and his birthday used to fall sometimes on father's day and we would celebrate it. I have a wonderful husband and a great father in-law who I think of as dad now. But I get so sad on father's day how can I explain it to them after 16 yrs I would think they would understand.Would it be wrong to celebrate my dad to?
2007-05-14 17:38:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
thanks for all the wonderful answers, it really brought me to tears.....
2007-05-14 17:48:16 · update #1
In this instance I would say, follow your heart because your dad will always remain your dad in your heart of hearts!
I was an only child and a daddy's little girl, I worshiped my daddy, because he was always so kind, loving, and supportive to me, so I can relate to how you feel. It will not do
anyone any harm because you want to honor your fathers memory. Don't listen to the people that will say you should have closure after so many years, or worse still tell you that you must stop holding on to your precious memories and "move on". In other cultures ancestors are held in high esteem, and it is traditional to honor their memory for generations to come, so do not feel ashamed or out of place for keeping your father in your thoughts on his birthday, father's day, or anytime you feel a need to feel the love you once shared with him.
2007-05-14 17:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by peachiepie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they would understand that you still mourn the loss of your father...but understanding it's a day to celebrate them as well is important. I lost my father some years back as well, and I still find myself overwhelmed at times. I try to deal with this in a healthy way--not by getting depressed but by remembering the good things. If your husband understands, he could help by listening. Knowing he's in a better place and you will be w/ him again is a good way of thinking about it. Having a "period" of time during that day would be fine to take time for your dad....but be considerate because you never know when things happen...and you don't want to regret not celebrating w/ your father-in-law or husband every opportunity you have!
2007-05-14 17:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by meeshel123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to celebrate a lost loved ones special day whether it is a birthday or Father/Mothers day. Yes include Your Father in the festivities. buy him a gift that can be shared.After the celebration share his gift with your living loved ones letting them share in your happy memories of your Dad. Your Dad would have shared if he were alive.
Your Dad would be very pleased.
You are a special person.
2007-05-14 17:45:50 · answer #3 · answered by jandl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong to ever forget your dad in the first place .My dad pasted away in 1983 and I think of him every day. Yes I would celebrate for your dad on fathers day no matter what anyone else thinks, but I think you should tell your family how you feel about it and I'm sure they will understand and probably even help you through it. Good luck and allways remember dad.
2007-05-14 17:50:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's OK to continue missing him.
My daughter's mother died 10 years ago, and she still misses her quite alot.
Go ahead and celebrate his B-day, and send him a prayer telling him Happy Father's Day and tell him you love him.
There is no use explaining some things to people, they just don't get it, a'right?
After all, we only have one dad, even if a step-father is there, they can't replace papa.
Just don't get sad, OK, your father wouldn't want that, after all, you still have to live your life, but it's perfectly OK to celebrate his.
I hope you had a good Mother's Day, and remember, your father will always be with you in your heart.
2007-05-14 17:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no time limit to grief or restrictions on how many people you can love and honor at one time. Celebrate your Father any time you want. Say something special to each man you think is special on Father's day. Love is unlimited. Live your life the way you think in your heart is right and it usually is. Your Father may be gone bodily, but his love for you never ends. Father's Day, put out your favorite photo of him and if you want serve cake, too! You sound very sweet. Good luck. Belinda
2007-05-14 17:45:15 · answer #6 · answered by BELINDA B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Mom and Dad are gone and I allways think of them on Mothers Day and Fathers Day. I too get sad, I think it is great to celebrate your Dad on Fathers Day!
No one will understand the emptyness until they lose someone close.
Pray that they never have to understand.
2007-05-14 17:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by ssupertech 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The truth is the parental love of ladies will tend to bend towards dad vis- a- vis there mom and vice-verse. Even though the loss was so big and not easy to wish it away after that long period, you should know for free that there is no direct relationship between the living and the dead, and when one loses the ability for survival, you let them R.I.P, live your life to the fullest and be happy that you ve the best husband to take care of. OK.
2007-05-14 18:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would definately be ok to celebrate your dad on fathers day and his birthday. My father also died, 18 years ago now. I also get sad on his birthday and fathers day. I think it is something that we will experience forever. It's normal and ok to be sad. I think they will understand.
2007-05-14 17:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason at all for you to not celebrate your dad as well. I know that my dad died in 2004 and I still miss him so much to this day. I always call my granny to make sure someone is going up to visit his grave as I am 2000 miles away.
2007-05-14 17:43:42 · answer #10 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋