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I want to try and enjoy my birthday, but I'm in the middle of exams, my bf broke up with me over the weekend, and all I want to do is curl up into a little ball and cry. The worst part is he said he still loves me and that he still wants to be with me, but he doesn't think things will work. I guess I should've seen this coming - he has a bit of commitment-phobia, but why would he do this now of all times? He's also in law school with me, and also in the middle of exams. I'm so heartbroken, I just don't know how to get over him. I really thought we'd get married someday. Please help...

2007-05-15 03:26:00 · 31 answers · asked by skichamonix515 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

31 answers

Awww poor baby, well happy birthday anyways, your boyfriend probably just wanted to get out of buying you a gift :) j/p maybe that made you smile for a second :) I hope everything works out for you the way you want it to be. Best wishes.... Oh yeah one more thing, you two just broke up there is a very good chance you will get back together, the time of exams can be very stressfull maybe he's just under a lot of pressure....

2007-05-15 03:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by melimel 3 · 0 0

Well FIRST and MOST Importantly, HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY to YOU!!!!!!!!!!
And secondly Don't worry bout him. IF and this is a BIG BIG IF he completes law school he is going to end up working at dewy, cheatum, & howe. attny's at law in cheatin.
YOU on the other hand will be a top Attny at a very prestigous law firm.
Now back to another important issue. Finish the day off the best you can, and then hook up with a girlfriend and go out on the town tonight. I'm sure ur girlfriend can help ya get over this loser and excuse of a man you once called a boyfriend. You will be so much better off withOUT him. He IS the real loser here and YOU have already WON. Thank God you learned now, before it was too late. God Bless you and I wish you the best on your exams as well the very best for your birthday. Here's a BIG HUG for ya. ((((((((((YOU))))))))))

2007-05-15 03:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0 0

Be glad that this happened now and not after you married him, had kids, etc. Two lawyers going through a custody battle would be quite nasty. This may have been the best birthday present you ever recieved. There are a lot of guys out there and it sounds like you have your life in order, so move on and better things will come.

One more thing, do not let this guy bounce in and out of a relationship with you, it will just cause you pain and keep you from finding the right man.

2007-05-15 03:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by blakereik 4 · 0 0

Sorry to hear that man. But happy birthday anyhow. Hope the rest of it rocks tho.

A lot of guys are like that with the commitment thing tho. So don't dis him too bad over it. I mean it's better to shy away, than to be miserable.

And who knows, maybe he will think on it all and decide to commit later on. Give all this stuff time and it will probably work out. Have some patience. And if it never works out with this guy, I know u can find another bf easy.

2007-05-15 03:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Travis M 3 · 0 0

First of all, school is very important right now, so forget about him and focus on your studies. After exams, talk to him about it, maybe the stress of being in school, having a girlfriend, and taking exams was too much for him right now. There is also the possibility that he might be seeing someone else, when a guy breaks up with you and says he still wants to be with you, he is trying to play the field and keep you on the sidelines just in case he doesnt make the touchdown(understand my meaning?). My ex was just like this, and after I cried over him, I found out he had someone on the side, but wanted to make sure he liked her before dumping me completely. BUT, it might be something totally different, I dont know, just be strong and focus on what is REALLY important right now, your studies.

2007-05-15 03:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by annabelle 3 · 0 0

First of all..... HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!

I think that the first thing for you to do is find whatever you need to relax you, so that you can get through your exams.
Push it all behind you, because he is not worth you messing up on your final exam. You don't won't to lose all of this time that you have invested.

After you finish your final exams, then you deal with the situation at hand.
Just know that time will heal all wounds. Try and keep yourself busy and surrounded by friends and family.
Don't get to being by yourself, because you mind will play games with you.
As long as you know that you were a good girlfriend to him, then ultimately it is his loss.

You hold your head up, and move on.
My mom always told me go ahead and get your tears out for an hour or two, and then get up, dress up and go on.

I wish you all of the best, and things will definitely get better!!

2007-05-15 03:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0 0

The whole " I still love u and want to be with you" is usually a line of crap to keep you hangin around. Trust me, I'm a guy...and I've regretably done it before and known plenty of guys to do it. I'm not saying it is the case for sure but most of the time it is. The reason why us arrogant in ignorant assholes would say something like that when we break up with girls, is to keep them thinking there is a chance we will come back. Which there is, but not until we get our share of some warm apple pie. It's our little way of exploring other options sexually, while keeping you in the dark with the distraction on hope. Good luck to you.

2007-05-15 03:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

im so sorry it hurts, i think first things first, get through your exams, focus, get your work done and dont think about anything else, not about him, nothing that will make you fail. Second, go out and have fun with friends or family, do something you did when you were not with him, something that wont remind you of him on YOUR special day. Third, when you have accomplished this, then you can wallow in sadness, but i wouldnt wallow too long, okay, if he is afraid of commitment, then let him see how his life will be without you, and you start doin it to, im sorry to say this but, its not worth it to stay in a relationship if you both aint moving forward. time heals everything.

2007-05-15 03:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by para_servirle 2 · 0 0

Jokes apart.. every man has some or the other form of commitment issues.. You cannot clap with a single had can u??? it takes two to make a relationship work.. and u cannot do it alone.. there has to be a sense of responsibility towars the relationship from both the parties.. faling which the relationship is always heading down.....

2007-05-15 03:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

True, his timing stinks, and it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants(he still loves you and wants to be with you but doesn't know if it will work) FYI, if you love someone and want to be with them, then you do it, you don't break up. I think you should cry until you don't feel like it anymore, and then pick yourself up and be thankful that you found out how indecisive and insecure he is . There are plenty of men out there who know what they want and how to treat the lady in their lives. If you are ready for a committment, then you need to be with someone who feels the same way, not a man who will leave you everytime things get too serious or complicated.

2007-05-15 03:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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