OK, I know this is a completely immature type question but I'm gonna ask anyway. I've been sleeping with a guy on and off for about 3 years now...everytime we were "off" was because he was dating this girl. Anyway - they've been broken up for a few months now, and I thought it was for good cause they were still friends after the break up and now they dont speak at all. He and I actually started dating about 2 months ago and this morning when I was leaving his apartment I saw a wallet on the table and out of habit just opened it up and right there in front of his license was a picture of his ex girlfriend. Why is it still there?? Is he just not over her?
I'm not trying to make excuses for him but he doesnt carry around his wallet ever, you think maybe he just forgot?
I didnt say anything, I just closed it and left it alone. But its really bothering me!
2007-05-14 22:42:33 · 7 answers · asked by Virginia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, to clear things up...He and I never actually DATED until 2 months ago. Up until then we were just booty calls and there were no strings attached. We only stopped having sex twice cause they only dated twice. He never "broke up" with me for her cause we werent together. The feelings came into play later...which is where I stand now. And he never cheated on her. Atleast not with me. He's a really great guy.
2007-05-14 22:58:29 · update #1
sorry to say this but it sounds like he can't make his mind up between the two of you, and you should perhaps take a break to see how he really feels about u and her. you are much better than this, find yourself a man who puts u first and only u good luck :)
2007-05-14 22:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many people get in this on/off thing. I wonder why that is. You need to draw the line and stand up for yourself. Why are you with a person that can't make a decision? It would appear that you are a back up choice and having been in that role myself a couple of times - you never win. My suggestion is move on and find someone that will appreciate you as you deserve.
2007-05-14 22:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by bigej65 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Virginia,
What are you doing seeing a person who would cheat on his girlfriend anyway? You should be with a person who cares about you. I think you should just end all contact. Maybe it will give him a wake up call.
It shouldnt matter if he is over her or not, maybe he just likes the memory. Talk to him about it. Tell him what you are feeling, and see what he has to say. It has to be in person though. Don't try this over the phone. It's nice to see facial expressions.
Don't you want someone who will respect and care for you?
2007-05-14 22:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Manda Bear 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did u accept all this time to go on with a guy who break up with u to date another girl? Didn't u mention that he loves her? That he's always off with u because of her? Because of the same girl?
I think he'll never get over her.
2007-05-14 22:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably still has some feelings for her. You don't just end a long term relationship and lose your feelings immediately. Give him some time. Better yet, give him a picture of you to put in there.
2007-05-14 22:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when i broke up with my ex, i CLEANSED my apartment. while i couldn't remove her from my mind, i threw everything away. pictures, notes, deleted all emails. everything. that is the only way to truly move on--at least superficially. if he was truly done with her, he wouldn't have left any of her remains out in the open.
he's thinking of her when he's ****ing you.
2007-05-14 22:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On and off, and on and off, and on and off, and on and off. Do you women never learn?!?!?!?!?!?!? Outrageous, no 6
2007-05-14 22:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by TJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋