How do you know if a person is abusive?

Question

What are the signs? If that person has never hit you, what should you be looking out for? What are the early signs?

Answer 1

An abuser is known by actions and temper,either verbally, physical or both some signs are they can be controlling, manipulative, jealous and.....etc.Even if they don't hit it's still abuse if the call you names and put you down. Some will even try to isolate you from family and friends. Many abusers have low self esteem and insecurity issues. If they witnessed abuse in the home as a kid chances are high they will turn out that way.

Answer 2

Good Question, I don't think a lot of people who are abusive are evil. the way some of them grow up watching family members abuse each other they think it's the only way. some are very lucky they grow up with abuse but they BREAK the cycle like I did. a lot of people who have been abused will NOT abuse anyone NO matter what. OK maybe a few people may be evil. I mean if they know what right and wrong is and they choose to be wrong and hurt other people and NOT feel bad about it then maybe yes. This question is a great question. I really wish I could say it better then I did. but you know I don't consider my parents who abused each other and me evil. I just think they are STUPID. sorry hope this makes sense God Bless

Answer 3

If they have a tendency to raise their voice alot, if when you guys are having a heated discussion, he physically approaches you or raises his hand like he's going to slap you, if he balls up his fist or if he punches a wall or tear up things, out of anger...Also check to see what kind of family life he had, was his father abusive? Was he physically or verbally abused as a child etc? How does he treat his mother? His siblings, friends? Do a crimminal background check online and see if he has any convictions. And talk to his friends, family. If he is an abusive person, believe me, someone will talk! IF you think you are in an abusive relationship or something just doesn't feel fight (LISTEN to your inner voice!), by all means, END IT NOW! Life is too short to have to deal with that kind of nonsense.. Good luck!

Answer 4

my aunt's husband abuses her. if you think that you're in an abusive relationship than get out before you end up dead. Seriously he almost killed her on four different occassions and she's still with him. some of the signs i look for are anger, yelling, and if he breaks things, because the things he break can easily become you.

Answer 5

From lots of experience............
1 always chooses for you
2 doesn't like your friends
3 jealous of you
4 accuses you of cheating
5 Tries to control what you wear
6 likes to make you cry
There are alot of signs of abuse......the mental hurts just as bad and doesn't always get physical but it's still not worth the wait to find out.

Answer 6

just because someone hasnt physically harmed you does not mean they are not abusive...abuse comes in many forms..like verbal/emotional abuse, sexual abuse etc...if a person is constantly putting you down thats a form of emotional abuse and will take a toll on ones esteem, constant control issues he wants to know where you are or wont leave your side, anger these are signs to look for....sexual abuse can range from a person committing sexual acts against your will, and if its a boyfriend or spouse its still considered that, sexual abuse can be someone performing sexual acts in front of you against your will aswell...hope this helps a little...im a survivor of sexual abuse so hope this helps you a little...

Answer 7

Is he verbal abusive arguing with you all the time. Has he made Temp to try to hit you. He may not touch you right now but you need to think about the further if he is going to touch you. If he does do something you need to report it and leave.

Answer 8

An abuser doesn't always have to put their hands on you to be abusive...Mentality, emotionally and spiritually a person can be abusive...Name calling, controlling who and where you can/can not go, clocking your every move and sniffing your underwear to see if you have been with someone

Answer 9

early signs are a bad temper, emotional abuse, verbal abuse.. altho there are some jerks that will only call you names and wont hit you. abuse it abuse. If your asking this questions it seems theres a reason.. so get out now..

Answer 10

...I say be careful what you ask for darling...cause simply thinking about "abuse" can sometimes create some. If all you've ever worried about was "abuse in a relationship" honey?....that's probably all you've ever mentally gotten for yourself otherwise. You've been trained to identify abuse...in all it's unprecedented forms actually. Try to find good people with reasonably good nonabusive minds to surround yourself with darling. Great lovers aren't born honey...they're breed!