Do they really think that someone intentionally tried to offend them or is it a power play?
2007-05-15 02:41:10 · 14 answers · asked by BR 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Two reasons. First, they don't have the words to express how upset they are. So they keep silent rather than say what's really on their mind.
Secondly yes, people tend to use silent treatment as a powerplay because they think it will provoke you into causing a scene - and thereby absolving them of any responsiblity for their ugliness.
Best response. Ask them politey but pointedly what is upsetting them. If they say "nothing" then say, "Very well then. See you later" in a friendly way and chalk it up to their pettiness. Don't argue with them.
2007-05-15 02:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people don't filter what they say, what comes to mind comes to mouth. They say alot of things they don't really mean but it's probably nice to never have bottled up anger.
I'm the opposite. I don't make a deal out of the small stuff, I give the silent treatment to the medium stuff and when I've finally had it I bring out the nukes and over react.
There is really no why to it. People are not all the same and handle stuff differently.
A person giving you the silent treatment is as mad at you as if they had started a big angry argument over whatever the issue is. So either accept that and let things cool, or apologize if need be, or if you just gotta have it out you can confront them on the issue, but be prepared for the fall out.
2007-05-15 03:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I use the "silent treatment" when I am incapable of nicely telling someone what is going on. It is not a power play for me it is a way to work it out and attempt to approach from a more spiritual angle.
2007-05-15 02:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most people who give others the silent treatment, do it because they are afraid. They are afraid of accepting responsibility for their part in what is going on. They are afraid of confrontation. They are afraid the other person might reject their attempt at a resolution. Basically, it has very little to do the the other person.
2007-05-15 04:56:46 · answer #4 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I quite often give people the silent treatment until I've calmed down enough to discuss the situation. When I'm really angry, it's either give the silent treatment or say hurtful, unkind things that I'll (usually) regret later. It's best to let things settle for a while, then discuss when thinking rationally.
2007-05-15 03:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have always thought that people use the silent treatment when they dont have the nerve to talk about things face to face.Also people think it is nicer not confonting the person but it ends up being much much worse.It seems to me like a common way of dealing with problems in this day and age.Communication is key.
2007-05-15 02:53:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it is a power play... You know, people, at least most of us can't stand silence especially when the "silence" comes from someone they value or is fond of talking to... This really has effects on the human mind.. they'll eventually feel isolated and then after that feeling, they would want to fix the problem between the two and therefore, the " silent treatment wins" ... on the other hand, by just simply telling people what is going on, they would tend to make you try harder and it will ( trust me ) make you go crazy.... got it????? good luck!!!!
2007-05-15 02:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by jamie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-11-23 14:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was really angry at someone, the LAST thing I'd want to do is tell them nicely what is going on. Let them figure it out. They usually know what they did to tick me off.
Sometimes the silent treatment is the best way to handle those who are truly disruptive. Bothers them. And, it also is a way of not getting myself into trouble by badmouthing them.
2007-05-15 04:19:15 · answer #9 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ooh the silent treatment!
That's not something I use very often - but I'd have to admit it's the most lethal.
Whenever I use it, I've reached my boiling point and it's my way of telling them I want nothing to do with them - but at the same time still keeping my dignity. Otherwise I'd probably get all hysterical and start blabbering....
It has nothing to do with power play - it just says...go away and stay away!
2007-05-15 02:58:58 · answer #10 · answered by funny_mel 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋