Would any of u ladies get mad if ur bf watched porn? Cuz my bf told me today that he did..and it didn't bother me and i wasn't mad at him cuz the fact that he told me the truth about it. But I think i might get mad if he was doing it behind my back and I caught him or something! But for you guys out there..what are u really thinking when u wanna watch porn? It doesn't mean ur losing interest in ur gf or anything does it? I dunno i just wanna know if it would make u girls feel bad if ur bf did that i mean i dont think he watches it all the time he said today was the first time in a loong time but he said he felt guilty after watching it...and it did make me kinda feel bad...anyways what do u think?
2007-05-14 20:32:09 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Based on my personal experince and from what i have learned, many guys masturbate just as much even if they are in relationship as they would single. Porn is just a way for guys to control their very active libido. It is a way for some guys to have variety in their lives of being with one girl, which may keep some guys from cheating. However, it doesnt mean they are less attracted to you or that they want more sex. Some guys just do it when they are bored and have nothing else to do. Some do it when they get turned on and your not there. It is a fact, that some guys can have sex 2 to 3 times a day with their girlfriend and still want to masturbate every once in a while. The best thing to do is not make him feel guilty, or he may seek it elsewhere. You should do it when your alone to if you feel the urge. Its your body so why feel guilty, same for guys too. He was doing that way before he met you, so why make him stop completely, just because you dont like him having fun alone?
2007-05-14 20:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by jasonolivo2181 5 · 31⤊ 5⤋
First, he's being honest about it. Whew! That's a big plus, and this guy could be a real keeper. I think you should discuss porn with him, different kinds of porn, perhaps even watch it with him, and decide between the two of you if porn may be used for fantasy infidelity, and if that is ok in your relationship. As long as the communication is open and honest, it sounds like the two of you can come to an agreement on porn, and whether you are comfortable if he watches it alone. A definite red flag would be if porn was a regular habit of his. Sounds like that is not the case.
2007-05-16 07:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Porn is a part of life from this point on. Even before the internet there was playboy and XXX theaters, but now the internet has made it so easily accessible that you can get it anywhere anytime. I was in a relationship years ago that ended due to porn and recently when I ran into my ex she stated that she was way over the top about hating porn and actually watches it herself now. Some people can watch it and not have it affect them, but I believe when young people see a lot of it, it may form an idea of what sex should be like to them, and let's face it, porn stars aren't concerned with how good something feels, they're just worried about getting the best shot.
2007-05-14 20:38:44 · answer #3 · answered by Macro 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Actually, It's mostly Fantasy, and Everyone's BF or GF can Fantasize whenever, Pron or Not, and you'd Never Know.
BUT:Telling the Truth about it Says a Lot!
Mad at it?
I've been known to Imitate a Favorite scene! Now isn't THAT better than a TV or Website?
If you can't Beat It(pun on purpose), Join it!
2007-05-18 02:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by wonderland.alyson 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Well, honesty is KEY in a r.ship-so that's actually pretty fantastic he's being so honest
. But I'm a girl and I guess it depends how MUCH they're watching-like once a month-no biggie, but like every day-YES that's bothersome. I know sexuality is just a part of who we are as humans, so I think it's unfair for girls to be so offended by porn b/c it's just a part of sexuality, but too much porn is just that-too much.
2007-05-14 20:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋
I can honestly say that i only look at porn cuz when i'm feeling frisky, and gf aint around, i just do it myself. As for telling her, i told her too, and she was okay with it. My gf is a plus size girl, and she thought for a while i liked the girls in porn more than her. But then i explained to her the real reason.
2007-05-15 08:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 2⤋
Well that i know of. Porn is kind of a cheap Viagra for men. While they watch it they think about how they can get their girl to do that and want to do that. Its just a forplay in their minds.. You shouldn't be mad or worried. Its actually better for you to let him watch it. WEll better for you in the sack.
2007-05-14 20:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by chriswh90 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Have you ever been to a strip club... basically the same concept, but on t.v. Try watching with him sometimes. You never know, it may bring about a side you never knew that you had, as well as help your relationship get that much better.Beyond all, what's better than honesty and a movie???
I know you wouldn't want him in the streets.?
2007-05-14 20:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by yella 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋
When I watched porn in my younger days was because I was not happy so much with my love life with my girlfriend. Doesn't mean that is the case with him though. I would not be happy with it period though. Give him more is my suggestion.
2007-05-14 20:46:46 · answer #9 · answered by Frank J 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I don't care if he watches porn, it's nt like he's getting it anywhere else, so I'm calm. But I also don't ask him what he likes to watch (porn wise) either.
2007-05-17 18:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kate M 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋