Hi,
Nobody can understand what you are going through unless they are on same path. I unfortunatly know what you are dealing with am in my 38 month of fighting terminal cancer so I hope this helps -
it is really hard to get your mind around it.
you will go through the "phases" of grieving - make sure you have a consullor etc to talk to.
you family may not want to deal with it; hope someone steps up to the plate and helps you.
make sure you have your affairs in order - so you don't have to worry later and who is going to push to protect you and your final wishes.
I am so sorry; "dealing" never gets finished or goes away
try to enjoy life and do the things you want while you are strong.
jewells
38 months and still here
2007-05-15 01:50:23
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answered by jewells_40 4
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What type of cancer? If this is a new diagnosis you should immediately seek out a second or third opinion. Doctors will often give a patient the worse case scenario including a poor prognosis. What isn't said is that every patient is an individual and statistics do not mean anything. If you are dealing with a stage IV cancer there is still hope. But, it is difficult from your question to know what the facts are here.
I know many people who have been told that their cancer was terminal . . only to go on and survive. I know one young lady who was sent home on hospice care three times, but she just wasn't ready to go. I know a young lady right now who has 9 tumors in the brain, some in liver, and lungs and was also told that this was terminal. She refused to listen and is now in treatment using radiotherapy to destroy the brain and liver lesions . . and its working.
Can you share more information . . because depending on the type of cancer and how long the patient has been fighting will determine an answer.
There is treatment for pancreatic cancer.
Confronting Pancreatic Cancer
http://www.pancreatica.org/
Medline Plus: Pancreatic Cancer
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/pancreaticcancer.html
NCI: Pancreatic Cancer
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/types/pancreatic
NCCN: Clinical Practice Guidelines in Oncology for Pancreatic Adenocarcinoma
http://www.nccn.org/professionals/physician_gls/PDF/pancreatic.pdf
MD Anderson: Pancreatic Cancer Group
http://www3.mdanderson.org/DEPARTMENTS/pancreatic/
Hope this helps. Peace to you.
2007-05-15 08:30:09
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answered by Panda 7
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here is a link to 208 clinical trials for pancreatic cancer..don't forget to turn the pages to see all of them..
http://www.clinicaltrials.gov/ct/search;jsessionid=F219F5E1127C59B352A8D06F94498797?term=pancreatic+cancer&submit=Search
Hospice can help by providing caregivers, hospital beds and equipment, clergy, social workers, nurses, medications.
Support groups may be of help if the person is able to go. Call the american cancer society near you to find out if any support groups that the person with cancer or the family can go to.
2007-05-15 09:16:11
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answered by Anonymous
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I was the rock when my Father was diagnosed and dying. I was lucky because I went to see a Bereavement Counselor asked what to expect and how I could make his death easier.
First I had to tell Mother, so I got a bottle of wine, got her drunk and then spilled the beans. In hindsight, as she collapsed on the floor, guess the plan was not a good one. I was in a strange sitaution as Mother stayed in living room, Father in dinning room and I was the messenger 'Go and tell....' Eventually I refused, they had to talk to each other.
My Father asked me if the Radiothreapy would make his hair fall out? Umm he did not have much to start with, but I said No, however Chemothreapy would. I tried to keep a positve attitude for HIM, laughed, joked and was able to figure out what type of Funeral HE wanted, what he wanted to wear, be buried and so on. The hardest part the WILL, but got their in the end. The last Christmas, gave him a hair dryer! He tore off the paper, looked at the hair dryer box, rubbed his bald head and laughed his head off! No hair dryer in the box, but it made him laugh! You have to try and be honest and open with your Family, no matter how much it upsets them. Dad has been dead for 15 years now, but not one day goes past that I do not think about him! Reason, because we had two years of fun and so when something happens now, chances are I am drawn back to those times. He also had a peaceful death, not sure if he knew he had deid at all and it was all so sureal. Dad had the last laugh. He had the Nurses place some money in his pocket because he wanted to go shopping? What for he refused to say and he died with the money in his pocket? It was not until I went to get his 'death certificate' the cost, the same amount precisley in his pocket. His way of telling me he knew he was dying and making sure I had enough money for his death certificate. It is your life and your death, enjoy as much time as you have left, spend it with family friends and do not be afraid. And thanks for bringing my Father memory back to me.
2007-05-15 15:07:14
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answered by gillianprowe 7
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The day that the doctor told me that my wife would not survive was the worst day of my life, and I have had a few pretty bad ones in my 50 years. It has been 9 months since she died and I still cry often. I question the "fairness" and all the other stuff. No answers, just questions.
2007-05-15 12:22:53
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answered by Randy 5
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this has really hit home........eldest son had terminal cancer.....passed away when he was seventeen....i think you must live each day as it comes...enjoy everything around you....live life to the full....and have hope....good luck
2007-05-15 15:18:00
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answered by Blue58 2
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