I am an 18 year old boy and I tend to hide information about a particular subject e.g biology etc from my room mate he too studies with me in the same class now my question is that is it normal for people to hide information about a topic from a fellow just out of the sense of competition so that he may not get ahead of me...i usually answer him that i don't know when he ask me about a topic although i do know about that thing where as i am very co-operative with my other juniors who ask me about anything as well as those friends who are in the same grade but in other cities
2007-05-14 17:42:55 · 5 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear confused,
The reason you asked this question is because you unconsciously know it is wrong to do this. It may be very normal for a child to do it but that's the point; it is childish! It is really no different than cheating to deny information to another who has as much right to it as you. It is dishonest. I hate this type of competition, i.e. trying to monopolize a situation, because it brings out all the worst in people.
The fact that you asked and feel some guilt about it is a sign you are maturing. A better way to compete is to give him all the help he asks for because it means he is more in need of it than you and even go out of your way to help him improve as doing it improves you too. Improves you in more ways than one. It improves your memory of the stuff you tell him about as well as improving your standing in his eyes; he will appreciate your honesty and knowledge. It will also give you a good feeling about yourself as you will come to know you are valuable to him.
It is good for ones ego to know they are appreciated and trusted for doing things right.
Good luck, good health, peace and love!
Mad Mac
2007-05-14 20:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by Mad Mac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most certainly! Everyone does it. I've done it myself at work. If I know how to work a specific software program or piece of office equipment and the girl I work with asks me for help, I've played dumb just because I don't want her to be as valuable as I am since I'm more knowledgeable about those things.
It's human nature to be competitive with someone you are basically competing against ie; a better grade or recognition that you know more, even if the person is a friend.
2007-05-14 17:53:32 · answer #2 · answered by whatchagonnado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a little insecure here and perhaps some jealousy if he gets a better grade. Always help someone who asks for it, it will always come back to you in some form or other. Do your best and if he asks for your help, you should feel good about yourself as he already feels you are smarter than he is. Be honored!!
2007-05-14 17:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by poopski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you don't like your room mate very much or are jealous of him.
Jealousy is a negative thing, and it can cause people harm.
You should learn treat him as you would anyone else, or get a new room mate.
2007-05-14 17:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
on my opinion , both of you should help each other , that if he give you information give him. and its better do not tell him that you don't know anything at all :) .
2007-05-14 17:54:46 · answer #5 · answered by MiMi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋