As an 18 year old college student with a part time job that pays $10.34 an hour, should I give my friend $50 dollars as a wedding gift? I heard that it was $48 a seat, and that his goal was just to break it even. After buying a ps3 for myself, I really need to save up. But as a friend I can't be a cheap scake, especially at this significant and memorable time, so what should I do? Get him back later at my wedding ceremony?
2007-05-14 18:53:59 · 14 answers · asked by JustDefend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
lol @ get him back!
Why dont you buy a gift on ebay? You can get some great things there for less than $50. If it is cash you really want to give them, then maybe ask to borrow it from a family member & pay them back at like $10 a week?
There is nothing wrong with not giving a gift hey, especially if you simply cannot afford it!
You cold always tell him you will give him his gift after his honeymoon as you have something special in mind ...take heaps of phots of the funny moments of their wedding, buy a cheap scrap book for like, $5, paste the photos in it & voila a pressy that cost you $5 for a book $2 for glue & about $10 in the photo processing ;o)
2007-05-14 19:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all - a wedding gift is NEVER required. Then again, he is your friends and you should congratulate him in some way. If they are registered, I would suggest picking something you can afford off the registry list and go with that. If not, $50 is a very nice gift as well.
The whole "break even" thing was a little shocking!! Sounds like you may not be the only "cheapscate" lol.
2007-05-15 03:51:30 · answer #2 · answered by Chrys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The norm is to buy a gift that costs the same as your meal. However, I've been to weddings where my gift was probably less than the meal was. If you give cash, you should do $50. Why not buy something off their registry instead? I definitely understand the poor student thing - $25-$30 should be fine to spend on a gift.
2007-05-15 01:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's no requirement for you to get him anything although it is nice if you can. I also wouldn't worry about trying to help him "break even." If he's kept to a reasonable budget and invited a good number of people he'll probably actually come out ahead. At my wedding the cash gifts alone (not counting the value of "actual" gifts) was double what I paid for the wedding. I understand that this might not be normal but I'm willing to bet most people break even at the very least. Don't feel pressured to give a certain based on that theory.
2007-05-14 19:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by regiven 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes of course a wedding gift is considered necessary! If you can afford to buy yourself a PS3 you can afford to give your friend a gift! But don't worry about how much the wedding costs.. that is NOT your responsibility and you have no obligation to cover the cost of your 'seat'. Give according to what you can afford.. but make it a gift, not cash.. if you put some effort into it you can probably find something nice and memorable that isn't too expensive!
It IS the thought that counts.. giving no gift means no thought! I still remember the first wedding I went to... 40 years ago. I was 11, and my cousin was getting married. I spent $1.49 on the gift.. which was 3 weeks allowance for me! It was a pretty serving plate, and the bride loved it.
Believe me... they WILL remember if you 'forget'... happy shopping :)
2007-05-14 19:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by endorable 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to give a gift but it would be a nice gesture.....hey, they are paying for your food so it wouldnt hurt to give them a gift - no matter what size.
Besides, dont buy a game or your psp within the next month and you will have $ for their gift. Instead of cash, give them a gift card.
And you have up to a year after the wedding to give them a gift - but I would recommend for you to take a gift to the wedding - if you're going.
2007-05-14 21:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Veronica 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gifts aren't necessary no, but it is a thoughtful idea, especially as you consider yourself as a friend to him. Personally I would not attend a wedding without bringing something, even gift voucher for a small amount.
2007-05-14 21:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are not necessary but it sure would be nice.You could buy something for less than $50 if you looked. A few suggestions: A nice picture frame, a photo album,vase, etc. Have fun looking.
2007-05-14 19:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by § dreamer § 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes get him a gift but it doesn't have to cost 50 dollars.
2007-05-15 02:32:25 · answer #9 · answered by tasheema22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gifts are NOT required for attending a wedding.
If you are tight on cash, you could always just get a nice card, or buy a very nice wedding photo frame for them.
You could always give them a nice one year anniversary present.
2007-05-15 02:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋