My son is 16 years old. We have to leave the house no later than 6:35 every morning. He hits snooze countless times, until I go in there and start yelling at him to get up and threatening to take things away from him if he doesn't get up, etc. He finally slowly gets up and then takes his good old time, and by the time he turns the water off in the shower, it's time to get out the door and I am FUMING. I take him to school on my way to work, where I have to be by 7:30. We always have to rush around and I get to work BARELY in time. No time for breakfast, no nothing.
Well, here it is 6:20 and he's still not up. I am determined to not say another word to get him up. It's just too stressful. I told him 15 minutes ago "last call"......and he hasn't even moved. So I guess he'll just have to go to school with no shower and dirty hair, huh? He does this EVERY SINGLE DAY....and of course, when he finally does get up, he has a horrible attitude and I just want to choke him. Suggestions?
2007-05-14 23:22:50 · 16 answers · asked by spelling nazi 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He gets PLENTY of sleep....goes to bed no later than 10:00 p.m. every night. He just hates to go to school!!!! He swears nothing is going on at school to make him hate it this much....he ended up going to school stinky and dirty today. oh well.
2007-05-15 00:27:13 · update #1
get about 5 alarm clocks, the loudest you can find and set them up in all different parts of the room that are well away from the bed... set them all 2 minutes apart so after he stops the first one and goes back to bed, the second one will go off.... etc.... then by the 5th one, he will give up and get his lazy a** out of bed.
Get tough with him!
If he isn't ready by a certain time, he finds his own way to school and if he skips school because he couldn't be bothered finding his own way, then give him a massive list of chores. If they are not done, take away the tv, computer (except for supervised school work) friends visits and whatever other priviledges he has... give him only healthy (boring) food and water. (no junk food or treats)
Let him know that if he doesn't like your rules, he can leave and make his own way in the world... because mummy won't be there to wipe his a** forever! He's 16... he is old enough to know right from wrong and take some responsibility for his own actions!
2007-05-15 01:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by chilli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try cutting down on the stuff he has to do in the morning (not that it's probably a lot but one thing is too trying for kids these days). Have him grab his shower at night, pick out his clothes, and make sure he has everything he needs for school already in the car. Next, set the alarm a half hour fast so when he hits snooze he's really not doing any real damage (I have my alarms set a half hour fast and it works for me-I LOVE the snooze alarm). As far as hating school, talk to his teachers, school guidance counselor, even his friends to find out what's going on at school to see why he doesn't want to go. I would suggest talking to him but I know from personal experience how difficult it can be to get a teen to talk to their parents. You know what, try anyway. Maybe he can fill you in on whether or not subject is too difficult or too easy. Maybe he is having some social problems (a bully, a girl he likes but is too nervous to talk too, etc).
Good luck.
2007-05-15 01:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has it always been this way that he got up late for school? I started our son's early rising when he was young, making sure he'd have enough time to be up and eat breakfast in the morning. I would suggest, however, that your son do his showers at night before bed, that would definitely save time in the morning. Don't forget, he's 16, we all were once. You may want to find out if there's something going on at school that he's avoiding (besides the work).
Also, reset his clock, make it an hour behind everyone else's in the house, you might be able to trick him into getting up earlier that way.
2007-05-15 02:05:53 · answer #3 · answered by dianak502002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you own a water gun..? Have you tryed singing really loudly and off key, tell him when he gets up on time then you will not sing anymore. Or use the water gun..
No , really sometimes those things do work.
Try waking him up earlier and earlier every day. I know it may mean you getting up also but he might get the point after we wake him up at 430am.
Is he bigger then you..? does he sleep in clothes.? Go into his room pull up the shade and rip the blankets off him.. Can you lift the mattres up enough to make him fall out of bed.?
If no water gun a bucket of water will work also.
Try not to pay attention to his attitude, he is a teen ager and thus evil and you are the enemy.. All us parents are..
Tell if he does not get up when you tell him then you will start giving him a bed time like a little kid. 8pm, in his room, no tv, no computer, no phone.
Keep up with the no shower and/or food. That might work.. As long as you STICK TO IT!! No matter what, if you have to follow him into the bathroom to make sure he does not get into the show or find a way to turn the water off if he snicks in there.
Remember , you are in charge and he is to follow your rules not you follow his..
Good Luck.
2007-05-15 00:33:32 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 23:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by englin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here it is 6:40 and I am 14! My younger sister who is 7 Is waking up as well anyways.....Our house is always up at 5:30 Dog, Guinea Pigs, fish, everyone. I agree its stressful. I am the one to take and make break-fast for the kids---all of them 6 including the pets as well. Put him on a very TIGHT schedule.. Maybe the problem is that he is going to be later than he should be. Try a little bit earlier tonight...He needs break-fast to get his mind going or else in school he wont concentrate...If he is not ready for school by the time you want to get out you leave girl! He has to learn to pay the consequences!! He can walk or take the bus or even ride his bike. Good Luck!!!!
2007-05-14 23:47:20 · answer #6 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Teens need 9- 10 hrs of sleep. He needs to be in bed for 9 pm, change the time on his alarm clock 15-20 minutes later (yes later). Have him take his shower at bedtime to relax him and help him to fall asleep easier.
Have a cup of coffee ready for him in am and allow a head under the sink faucet wake-up rinse off, not a shower. His clothes should be out the night before.
Good Luck
2007-05-15 00:16:00 · answer #7 · answered by C D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Make sure he is in bed early enough so he gets 10 full hours of sleep each night. Make him take a shower at night. If he has to go to school smelling like a goat so be it.
Go throw a bucket of cold water on him.
I am not sure why you have to drive him? Don't you have school buses? If he is not up on time I would just leave him and go to work. Leave him a note that he has to walk to school.
2007-05-14 23:28:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm right about to graduate high school and I've had this problem until about yesterday. It's amazing that I'm up right now. The key to it all is just going to sleep earlier. Thats it. If he takes naps during the day, then tell him to stop. If he has the attitude, then let him deal with the problem on his own, he's 16 isn't he.
He's old enough to make his own choices and to take the consequences from them.
2007-05-14 23:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Alan 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
sounds like a stressfull situation. Seems like the more you argue the less you get anywhere. I would try making his getting up more of a pleasure perhaps you could cook him a nice breakfast and put some coffee on the smell of this might allure him out of bed and both of you will feel a lot better after a good breakfast! If this really does'nt work try talking to him and explain you have to leave such and such a time and if he is not ready you will go without him and stick to this. If your firmer with sticking to a certain time it could work.
2007-05-14 23:33:28 · answer #10 · answered by poppyfields 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋