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i am in a fwb situation and am very much confused... im starting to ask questions ( that's what my partner told me) he told me that i do have expectations already...which i know am not because from the start i knew i dont have any to expect from him...our being "fwb" is top secret... nobody knows that we see each other ( at least 1 a month)..i tried to talk to him about ending what " we have "(not the freindship' cause we have been freinds long before).. but he didnt like the idea... he wants usto continue what we are doingn... and even to forget that we or rather i talked to him about ending the "relaltionship" i do enjoy being with him and what we do...i'm just so confused...

2007-05-14 20:38:32 · 13 answers · asked by luv_me 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It sounds like you have broken the golden rule of "Friends With Benefits" - DO NOT get attached. Or at least that is how he sees things...

A FWB relationship only works if both people want it to - as soon as one (or both) of you lose interest (or start dating someone else), then it's over. Depening on your dating style, FWB's can stop for a period of time, and then resume if both of you want it to at a later date.

If you are asking ANY questions about it - then it is over (for now, at least). This is especially true since you are both keeping this a complete secret.

2007-05-14 20:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 0 0

Ok, Well I've sorta been in this situation before. This guy i met, We had an instant attraction to each other! I thought it was going to be a one night stand.. Well it was but then the next night we went out on a date and 7 months later we were still together! I can honestly say I'm in love with this person! You never know where things can go! Also I think Carly is too young for you! I mean.. whats gonna happen when u graduate? She still has her whole high school years! I think you should def. choose Samantha! But u also have to choose what u feel is right! All i know is i went with the Hot Sex version and It was the best 7 months of my life!!! LOL (He joined the navy so thats why were not together anymore In case you were wondering LOL)

2016-05-18 05:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Greetings,

It's really strange how in today's world people now try to cover up immoral actions by giving them cute friendly names....

Friends With Benefits = Sexual immorality

Open relationship = Cheating/sexual immorality

Abortion/Family-Planning = The murder of babies

Neutralize the person = Kill the person


You've sold yourself for an idea that only uses you and your "friend". If you were really friends you would NOT use each other like this. And condoms don't stop all diseases either....go read about Human Papilloma Virus and other diseases that are easily transferred through touch (even WITH a condom). There are other cute diseases like AIDS, Chlamydia, Herpes and Syphilis out there for people who want to fool around before they're married. Not to mention also YOU getting pregnant....you think your friend would really care??? The fact that you both are horsing around this way and chancing bringing an innocent life into the world into a loveless union is pretty disrespectful and irresponsible on your parts.

Wise up and realize that dignity, respect and health is far more important than 15 minutes of smelly crotch interactions.

Don't use yourself, don't use others and don't allow others to use you. You've played right into his hands.....OF COURSE he wants to keep things going the way it is....HE'S GETTING FREE SEX WITH NO STRINGS ATTACHED. Friends don't use friends.

2007-05-14 21:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jesus S 3 · 0 0

There's nothing to be confused about: he just uses you for sex, whereas you feel something deeper for him. A FWB situation can work only if both parts are interested in having sex only (which I believe to be something a woman cannot cope with in the long run). So, before getting BADLY hurt, leave him and cut him out of your life.

2007-05-14 20:54:28 · answer #4 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0 1

oooooooooooo stop it right now. If you are having any feelings of confusion as to what you want then you ARE developing an attachment, which WILL lead to feelings which WILL break your heart.

FWB are great for guys....they have that mental disconnect - women being the nuturers, don't...we care no matter what, and it ALWAYS gets complicated.

Sure casual sex is probably great, but there are some great toys on the market to satify yourself with....and you can't fall for a battery operated boy toy.

2007-05-14 20:47:38 · answer #5 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0 1

friends with benefits. its not really a good idea if your not mature to handle the consequences. ive been in a situation like that before its fun but in the end it always ends bad.

2007-05-14 20:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by gansito 3 · 0 0

I agree with cesarsbabygirl. I think you do have feelings for him, you would not be a normal female and not have feelings for him. Unless she is really mature, and generally over 30, and has her own career, "friends with benefits" is generally bad news for a girl.

2007-05-14 20:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

oh sweety...I'm with you...Same here...

I think first, what you gotta do is being 150% honest with yourself and find out if to you, he's really just a friend or fwb and not more...
If you'll come to the conclusion, that you don't have feelings for him, have fun...^ ^...But if you find yourself actually falling for him, stop it as soon as possible, or you gonna get hurt really really bad....

Whichever it will be...you guys just really have to talk about it..

Good luck and take care!

2007-05-14 20:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by SungJa 2 · 0 1

He is using you for sex, if you are ok with that, continue having sex with him...if you are not ok with that, tell him you can only be friends with him from now on, no benefits!
To those who don't know, FWB=Friends with Benefits.

2007-05-14 20:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0 1

I'm confused, also. What is FWB??????????

Is it a gay thing, you refer to "your partner" as he, what is up with FWB?

-Confused, but nosey white chick

2007-05-14 20:43:11 · answer #10 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0 0

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