When I said this to the boy of about seven or eight years who delivered my lunch today, I said to him, "You should carry change with you (he couldn't break my 10-YTL note) and you should be in school." The poor soul looked hurt. I know that the family that owns the place can't be hurting for money--the restaurant is in a high-rent area in a major Istanbul financial district that gets a lot of turnover during the lunch hour.
2007-05-15 01:27:34 · 19 answers · asked by YabanciKiz 5 in Travel ➔ Europe (Continental) ➔ Turkey
He wasn't in high school--he was a young boy (read the question)
The reason I said it had nothing to do with him not having change. And what about imposing my social morals--are you saying Turks don't value education? Even if he is going to take over the family business, he still needs to finish at least eighth grade and know how to read.
2007-05-15 01:42:57 · update #1
No, don't be sad.You said the truth.There is no reason for a child not to go to school even being poor.Because government helps them and all the books are free! His family just doesn't want him to study because they need no staff now.if the boy goes to school,they need to hire a staff.They just want to earn more but money is not everything!
2007-05-15 03:08:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hurricane 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I agree that he should have had change, although if it were known that he carried a small amount of money, he might be robbed. The comment about school however was rude. He may not be able to go to school for some cultural reason, or a question of affordability. Do not impose your social morals on another culture.
2007-05-15 01:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he DOES want to go to school.
And he possibly does use that trick of not having change, to earn a bit extra, as Hanibal said.
You and I are both Yabanciler (oops - do I mean YabancilAr?) - at least, I am one of them "-to-be". It is hard for us to see this in Turkey, because we are used to different situations for children in N. America.
It´s not his fault... but I don´t know what can really be done. Talk to his father ? (Well, that´s what we N. Americans might consider, but if you really want to try to help him there, ask a serious, well-meaning Turkish person how to help - we have our ideas and they have theirs, which will work better).
The only other thing you can do is to carry the right change when he delivers your lunch tomorrow!! :-) And maybe have a friendly chat with him!
Take care!! :-)
2007-05-16 03:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand you. You didn't mean to hurt him. It hurt you to see a boy working instead of being at school. Unfortunately there are so many of them in Turkey. As for the change, I agree with my friend who said they probably pocket the change and end up with a large amount at the end of the day. He probably is doing it under the instructions of his boss (whoever he is). Thus, they learn to become greedy and lose their morals.
2007-05-15 08:01:22 · answer #4 · answered by anlarm 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:57:51 · answer #5 · answered by talamantez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obligatory to send kids to school until they complete 8th grade. Though, if the boy doesn't go, I'm sure it isn't his fault. Maybe he does go to school and helps his parents out afterwards? I mean, this is Istanbul, after all, not some remote village.
2007-05-15 05:47:13 · answer #6 · answered by Totally Blunt 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were right that he should have had change at lrast for a 10, but then again he may have not brought the change so you would tip him and if hes that far ahead of the game then he did not need to be in school.
2007-05-15 01:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by kuntree 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it depends. If the boy is young enough to be in school then that's fine. But if he's in like high school then maybe he has family or home problems or even problems at home. and that's why he's not in school. And the change part. not everyone has change and that's not a problem.
2007-05-15 01:38:07 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly kisses 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
turkey is not a rich country. i wouldn't trust a small boy like that with change and the owner of the restaurant might ot either. he could lose it or be overwhelmed with the mathskills. he could be from a poor family or have parents unable to work or maybe he is an orphan and the owners might have given him a job to earn his keep or to make barely enough money to survive on his own. maybe u can go to the restaurant and inquire about the boy, if u think u were to harsh maybe invite him to have dinner there with u, talk to him and get to know your little delivery boy. maybe it was fate that u crossed paths like that, think about it
2007-05-15 01:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by germanygirl_us 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Your thought is right
but I think you would have much better results if you said these things to his parents
poor little boy is not responsible for none of those 2 matters
Regards
2007-05-15 08:09:29 · answer #10 · answered by ..Tolia.. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋