My momis really pissed that im hanging out with them. I never get into any trouble when im with them though. My mom is just worried that im going to get into trouble, which I wont. I have gotten the threat of getting the boot out of the house if I dont stop hanging out with them. But I say its up to me who I want to hang around with. Also I dont fit into any other group of people. Ive tried, but I just dont seem to fit in exactly. Give me some advice?
2007-05-14 19:23:38 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
why does everyone stereotype people like this??
2007-05-14 19:34:41 · update #1
When you only get to see your mother on visiting day in prison you will understand why she was concerned. You have a lot of growing up to do and obviously are not mature to pick your own friends. Do you have the money to hire a lawyer to defend you when you get arrested or will you look to your parents for this? Please see a counselor you need help.
2007-05-14 19:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by lcmcpa 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Think about what got them into drugs, and criminal activities. Most of the time it comes from people you know or hang out with, there will always be a situation when one of them might offer you drugs, or might get you involved on their criminal activities sometimes even unintentionally. believe me when I tell you that they did not become drug users whit out having a friend offer them their first try of whatever drug they use, and as you might already know when under the influence people can do pretty stupid things that can get them in trouble with the law. On the other hand you should realize that your parents are just worried about your well being, and yes a lot of the time they do recur to threats to see if that might help you see how serious they believe the situation has become. Just remember that weather you believe it or not your parents have been around longer than you have, and might know a little more about life and all the evil that's out there than you know. Also do know that the main reason why your parents get on your case about this things is because they love you, and they are truly worried about your well being.
2007-05-14 19:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by angelwings2093 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not judging what they do, because I don't know them, or you, but have you ever considered that you may get into some trouble by hanging out with them? You could all be hanging at someone's house watching a movie and if the police come in on a tip, trust me, you'll get hauled away too. Just being in the wrong place at the wrong time can sometimes land you with charges of being an accessory. If you don't feel like you fit in with others, maybe you feel like this crowd is your only option... Why not try to make some new friends or reconnect with some old ones who have more things in common with you? If you want to chat about this more, email me at mole423@yahoo.com, k? Hang in there!
2007-05-14 19:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by Jane D 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If any of your friends have been in trouble in the last 12 months with the law you should take notice. I had friends like that. Alot of them got what was coming to them and the rest ended up going to jail and afew of them ended up dead over money. I ended up getting my life together and got outta that lifestyle. Believe it or not you can still get into trouble even if the drugs arent yours. There are several things you dont wanna have happen to you. And im sure you dont need to get into trouble for something you didnt do or were not even there cause friends will say anything now days to make a deal.
2007-05-14 19:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by PushSucharaX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You certainly have the right to chose who you hang out with. Have you ever thought though that your parents might know something you don't? Your friends influence you. You may not be doing anything wrong but don't think that if something happens, you won't get dragged down with them. If you want a happy life, then listen to your parents and find new friends. Be with people that make you feel better every day. Look I could say what ever I want but YOU have to chose what kind of person you will be. You can fit anywhere you want if you chose to. Good Luck!
2007-05-14 19:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Vacationer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Did you know if you are with these people when they are arrested that you could go to jail, too? What if someone shoots at them and you get in the crossfire and are shot? Your family is the one that will have to foot the hospital bills, if you are lucky enough to survive it, or they will have to pay for the funeral and grieve over losing you. You should care about and love your parents enough to honor their wishes because they only want the best for you. And why in the world would you want to hang out with people like this? Do you not love yourself enough to want to be with good people who respect others instead of the criminal element?
You can fit into any group you want to but you have to have the desire to fit in with them and you have to work at it so that is just an excuse. Sounds like you will do anything you can to rebel against what your parents want (because they love you) just to be difficult and have your way.
My advice is to get some counseling and figure out why you are so stubborn :)
2007-05-14 19:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by KittyKat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey man. Your mom is just looking out for you; be grateful that she cares that much about you. When I was younger, I was also drawn to that crowd. I felt like I belonged, you know what I mean. I had never been arrested when I hung out with them so I didn't see the big deal. My parents never liked my friends. Then as I got older I began experimenting with drugs. At first it was just for fun, but later I felt like I couldn't live without them. Now that I'm clean I look back and realize what a big influence my friends were on me. I wish I would've hung out with a different crowd so I could've been spared the pain I had to go through for 3 years. So just keep in my mind that u may not be who your friends are yet, but someday you will get curious. Whatever you do stay strong and think for yourself.
2007-05-14 20:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Neysa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Remember, you are who you hang out with in other people's eyes. Although, other peoples feelings of you shouldn't matter, sometimes society has a way of classifying us into groups based on who we associate with. Just be careful and be a leader, not a follower, just because your friends get into trouble doesn't mean you have to. I would say if i had to make a choice btwn this type of friends and a roof over my head i would consider taking the roof. remember, your mom and family will always be there for you...these friends may not be.
2007-05-14 19:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by w_pooh87 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
birds of a feather flock together. You see in the future if you get any background investigation, you will have problems over this. Some people have bad family members but you cant do anything about that. However you can do something about your friends. I hung out with some bad people and some of the stuff they did was bad. If you get caught with bad people doing something bad, in many cases you will go to jail. So your parents have the right idea.
It is up to you who you hang out with, but you deciding to hang out with criminals and junkies is not a good choice, and makes you just as bad as them. Also, many times, people who consistently hang out with losers become one. So that is another reason your parents do not like it. So in the end, you have the choice to make a (bad) decision to hang out with the bad crowd, and they have the choice over who can inhabit their home.
BTW. I am now 28 and a lot of the people I hung out with are in jail and several are now dead. You will find that they never change, and you are better off not with them.
2007-05-14 19:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by michael p 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont no why ppl stario typ like that i think its awlfull doing something bad does not make them a bad person.
mabby take a deep breath i would be mad to but just fight it with love be positive be cosistent be understanding there only worried about u is how it sounds and keep ur goals in sight the best thing to happen is to get what u want and for them to be ok with it, mabby have a good friend come and meet ur parents and show them the other side ,best of luck hope this helps.
amy
2007-05-14 20:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You won't listen but here goes, I think this is the last one for tonight.
Your very young, who gives a crap that you don't fit in. There are like 4 social groups at your age, when you get older you WILL find your clique', trust me you will just wait. There are alot more cliques then stoners, jocks, smart kids, outcasts
Hanging out with thugs hooligans smartalic ******* types who only want to entertain themselves by being tards will never EVER bring you happiness. It will bring you trouble and people will judge you by your peers, sucks I know.
Wait til your in college and I bet you will be fine.
Have you ever looked around and noticed that people that have the same interests, ideas, or common ground always find each other? I mean it's like their magnetic, weird people tend to find each other =p
2007-05-14 19:31:23 · answer #11 · answered by No worries 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋