try you might get some positive results. Don't be shy, build your confidence.

Answer 3

Dude, God put you on this earth and what you do with the gift of life is completely up to you. You can either sit here and wonder why like you're doing or you can just not worry so much about it and let things be. You can control your attitude (it kind of sucks right now, no girl wants a debbie downer), and you can make it for the better. Instead of wondering why no girls will notice you, enjoy yourself. Most girls are attracted to guys who just don't take notice to other women. It's a form of chivalry in my opinion. Secondly, Girls (and guys too!) tend to want what they can't have. If a guy has a gf, he's more then likely to get hit on because it's that "x" factor that he has a gf and the girl knows he can't have him, and it just makes things more interesting in the mind of the females. Males too with women! Despite you thinking that "it seems like you're invisible," you're really not. You're noticed by at least one girl, no matter where you go! The object of the game is to find that girl who notices you and strike them with your personality. How do you that you ask? by talking to them. The rest is up to you. Good luck!

Answer 4

The guys that have girlfriends usually have confidence. That is very attractive in a man. Maybe you're unintentionally giving women a bad vibe with your attitude. You shouldn't think that you're meant to be alone, or you will be. You're just as good as the other guys, but you have to believe in yourself. And don't take it personally if some women aren't interested. Because someone out there is waiting to meet you. Good Luck!

Answer 5

There are many different reasons and im sure you have heard some of them. For instance some guys will says its confidence. Others will say charm or charisma, some will say turn her on mentally blah blah blah...but I honestly think that if you are truly looking for someone you will find them..maybe u got out of a relationship with someone, or havent been in any good ones and you are unsure how to talk to the oppostire sex.beleive me i know exactly how that feels, but dont try too hard and dont worry about it..girls are verrry funny creatures and no matter how long we try we will never figure them out exactly...and the ones you are trying to attract just may not be interested cause of many reasons....maybe their insecure as well and want you to approach them...women love attention but not too much..its like a rubix cube man i tell you, but trust me, when u see the one you truly have feelings for..you will get her...cause all of your energy will be focused on getting just that....peace man..

Answer 6

I'm a girl in the same situation. I even tried bettering myself. I lost a ton of weight (40 lbs) and I'm in pretty good shape. I don't think I'm a bad person...

I think there is a God and that God has a plan for everyone. If you're not meant to get married and have a family, God has something else planned for you. Also, maybe try to stop looking for a girlfriend. You never know what'll happen...serendipity

Answer 7

Let me float an idea. Why is he watching porn? is there a fantasy he wants that he is watching and either you will not fulfill or he has not asked? You indicate you are married Ok I am not throwing a stone here but are you physically the same person you were when you married? There are some folks male as well as female that once married tend to let their appearance and physical attractiveness slide. Now for a really erotic idea. Why do you not suggest to your husband that the two of you make your own pron film? No, I am not suggesting group sex or gay sex, but something for just the two of you by the two of you. If you and he were to have several video cams in different locations he could then edit the various takes to Create his own porn film starring you. (Not that you would want to show it at the next family gathering).

Answer 8

You have to dress kind of rough and tough, kinda like a tough construction worker--faded jeans, some work boots, a t shirt or a flannel shirt, let your beard stubble grow, and then ignore them.

Or flash big wads of money around a lot, that often gets the desired result.

I know a guy who wears hospital scrubs whenever he goes shopping, the ladies always assume he is a doctor and he is never lacking for dates.

Be cynical. They are as shallow as we are. Yet know that there are great girls out there, beautiful wonderful people, loving and sweet, yes they are there, but you have to wade thru the masses to find the real good ones.

Answer 9

It seems that as soon as a guy is taken a girl wants him it's just wierd like that. Are you shy? Do you ask girls out alot? Cause I know most girls like the guy to make the first move. I can never tell when a guy likes me even when all my friends know he does. So I would say get to know some girls and see if you connect it's not always an instant attraction.

Answer 10

It's feast or famine, it happens to me all time. The day I start a serious relationship that's when every woman in town wants to date me! Not a glance for years, then when I find a nice girl to date, all the chicks are giving me the "look." I don't know why, I just notice that's just what happens.