my son is 6, he wets the bed each night almost, the area in which he sleeps stinks & it's wet. im annoyed because he has trouble w/ holding his bladder and that i have to clean his bedding everyday but he's my son & i will deal w/ it. tonight i will buy Goodnights so i can rest....however my bf is getting annoyed by saying rude embarrassing comments, his kid crumbled chocolate muffin crumbs on her side of the car seat then she went to my kids side when we returned,so my son complained that he didnt want to sit there and my bf replied, "oh well, not a big deal, i smell your piss everyday", i told him that was way out of line & my son felt embarrassed in front of his kid. im confused i dont think my bf "really" too much care for my son at all, i think he's just "dealing" w/ him because he has no other choice, because there are more issues. what do you think??
2007-05-15 03:21:38 · 24 answers · asked by KAT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry but your bf is an *ss! How dare he say things like that to your son, that's not respecting him or you. What is more important to you, your son or this jack*ss???
2007-05-15 03:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell your BF to stop saying these things and be more supportive or the relationship is over, as your son neads a role model, like a real man not an ass hole.
To the answerer right above me, I have four kids under 12 and by what you have said you either have not got kid's ( in which case you have no right answerint his question and giving advice about a subject you don't know about),
Or you have kid's and are totaly clueless,
Kids will pee the bed sometimes until they are 9 or 10 years old, and what they nead is,
1/ assurance that what they are doing is not wrong.
2/ Awareness that they are wetting the bed.
3/ guidence on ways to help reduce the accidents, like fewer drinks close to bed time, going for pee pee before going to bed.
Kid's will get dry in their own time, and negetive criticism and advice frm people who have not got a clue is not at all helpful for either child or parent.
2007-05-15 10:29:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No offense but what a jerk! There are some kids who can't control their bladder...it just hasn't grown large enough to hold a nights worth of liquid. Your son does not need to be ashamed of this, it is a phase that will pass. I know single parent dating is hard but your first priority is to protect your son not only physically but emotionally. The last thing you want is for your son to think you have chosen a man over him and that you also stand behind the comments he is making...you are all that he has. I would put the boyfriend on notice and if he doesn't comply...send him packing! If he doesn't care much for your son he doesn't care much for you, you two are a package deal. Good luck to you!
2007-05-15 10:36:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rasta 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 2 yr old daughter trying to potty train; it’s hard some kids pick it up fast others it takes time. Maybe your child has other issues going on, that he is wetting his bed maybe he stress at school, or maybe the home environment is being stressful for him. Talk to him ask him was is wrong, do put him in goodnight sleepers tell him that is OK to wear them since he having accidents at night but slowly built his ego that he won’t have to wear them for long.
As for your boyfriend, I don’t know how your relationship is with him, how long you are with him. I don’t know the situation, BUT do tell him that he has no right to talk to your child like that, since these comments will make your child more stressed out, also your child should be your main priority, do not allow people to verbally abused him like that. Kids at this age take things very personal since they are developing, also he’s a little boy, don’t make him grow up so fast. HE will get over this stage of his bed wetting maybe he’s under some stress that he can not handle, that’s where we come in as their mother. Good luck to you.
2007-05-15 10:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of the boyfriend. He is emotionally abusive to your child. It will only get worse.
Kids are not small versions of adults, their bodies are still developing - including the bladder. Some boys wet the bed until they are 10 years old.
Instead of letting him wet the mattress, you could get a plastic matress cover so all that is damaged is the sheets themselves. Easily washed and dryed.
Eat earlier in the evening and don't let him drink an hour or so before he goes to bed and make sure he uses the bathroom before he does go to bed.
There is nothing wrong with your son - there is a lot wrong with your boyfriend.
2007-05-15 10:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Collette L 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sharrise, I want to say right now...2 points: 1) stop giving your son something to drink-2 hours before bed time. Then make him go to the bathroom before bed. 2) If you don't think your BOYfriend (because he is acting like a child) cares about your child, LOSE HIM. Your child is yours, he's not going anywhere and if that stranger can't respect your baby, he does NOT deserve to be a part of your lives. Understand that if he is willing to make these comments now, what the hell is that going to do to your sons' self esteem later on with this jerk making comments. Never put a man before your child, you will always regret it if you do.
2007-05-15 10:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Nikky 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your son is more important then your boyfriend
his sugar needs to be checked and also see if he is having a bladder infection
He may need his liquids cut off after dinner but all in all he needs your attention and your boyfriend does not sound like an adult you can do much better without someone who belittles your child
You deserve a Man and you can always find one boys come by the dozens be nice to yourself be nice to your child :)
2007-05-15 11:09:26 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would dump that guy so fast. Who is more important in your life? Some jerk, or your own flesh and blood. Staying with a guy who treats your son like dirt is telling your son that he's not very high on your list of priorities. The bottom line is that I would never just sit there and allow my boyfriend or anyone else to publicly humiliate my child.
this website might be able to help you deal with your sons issue better. http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/general/sleep/enuresis.html
2007-05-15 10:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is he complaining? Does have to sleep in the same room with the child, NO...I don't know you or him, but I can clearly see your boyfriend has a problem with your son and it's not only the bed wetting. Get rid of him now rather than later.
2007-05-15 10:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I thinkyour boyfriend needs to grow up and I would tell him to do it some where else. as for your son buy him some goodnights they are disposable underwear. and youmight take him to a doctor. he may have a medical reason. Your boyfriend could damage the child and make things worse. I am sure the little guy isnt wetting the bed for the negitive attention he is getting from the wicked step dad
2007-05-15 10:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 6 it's not unusual for him to wet the bed every night, he is probably just a deep sleeper.
the Goodnights sound like a good idea.
Yep, I think the bf just tolerates him to be with you, sorry.
2007-05-15 10:29:07 · answer #11 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋