I am a Catholic but my fiance is not he does not know I am a Catholic. But we intend to get marry soon I hint to my fiance about being a Catholic he did not object but he does not want to join me being a Catholic what should I do?
2007-05-15 04:07:52 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I did not intend to keep to him for long he attend church with me but I never told him that I am a Catholic. I know I am wrong but my fiance's mum is a taoist she told my fiance not to join me.
2007-05-15 04:20:18 · update #1
I am a Catholic because my ex bf he is a Catholic in order to marry him I join the RCIA but during my RCIA he ran away with another girl but I continue anyway because I love to attending Mass I love and I am proud being Catholic but my fiance he told me that he hope that I am not a Catholic because of his mother dislike.
2007-05-15 04:25:22 · update #2
Yes you can marry each other but he doesn't have to join your church ever. My brother isn't Catholic and his wife is. They were married several years ago. They did go through the pre cana classes but opted not to go with a full Catholic ceremony. I'm dating a Catholic and I'll probably just convert but that isn't required or necessary to marry him.
2007-05-15 04:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say, but if your fiancee doesnt know you're Catholic I'm sure there are other things he doesnt know about you and things you dont know about him. Religion is very important in a person's life and him not knowing you're Catholic is like him not knowing you're last name. How does he not know you're Catholic, it's such a huge part of your life.
Catholisism is such a beautiful thing. I used to sing in the church choir at my Catholic church since I was 9 years old up until I turned 19. I was in the youth group since I was 10 and was part of the Youth Group coucil when I was 15. I met some of my greatest friends in that Youth Group. My husband went to the youth group as well. Even though that's not where we met (we already knew each other from school) this was something we grew up doing together. And now that we're married it's so great that we get to share a lot of the same memories.
Sorry, back to your question. In order for you to get married in a Catholic church you must both be baptized Catholic. And the only way for your fiancee to get baptized Catholic is to convert to Catholisism and to do that he needs to go to RCIA classes.
Maybe you should set up a meeting with your priest and have your fiancee talk to him and see what your priest can tell him. I know our priest is the best, he's a great leader and a terrific person. I'm sure you're priest would love to talk to your fiancee if you just ask.
Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2007-05-15 04:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys should have definately talked about this before becoming engaged. How did he not know that you were Catholic... are you practicing the religion actively? You cannot marry him in the church if he is not Catholic. Of course you can still get married, but it will not be a valid Catholic wedding. If he does not want to convert you need to think about whether you are okay in not being married in the eyes of the church and also how you plan to raise your children. Do you want them to be Catholic? Is he okay with raising your children Catholic even though he is not? These are all things that you need to talk about with your fiance. You two need to have open and honest communication now before you get married and these issues become much bigger deals.
2007-05-15 04:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How Catholic are you? Raised Catholic, but not particularly observant now? How important is it to you that your children be raised in the faith? If you haven't discussed these things with your fiance yet, now would be a good time.
You need to know that if you enter into a "mixed" marriage outside of the church without a dispensation, you may not be able to receive the sacraments. I'd strongly suggest talking this over with a priest, so that you fully understand what's at stake and can make an informed decision one way or the other. Please don't rely on internet message board answers, including mine, for something so important.
2007-05-15 04:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Clare † 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually very simple. As far a church law goes. A Catholic is allowed to marry a non-Catholic. If you are concerned about the church's approval all you need is a special dispensation from the bishop to marry a non-Catholic. They're actually very easy to get as the church is really understanding on this issue. If you're concerned about how his not wanting to be Catholic affects your relationship otherwise than I think it's really just a question of wether or not it bothers either of you.
2007-05-15 04:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by regiven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you kept it from him so you are not proud of being a Catholic. You can marry anyone you want but not in a Catholic church. You had better get your religious differences settled now before you get married or have kids. It can be the cause of problems.
2007-05-15 04:17:06 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am Baptist and I married a Catholic. The only thing that you will have to discuss now is things like: If you have children are you going to baptize them as infants? Are you going to raise your children Catholic? Do you want to be married in the Church? How will your family react to marrying a nonCatholic, how will his react to you being Catholic?
My husband and I discussed all this before we where married and it helped out alot, because now we are expecting our first child and when questions come up from his family about infant baptism, I know that my husband is behind me and we stand together on the decisions we have made about how we are going to raise our children.
Just make sure you and your fiance get it all straightened out before you get married. I hope it all works out.
Good luck, and God bless.
2007-05-15 04:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes. just don't do a full mass at the wedding. if someone isn't catholic they aren't supposed to participate in communion in the catholic church. they'll tell that to the guests too, if you do mass at the ceremony. so...you're going to marry someone and you can't even tell him what denomination of christianity you belong to? sounds like you're off to a good start. communication is high. that's good. AND...if it means a lot to you to marry another catholic (which there's nothing wrong with, it would definitely make things easier when it comes to making important decisions, especially involving any children) then, dump this guy and go find one.
2007-05-15 04:18:09 · answer #8 · answered by practicalwizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Catholic Church allows marriage between Catholics and non-Catholics.
Because the Church recognizes the tremendous challenge that the interfaith couple will face, they may have to get permission from the bishop.
With love in Christ.
2007-05-15 18:12:44 · answer #9 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a Catholic person can marry a non-Catholic. The better question is are you ready to get married? You shouldn't have any secrets from your fiance. You need to discuss religion, finances and goals before you proceed. Will you raise your children catholic- would he be opposed to this, etc. Speak to your church. They will require marriage counseling and pre-cana classes before the wedding, but he does not have to convert.
2007-05-15 04:15:02 · answer #10 · answered by terasa425 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋