I really want to get married in Vegas. I helped my sister plan a big wedding, and I don't want to do that again. I've never really dreamed of the big church wedding. I really just want the day to be about him and me, and not have to deal with all the fluff.
2007-05-15 02:48:19 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why don't you explain the "fun" part of getting married in Vegas? I got married there almost two years ago - we had a fairly big group fly out for the wedding and had a small reception. We saved a ton of money and everyone got a vacation out of it. You still get all the great stuff of a regular at home wedding, but you have a lot more to work with and have fun with.
2007-05-15 02:52:20 · answer #1 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he wants the big church wedding, or have you already brought it up and he shot the idea down? Most guys dream of eloping-no fuss, no tuxes, no thousands spent on one single day.
Maybe you could reach a happy medium and plan a Vegas destination wedding with only 10 or 20 guests, or maybe the two of you could go off, get married, and then have a fairly traditional reception when you get back?
I've you've not dreamed of the 'big church wedding' then being forced into one is not something you will be happy with, and you will end up not wanting to look back through your pictures and whatnot. But if it's really important to him that his family is there, then he'll never be happy eloping. You're going to have to reach some sort of compromise, because isn't that what marriage is all about?
2007-05-15 04:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had so many friends over the years who spent thousands of dollars on beautiful weddings and they're no longer together. They put more time and energy into their wedding day than they did their marriage. Very sad.
I really like your idea for a Las Vegas wedding. What reasons does your fiancee give as to why he doesn't want to marry there. It is his day too so his feedback is important. You may have to compromise here. Maybe you can still have your fuss free wedding but in a different location. Best wishes to you.
2007-05-15 03:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just asked here. He should be understanding. And if he really doesn't want to get married in Las Vegas, perhaps you can come up with a compromise of a nice small wedding where you are at. Intimate and private without all the hassle of planning. Or do it together.
Either way, just be honest with him. He will be understanding I'm sure!
2007-05-15 02:56:08 · answer #4 · answered by Rayani 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently your fiancee has missed the most important thing about getting married..."It's all about you and what makes YOU happy"
The less you spend on a wedding, the more you have for the honeymoon.
Show him the cost savings. Why spend thousands of dollars on a single day when the only thing you get from the money spent are few good pictures?
Make him do all the planning and every time he asks your opinion or gets frustrated with something, tell him that Vegas is better. Minimal planning, no set up, and no clean up. Some of those places are nice and do all that for you.
2007-05-15 03:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If your fiance doesn't want to get married in Las Vegas, then you are not getting married in Las Vegas.
That doesn't mean that you have to have a big church wedding. A nice morning ceremony followed by punch and tea will work... so will a small ceremony followed by dinner at a nice restaurant. If that's what you want, you can do that anywhere, and you will still be legally married.
2007-05-15 02:54:10 · answer #6 · answered by Patti C 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Have you spoken with him about this? It's HIS day too, remember.
Explain how you feel about big weddings (I hate them) and how much you would appreciate a small, intimate ceremony.
Explain too how small expense here - equals paying off student loans or putting a down payment on a house...
But talk to him. He has a right to his opinion and expectations. It's his wedding day too.
If he WON'T talk about it - then reconsider marrying him. This is just a sample of what's to come later on.
2007-05-15 03:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you'd save a lot of time and money if you get married there. Find a nice place where you could get married, and tell him all the benefits of getting married there. Also, I suggest that you tell him that you want the wedding to be small and personal, so he'd understand a bit more. Good Luck!
2007-05-15 02:56:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him that he will have to pay for a traditional wedding if that is what he wants. Remind him that it would be better to spend thousands on a honeymoon than a wedding
2007-05-15 07:02:23 · answer #9 · answered by TAT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take him to vegas on a holiday, spoil him, let him gamble, get him really drunk and then marry him. show him the pics in the morning, im sure he'll be fine bout it.
2007-05-15 02:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by gldngraham 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋