deciding to be bf and gf on the first friend date, later that same day having sex w/o protection, continuing to have sex w/ protection as dates go on, meeting each at a bar on karake day at first, and both being catholic? gf 21, lives on her own, bf 22, lives w/ his parents paying rent and a church canner (singer). what do u think of all this put together?
2007-05-14 19:32:14 · 15 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well the catholic thing kind of blows it all out of the water doesn't it......
you all aren't allowed to feed the flesh...
2007-05-14 19:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by carmen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you should repent. While its all fun and good, you mention you're both Catholic. Either repent your sins, or give up Catholicism, because you both are violating the Vatican laws. But that's a religious point of view, and I'm not very religious.
In a relationship point of view, it seems like you're taking some very big risks. Unprotected sex on the first date? Do you know him that well? There's only one way I know of that you're definitely not in danger of pregnancy, and that's if he pulled out at the last minute and ejaculated on you. And that's a very slutty thing to do. But it seems you two have some chemistry, as neither of you up and left each other after that first night. It's a weird situation, but if it works out for you, then more power to you.
2007-05-15 02:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by Niko? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the behavoiur of two children self indulging. You know the image of "a kid in a candy store". Sex is a powerful aphrodisiac for lack of judgement.
Silly without protection, diseases abound so hopefully your behaviour does not result in death. Poor child to be lumbered with such irresponsible parents if that happens.
You can be bf and gf on the first date if that is what you need to do to justify sex! But don't do it without protection. That's just stupid in todays world.
Being catholic has nothing to do with it, unless you are using that as an excuse to feel guilt and paralyse yourself into inaction or indecision. Or are you going to use it as an excuse for further rebellious and childish behaviour?
Don't you think this has to do with being adult and conscious of what you are doing. You play adult games, play by adult rules. Hopefully your behaviour does not have a bad outcome.
Are you hoping for death or a baby to force a situation you have been thinking about?
2007-05-15 02:45:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he needs to get a job, and you both need to move in together, or get married, whichever is your choice.
Neither one of you can be very catholic if you are having sex with birth control. What would the Pope say?
2007-05-15 02:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by NoLifeSigns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex on the first date is generally not a good way to ensure a long term relationship. The unprotected sex was not very smart either.
Good Luck.
2007-05-15 02:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok what we got here in most of these answers is the blind leading the blind -I got sight from Catholic Charismatics the prayer I give below it helped my life.
there is a thing called marriage-honor and respect
there is another thing here too
this is what helped me=this is a tough one
I would pray and relax in Jesus
and if it ever gets to the next level make sure its in marriage because I learned the hard way=
if involved or not this can help=
this is what helped change me=Ok lets see this-once I was living a lie but saying it was the truth
till we belong to Jesus-He said of me and all "You are of the other father, the father of lies who comes to decieve, and destroy." the Gospels
I use to be but this is what changed me= To have the greatest happiness and to honor a g/f who loves Jesus a true princess and to honor "In marriage the bed is undefiled but the others will be judged."
I had to come clean=as the Bible says in Proverbs and Psalm 103 if one repents and forsakes a sin then it is burried into the deapest sea to be remembered no more, His desire is for you to be saved and to serve the Lord till you get there too.
this is what got things right for me=this is what helped me to be able to keep the truth -and you cant lose something that is not yours. We belong to Jesus-and with this prayer-pray about getting a book at the Bible book store on this subject, true love, relationships and more.
best i can say is this works-the bible says if you search with all your heart you will find him.
Read the Gospel of John and see what God has to say, when you get to John 3 it talks about repenting and being born again to see the kingdom of heaven.
I read on till Revelation chapter 3 verses 19&20 Jesus says "I love you repent from your sins (even one lie) and ask me in to have fellowship with you and you with me." =to be your friend
I prayed, "Jesus thank you for dying for my sins, I am sorry for them, come into my heart and help me, be my friend, amen."
this helped me know who I am and gave me the courage to be the best I can be. Praying for you too, David
2007-05-15 02:40:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i'd have a problem with is the un protected sex, i wouldnt want to get pragnant pretty much by a stranger. you might get to know this guy and not like him. but you cant get rid of him if theres a baby invovled. or think about catching stds.
2007-05-15 02:37:09 · answer #7 · answered by otiscosy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds pretty good to me. Except the part about the bf living with his parents. He needs to move out so it is easier for you two to get with the lovin'. At least the gf has her own place.
2007-05-15 02:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by bigtalltom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you Filipino? Don't worry about it. Just be a nice person and be careful when having sex.
2007-05-15 02:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by Beertha 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry...but are you advertising the Idiot Convention of 2007????
Congratulations on the baby...
2007-05-15 02:37:17 · answer #10 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋