My husband is facing some charges in court right n ow. If he is convicted he could be in prison for up to 5 years for something he didn't do. I asked him if he went to jail would he be listing the mother of his children on the visitors list and he said no, that I or his mother could bring the children to visit him. Of course his family who adores his ex strongly disagrees. What do you think?
2007-05-15 00:24:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
robert g , my husband does not go see his kids, they come see him, he never even goes around his ex if i am not around so i dont worry.
2007-05-15 02:43:24 · update #1
ronald g not robert g i mean
2007-05-15 02:44:29 · update #2
It is really up the the person who is confined. When you have questions like this, put yourself in the other persons place; would you want someone telling you who you have to see and
not see? Five years however is a long time, so he may at some point want or need to talk to her about their children, and should probably make provision for this even though under most conditions someone else could bring the children.
2007-05-15 01:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.... URG, too long. I got lost after the first.... 3 inches. Haven't you ever heard of commas? I think i get what the problem is. (Could you edit your question so people understand it?) If you have that problem, why are posting it on Yahoo Answers. You need a long talk with your husband and maybe a therapist... Good luck sorting that out. I have NO CLUE! And another thing, what is the question?! You look like you have a big problem but i don't see how posting it on yahoo Answers could help. All we can do is comment and give you tips but we are not married to your husband. You are so YOU are the only one that can fix this mess. I bid you GOOD LUCK!
2016-05-18 05:53:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think he is right. He is the one who is going to have to spend most of his days looking forward to the small bit of time he will get to see loved ones. Why should he have to sit across a table from the woman he is no longer in love with, when he could be seeing you or his family?
The important thing is that he sees his children. Visiting times are precious for people in prison and I know if I were in his position, I wouldnt want my ex taking a valuable space where someone else who I am closer to could be.
The fact that his family adore his ex is irrelevant. They can choose to see her as often as they like, they aren't confined to a cell like he may be. If they like her so much, maybe you should take his kids to see him whilst she stays with his family?
This must be such a difficult situation for you. His family are being very unfair, and not acting in his best interests by making you feel this way.
He should stand up to his family on your behalf. There is no good reason why she should visit him at all!!!! His family need to understand that. They need to stop living in the past and realise you are number 1 in his life now (along with his kids). They should support you as it will be so hard for you to be without him for 5 years Im sure.
Good luck, and I hope it ll works out for you all
xxxxxx
2007-05-15 00:32:55 · answer #3 · answered by Magik_Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
99 percent of the people in jail are all innocent. I am sure that your husband will be one of the 99 percent also. My feeling is that people in jail shouldn't have visitors at all. They need to be punished for the crimes that they didn't commit. If you are worried about what your husband and the mother of his children are going to do on visitations in jail I can only imagine what you think when he visits with them while he is a free man now.
2007-05-15 00:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by ronald g 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is correct. There is no need for his ex to be on the visiting list. The children can come to see him with you or his mother and that should be all.
2007-05-15 00:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think while he is jail especially since you say it is for something he did not do then he needs all the support he can get.
i know you may not like it but I think you should let his ex bring the kids. It might help the kids deal with seeing daddy in jail if mommy is the one with them going.
It also might help your hubby deal with being in jail if he can visit with as many people in jail as possible.
2007-05-15 00:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm Difficult situation. ARE YOU GONNA WAIT 5 YEARS WHILE HE ROTS IN PRISON? FOR SOMETHING HE DIDNT DO? yeah right! personally I wouldnt care, he cant cheat on you there unless its with a man. I dont know the crime, but if my hubby went to prison, i would divorce him..... I dont tolerate criminals. So who cares who is on the list. I would NOT want my children seeing that either. So, I guess there is no advice here. Sorry.
2007-05-15 01:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by teena662002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is right when he says "no." It's not his family's decision whether or not SHE should be on the visiting list. As he said, you or someone in your family can bring his children to see him. There's really no reason he should have contact with his ex, other than the mutual parenting responsibility that they share for their children.
2007-05-15 00:29:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer D 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He no longer has a relationship with this woman and he will be the one behind bars for five years. He should be allowed to speak for himself on who he does/doesn't want to have visit him. Other family members should respect his wishes and shut up about it. It's his life. BTW, it's a complete insult to you for them to push this idea! Tell them they can go whistle!
2007-05-15 00:32:09 · answer #9 · answered by Me in Canada eh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They dont like it because if their names are listed they dont have to take the kids where if you take them they cant do anything Good luck and be strong for him and yourself
2007-05-15 00:30:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋