I am 18 years old, married and we have one son who is 15 months old. I will be starting classes at a community college in the fall and then most likely transferring to a university. However, I do not want my children to be far apart and my husband and I plan on working on another one by next spring. Is this too much? Can it be done?
2007-05-15 02:55:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
if you really want it it can be done. i got pregnant when i was still in college and managed. it's not easy ofcourse, but yes it can be done. now i have a second baby and working on my masters. good luck.
2007-05-15 02:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Vanessa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can be done but it is very hard. I don't have hardly any memories of my oldest as a baby or toddler, because dh and I were both in school full time and working full time. However, I took school a lot more seriously than most girls my age, and I had a purpose, my son, that kept me going when all else was failing.
We waited to have our second, and timed it so that she was born a week after graduation. They are two years apart, which really isn't that far. If I were you, I'd aim on giving birth during spring break, or plan on the semester that you do give birth being part time. That worked well for our oldest (he was born in February), it gave me time to recover and get back into the swing of things. So look at the end of February or March to conceive, birth in May or June, and take just half time classes over the summer.
Good luck,
2007-05-15 11:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 girls ages 2 1/2 and 1. they are 18 month apart. I have been out of high school for 5 years. I just started college last year. It is not easy having kids in college, but it is not impossible. I am profound deaf (70% hearing loss) and work 20 hours a week and doing part time college classes. I never thought I would do this good, I got a 3.0 GPA. I started out with 12 credit hours, it was really hard. I cut down to 6 credit hours to make it easier for me and my family. Yeah it is gonna take me longer than 2 years to finish college but when I am done I know that I will feel proud and so will my family. My husband is very supportive and my in-law is my life savior.
As far as I am concern ANYONE can go to college and finish college if they really want to. Maybe not when they want to for exmaple my college is a 2 year program but it looks like it is gonna take me 3 1/2 years. If you got good supportive people around you that is willing to help you, you will be going through college easier. If you dont, you still can go to college it is a little bit harder. Good Luck
2007-05-16 03:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by littlema 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you and your husband can definitely make this work. However, if you are planing on a second child you may want to look at a community college that will allow you to do the courses of your choice as a part-time student, or one that have on line courses. That way you can complete subjects that you will be exempt from later on. This will ease the load of your course. Whatever you do, make sure you and your husband are willing to work as a team and keeping in mind the goals you two have for the family.
Now, food for thought... your child is 15 months. If your community college course is for 2 years you might as well finish the course and plan for your second child afterward. Then you will just have to focus on University. I had my children 10 years apart...lol...So, waiting 2 more years is not so long. The reason I suggested that you complete at least your community college before having your second child is because it will be more difficult with the second child. Now I did not say impossible just more difficult.
Good Luck with your decision.
2007-05-15 10:32:46 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be done! Many parents are raising children while attending college. Yes it will be hard at times, but it is well worth it and in the long run it's really only a short amount of time that you'll be in college. You are doing right by starting off slow, so to speak, by attending a community college first. If you feel overwhelmed at all there are other options for you to look into as well. If attending an actual campus isn't right for you, there is always the other option of attending classes online. There are many reputable colleges that offer online degrees and work around your schedule. That is just a thought for you to keep in mind if it turns out that attending a campus isn't working out for you. I've personally done both, I've attended college at a campus and now I'm currently attending college online because it works out better for me. Each person is different in what they can do, you just need to find out which path will work best for you and keep going to school no matter what path you choose to take for your schooling. But yes you can do this and my best wishes to you in accomplishing your degree.
2007-05-15 10:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by masmalan2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! It can be done!! My husband, 31, and I, 30 are both going to school full time. My husband is now working on his Phd and I have an associates & working on a bachelors. My husband is in the U.S. Navy and I am a stay-at-home mom of two kids ages 6 & 3. My plan is that when I'm done, my kids will both be in school full time and I can return to work. I'm not saying it won't be hard... but the longer you wait, the harder it will be. It takes a lot of work and support from each other, but you can do it! My advice is do it now, when you're kids are older you will be busy with extracurricular activities, school, and such. Hope my experience will give you a little encouragement. Good luck!
2007-05-15 10:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 21 years old and I have a son who is 18 months old. I go to a community college. It is really hard but if you are determined enough then you can do it. Also my friend is on her third child and she is still going to school. It is possible but I would reccomend taking too many classes. I take about 2 every semester as well as my friend. Good luck to you!
2007-05-15 11:20:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be done and hopefully you have a good support system. Supportive husband, parents who will help out. I did it with 4 kids all under 12 years old. It was intense and I wanted to quit several times, but my husband & kids were awesome and very encouraging. You just gotta stick with it.
Good luck!
2007-05-15 10:15:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did this a few years ago had a lot of family support the college had a nursery so the kid went there when i did my lessons did home work when he was sleeping even managed a part time job.
2007-05-15 10:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be hard work but it can be done. just plan to be at the community college for longer then two years.
2007-05-15 10:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋