She needs an outfit for a family wedding, but is so self-conscious she is now doing the 'Kevin the teenager' bit whenever I take her shopping to get something. The wedding is in a month and time is running out to find her anything to wear. Everything we look at is 'too tight' or 'too flowery' or 'gross'...................... etc etc......... HELP!!!!!!!!
How can I get it through to her that she is a beautiful young lady and will look knockout in anything !!
2007-05-15 00:39:55 · 23 answers · asked by Lily 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In reply to 'Solace', we went in every shop known to man and I just let her wander and look at everything while I shopped for myself.
2007-05-15 00:48:13 · update #1
Bring one of her friends to shop with her. They will usually come up with something.
2007-05-15 00:42:50 · answer #1 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate going shopping with my daughter, it's a nightmare and she isn't even a teenager yet (12).
Why don't you look up sites on the internet for clothes, that way she'll be able to have an idea of what she might like before you actually even reach a shop.
You could always try bribery, or as a last resort a threat. Go to a charity shop buy the floweriest, gross dress you can find and tell her unless she picks something soon then she'll have to wear it. She's probably only trying to be awkward anyway, call her bluff.
Good luck, I still have the teenage years ahead of me.
2007-05-15 06:18:03 · answer #2 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to be a teenage girl as the body changes and the child can't quite adjust to the change. Being self-conscious could have come from a peer saying something to her at one time.
Since she is not in the wedding and it is a family wedding, ask her what she would like to wear to the wedding. Perhaps she would be happy in a skirt and blouse of some kind etc. If you have a JC Penney, Sears, The Gap, Navy stores, go in and try and find something that sparks her eye. She is a teenager and just needs to be a teenager.
2007-05-15 00:48:52 · answer #3 · answered by Patty G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenagers are like that i suppose, you have been there. Were you easy to please. Have you tried to ask someone else to take her shopping maybe a friend or family member that she likes spending time with. She might also feel a bit strange shopping with her mother as she is a teen now and maybe unknowingly you might be putting pressure on her for picking something to wear, for all that you know she already seen the outfit she wants. Let her go on her own or with someone she wants to do shopping with
2007-05-15 01:33:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its normal for teenage girls to be self conscious. but communication is everything to be close with ur daughter. talk to her. calmly. tell her u've been through the same thing. give her a treat and ask her nicely. ask her why she feels that way. and if all fails, tailor a dress! so SHE can decide what and how she wants to look like. in that way, she won't complain as much and will be satisfied. n if to tailor a dress is expensive - get a plain white or black dress and accessorise with pearls. simple yet gorgeous. black is slimming and white is elegant.
hope this works!
-from an also self conscious teenager
2007-05-15 00:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what would be - for her - the perfect outfit. Have a mother daughter chat with her and explain you want to show her off and would love her to look her best. She could maybe even draw an example of what she would like to wear then you could go together and look for something similar. Then she will feel it's her choice and may be a bit more relaxed and compromising.
2007-05-15 00:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember being that age and hating going into shops and trying things on, you feel as if everyone is looking at you. Why don't you get a catalogue and ask her to circle all the things she likes, she can then try them on at home where she may feel a little less self conscious. She can order several items and then you just send back what she doesn't like.
2007-05-15 00:43:59 · answer #7 · answered by Nickynackynoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get some catalogues and sit down together or get some of her mates round and get them to help her choose an outfit, she might feel more comfortable trying things on at home some people just don't like shopping or simply do not know how to shop for what suits them.
You can order loads of stuff from the catalogues try it on at home with your own accessories and then send back what you do not wish to keep .
it might sound like alot of hassle but it might just be the answer you are looking for.good luck.
2007-05-15 04:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not give her the money for the out fit (and a little bit extra for a treat) and tell her to go with a friend into town for the day to get it herself. i know this is hard for you but when my mum used to take me shopping she always picked clothes that i wouldn't be seen dead in. shes a young girl who is finding her own sense of style and doesn't want mum picking it . if shes to young to go on her own take her and her friend in and tell them you will meet in an hour. OK so you may not like what she gets but mums never do this is about your daughter picking what she feels comfortable in and being treated as a grown up (and if you don't like the outfit tell her she looks great anyway it will build her self esteem) in sure she has good taste and style its just her own not yours. give her the chance to prove she can do this because at the end of the day she needs to feel comfortable in what shes going to wear and if you force her to wear smoothing she hates it will make her feel ugly and wont help so give her the chance to prove to you that she can be mature in her choices
2007-05-15 01:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by fruitcake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to remember that what you like and what she likes are 2 completely different things. let her choose where you go to look for this outfit.Mail order might be a good option as she can try clothes on in the privacy of her room. perhaps if she feels in control of what she wears it might help her choose something. maybe her friends could help her. Girls can be difficult I know. my daughter is just the same.
2007-05-15 02:42:21 · answer #10 · answered by ditzy demon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, now i say its time to use your authority. give her 3 choices, have her pick one and make her wear it. She is being difficult! She will find out at the wedding how beautiful she looks by all the nice young boys who go gah gah over her.
She is probably going through an awkward feeling stage. Hormones are starting to kick.
2007-05-15 00:57:59 · answer #11 · answered by teena662002 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋